Your last mails actually confirm our idea that you are into her. Maybe you do not want to see that. That is ok. But you care to much about what she thinks if you are not into her. And bringing a girl home to spite her is a clear sign that you like her. That being said why email her and say you thought something is wrong? Why not just ask her when you see her?
emailing is stupid to talk to women. I view emailing for people who can not communicate with eachother as a last resort.
Stop asking her what is wrong. Stop going out of your way to communicate with her. Stop worrying about what she thinks or feels. She has had the upper hand on you since day 1, and she wants you to dance... and you are dancing like a monkey for her enjoyment. If she were not hot (and don't kid yourself, she is) and weighed 300 pounds you would not give a damn. You have a choice.... either realize she doesn't matter, become pathetic clingy sniveling guy or creepy stalker guy that digs through the bathroom waste basket for used tampons and strands of her hair.
That was totally unnecessary to email her about having a chat and seeing what was wrong. This is the opposite of playing it cool.
I am expecting the next update to be: "So I showed up at her work to discuss why she has been acting distant. She seemed upset and called security, they escorted me from the building but I could tell that she didn't really want me to leave. I waited in the parking lot and left 350 voicemails and rubbed one out on the hood of her car to mark my territory and express my love. Long story short, I am typing this update wearing her face skin as a mask and enjoying a lovely stew of her birth canal. I have washed each inch of her dismembered body and have made paper mache copies to mail to her parents so they know she is okay. The parts of her body that I will not eat will be salted and dried and hang from my wall. This way we will be together forever."
I can honestly say, I have never bought flowers for a girl "friend". If you do, don't send them to her work. When people start asking who they came from, it would be way too awkward and confusing for her. You have them at the apartment for her when she gets home, if you do it at all. This entire situation is why having a girl roommate sucks. If they get moody, you are still stuck living with them.....
OP has created his own drama zone. Holy cow man. You need to stop all contact immediately. No emails, no flowers, no chocolate covered strawberries. Just leave it alone. She's playing you like a fine violin.
So what exactly was the point of this thread op? You have ignored all good advice and made drama out of nothing. Hopefully she reciprocates your feelings, it's obvious you like her.
Probably on the deep web exploring her options: How do I break the lease: a) insurance fraud b) fake death c) hit man d) need sugar daddy to afford double rent e) need govt hookup to expedite trip overseas damn OP, just damn
He is either trolling, or his next attempt to show her he isn't interested in her will be a marriage proposal.
Haven't weighed in yet, because you've been doing a great job so far. I think the next step is to email her twice tomorrow, first time tell her you will be home every night for the next 2 weeks, and you want to talk. Then send another email, about 5-10 minutes later, and say 'oops, I will be home every night except Tuesday, I'm out that night' THEN, on Tuesday, take the day off 'sick', stay home and cook up a storm for her. Have a candlelight dinner prepared, fine wine, fresh flowers (don't give her the same ones as last time). As soon as she walks in, say "surprise", and take a photo of her facial expression (post it here for us so we can give further guidance). Whether or not she freaks out, just say 'I needed to talk about how you like me, but I don't like you and just want to be friends'. Place a diamond ring on the table for her to see. I think this should clear up any confusion that you've caused so far, and should help her to clearly see that you aren't interested. She'll have a good old laugh, and make your lunch again, safe in the knowledge that you are 'pals'.
You left this out in the beginning. I'm guessing unless you pull someone hotter, she'll always be in the back of your mind once that attraction has been set. It's the whole wanting what you can't have syndrome. The fact that she was buddy buddy with you, making you food and being your soul friend probably played into the whole butterflies in the stomach phase. Don't stress or deny it, man. It's easy to fall for it because we like it when other people like us or are paying attention to us. Now that she's acting different, you might think you're acting differently, as if cold water has been dumped in the fire, but women are better at this and presented more of the opportunity to practice this than I bet most men around here. She got ya. No shame in that if you rise above the petty childish competition. Again, she's in your mind dominating your thoughts and actions. I don't get why you emailed rather than texted. Texts imply a more instant response, whereas emails are things you can read, throw away, and never respond. But who cares what I think. Just remember that your actions speak louder than your thoughts and the more you pretend she doesn't have you, the more you give off that she does. Don't make it competitive. Just consider that she's testing you because she finds you interesting on some level, but it's easier for her to drop you if you fail than the other way around. Know what you want. Be more assertive about it. If you were crushing her earlier, then maybe you should nut up and say (not write, SAY) , "Hey, I don't know what's going on. I felt like we had a good thing, and I'm thinking lately that I want to spend more time with you. Maybe that's the deal with the flowers because I still like you as a roommate too. I don't want to make things weird, but let's go out tomorrow evening and give it a shot." Know what you want and ask for it. Rip that bandaid, and man up to the chance of getting rejected. At least she'll respect you more for it than the weird revenge play you're doing in response to your impersonal emails. She cooked for you. At the very least, she'll be nice about whatever she'll say, and she'll continue to be nice about it. But at most, you might have a chance to know a girl you were crushing weeks earlier a lot better. Just rip that bandaid and know that whatever happens, you were confident enough to do it, and you'll stay confident and have an apartment you like living in...friendzone or whatever. EDIT: And if she's really a wishy washy nutcase and replies something like "I'll think about it", then say "It looks like I pushed into something you're not ready yet. I'm good for starting over as cool roommates if you're game for that?" Leave yourself an out, but don't...DON'T spin circles with simulations in your mind overanalyzing every ****ing action and assuming the worst. She might not be a nutcase, but acts like what you think would be one to cover up your own insecurities. You don't know it until you confirm it.
