Both of these people are dealing with a lot. I'm not sure there is a scintilla of homophobia on the part of the father. This is way bigger than just that. This is the realization of decades of pain and deception and struggle and guilt. I wouldn't want to trade places...
The physical and mental model as two separate independent entity is wrong. The physical affects the mind and the mind affect the physical. Reality is neither just what you see physically nor what's in your mind.. it's both. A person reality is how they see the world - personal reality. Real reality is something you can't really get to at a personal level --- well, you can, but it's extremely difficult because our senses, as great as they are, are easily wrong and our mind, as advance as it is, doesn't typically process raw data, but categorize and interpret them through learnt experiences which directly shape how a person see reality. Because it's so hard to see real reality, what people often confuse with reality is what's normal to society.
I'd say it is a mental illness/imbalance, but does that matter? It doesn't really hurt anyone, and it isn't something we can or need to fix.
I doubt it is easy for either of them. Imagine if this is his only child. His only son. Basically the end of his branch of the family tree As stated in the show, he views it as a failure. Could be he failed to mold his son correctly in his mind or He failed to recognize his son's struggles and built a wall, real or imagined, from his son and his son could not come to him. There maybe some Homophobia in mind but I think it is deeper than that Societal Expectations as well. I have heard that a person who cannot have children may feel less than or as a failure even if it is through no fault of their own . Perhaps this is similar . . . . . He could equate this to having raised a criminal In his mind, He raised a 'socially unacceptable' person . . . which society/he deem as a parental failure. Basically. This Father is feeling like a failure. In his mind he is sure of it. It is his truth Just as his son is living his truth The Truth Hurts. All that said. He showed up. He was there on a national television show. Hopefully, that says alot and is promising that they could forge some kind of a relationship. I wonder what the follow up would be like. Rocket River
I don't think we have mental illnesses anymore. As long as it is not hurting anyone . . .. people let you do what you want Rocket River
Some are severe conditions that are harmful to the person and others. Personally i think a lot of us are unbalanced in some form (I know I am).
It kind of seems like cutting off your junk and pretending to be a woman is kind of defying reality. Or at least denying it. Not for long. Have you seen those people who think they are animals? There's a leopard woman who now has spots all over her body, and did something permanent to her eyes and ears. I saw on tosh a guy who insists he's a lizard, tatood himself green, had all his teeth removed, and split the end of his tongue. Their families aren't skewered for expressing disapproval about that kind of mutilation, yet. It will probably be the next one though, that we have to not only tolerate, but celebrate. It's not enough for them that they can legally do so, and can't be discriminated against for it, but you have to like and encourage this stuff too.
Lizard man will be the next Time magazine cover, and get a bravest transreptile sportsman of the year hero trophy.
By this argument, a surgical procedure to deal with a birth deformity is also denying reality. There is nothing intrinsically right or wrong in changing one's external physical features.
Why are people so irked by victim-less acts? Let them ****ing be. Call them mentally ill all you want but you have pretty much zero defense on why people should care. What? Gay people can't produce offspring? So ****ing what? Is it really that harmful to society that 10 percent of the earth's population does NOT want to reproduce when we have millions of Honey Boo Boos pumping out 5+ children?
I hope OP doesn't have HBO because they just had a Sesame Street episode about how boys and girls can dress up however they want as long as it feels right.
You're the same guy who said you preferred Nazis to Muslims. Having a black guy in charge really has done a number on some of you ****ers.
If one has a penis and literally denies having a penis, or if one does not have a vagina and believes they have a vagina, then yes I guess you can call that defying reality, or just being wrong, lying etc. "Pretending to be like a women" which for the most part means projecting a personality, dressing a certain style, and having mannerism of that reflect the majority of women, is something totally different and unrelated to reality IMO.
why did the dad agree to go on freaking dr. phil? he felt this strongly about it and was so ashamed, yet he put himself on national tv? i know someone who is transgendered and their mom, dad, siblings and friends could not have been more supportive. as someone who knew them before and after i can honestly say they are so much happier and comfortable with themselves now. i saw it first-hand. their day-to-day life is better for the decision they made so how can anyone be against that? they are not hurting anyone. body modification and the way society views its different forms is interesting. i have over 50 hours worth of tattoo work and some would say that qualifies me as mentally ill. i think people who get tons of plastic surgery are weird are there is something wrong with them...yet i have a bunch of tattoos...am i a hypocrite? yes, kind of.
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if that man was trying to pass himself off as a different race, rather than gender, he would be a pariah instead, he's celebrated
