[Advice]How should I approach this situation involving a friend?

Buy him a hooker that's fetish friendly. The whole night if you can afford it. Andrew will be a changed man the next morning. He'll probably have that ho dressing up like his anime b****es, and he'll have a whole new outlook on what he wants in life.

 

Eating beef is a real Andrew thing to do. That's why he's overweight.

 

I will never understand the fascination with anime.

 

Joining the gym sounds like the best solution. Sounds like he will gain more self confidence by doing so as well

 

If he is happy, that may just be his thing. But he should try things. If he's not trying stuff, then you can get him to do this by getting him to think it was his idea to do them.

 

I think it's important you to talk to him.

He probably doesn't realize that he's overweight and he definitely needs someone to tell him that he hasn't had any success with girls. Who WOULDN'T want their friends to tell them they are still a child? I know that most people who are socially awkward really thrive on tough, confrontational conversations in which you tell them everything that is wrong with them in your eyes.

Good luck breh!

 

Nailed it.

 

I don't think it's too late. I was in my 30s before I got help. I wasn't in as bad a spot because I'd gone back to school, gotten my degree, and started working. But I still had the negative social impact of social anxiety. The psychologist who runs the Social Anxiety Institute that I linked to before grew up in a time before social anxiety was known to be a thing, so he didn't really get any treatment until he was in his 40s or 50s. It probably is harder the older you are because as time goes by, the irrational thoughts and belief systems have had more time to really entrench themselves. But the brain is malleable and I believe social anxiety is totally reversible, no matter what age you are. The problem is with life getting past you and getting into a tough situation because of the condition. But I don't think it's ever too late to change.

Statistically though, most people who seek treatment for social anxiety are in their mid 20s. So your friend would be pretty normal if he decided to seek treatment now.

And again, with me, ADD played a big part in it. I was diagnosed with depression as a child and I've dealt with that all my life. But I think the root cause of both my depression and social anxiety was undiagnosed ADD that I haven't gotten treatment for until recently.

I think your friend should see a psychologist. I know everybody reacts differently, but for me it was a relief to know there was a reason for my problems. That it wasn't just me and that there was help out there.

 

Does he like girls?

And how does he make money?

 

No ****.

Repped.

Fat people know they are fat.

Ugly people know they are ugly.

He is well aware of the fact that he is a virgin and is socially awkward.

The BEST thing that he can do as a friend is to let awkward fat guy know that he is thinking about the fact that he is a fact, awkward loser virgin.

That will make him feel wonderful and CERTAINLY cure his social issues.... it would never backfire and cause him to be even more introverted.

 

You should definitely have a fat intervention. Have everybody talk about how deeply it hurt them when he ignored that Facebook Event and you saw him check-in at Carl's Jr 2 hours later. If people are overweight it is definitely because they are lazy, disgusting human beings with no will-power. If he tries to give you some bull**** about a thyroid condition, smash his windpipe with a broom handle and call him a 2-ton Twinkie-eating Leviathan.

I can't believe these kinds of people are employed as security guards or hold down jobs in Hollywood with the extra, appalling, sheer mass of stored fat holding their collective tracheae and internal organs in a perpetual choke-hold.

 

I kind of have the same problem as Andrew except that I: have two masters degrees and a steady job, am not overweight and play sports and look great, and I have had girlfriends in the past.

He can't worry about girls until he gets his weight under control. If he's obsessed with anime he can get obsessed with exercise. He could still easily get a fat/ugly chick if he wants one, but I wouldn't go after anything under a 7/10.

 

Studies have shown strong correlation between the two.

 

Nah. He watches p*rn.
Just fapping carefully and quietly. Gently into the night.

 

Ever tried asking Andrew if he's sad with who/what he is right now?

 

I'm sure he's aware of his problems. But, you aren't in any position to help him unless he's coming to you for help. So leave it alone.