Getting a divorce after 10 years of Marriage

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  1. tim562

    tim562 Contributing Member

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    So, the wife and I have mutually agreed on a divorce. We see things very differently and are not the same people as when we were first married (as cliche as that sounds). Any advice on how to complete the divorce, timeline, anything and everything would help. I'm looking at doing an online divorce. No kids, just dogs.
     
  2. DreamShook

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    What changed? Did she want kids and thought she could change your mind?
     
  3. KingCheetah

    KingCheetah Contributing Member

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    Delete Facebook, Hit the Gym, Lawyer Up.
     
  4. leroy

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    Very sorry to hear that. My brother went thorough something similar a few years ago. They were married for almost 13 years and just couldn't do it any more. No kids and no house. Their bills were always separate, too (which explains a lot about their relationship), though he did cover her auto insurance and car payments. They worked it all out with one attorney that specializes in the "easy" ones.

    One thing I've heard many times in the past...Do not move out. Even if it's an apartment you're renting.
     
  5. LosPollosHermanos

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    Off topic, but it's weird how we perceive time. "10 yrs ago" is just like DAMN ....but when you realize it's like 2007...idk I'm just like eh that doesn't seem like that long ago.

    Sorry to hear what you're going through. From what i've heard, don't dwell, create more (or new) bad blood, focus on yourself and get ready to put yourself back out there when you're ready.
     
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  6. R0ckets03

    R0ckets03 Contributing Member

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    Went through mine almost 3 years ago now. We were married for 10 years and together almost 20 years. Not her fault at all...I ****ed up. Didn't have any kids, two dogs and we still share their custody.

    My recommendation - get off social media for a while, find some place to volunteer and just keep yourself busy. I love to cook, so I had signed up for a whole bunch of cooking classes. My family and friends helped so much. Biggest thing is to see if you and the ex can still treat each other with respect. Why keep on hurting each other? It took a lot of effort on both our sides to do so. I had to switch lawyers and fight off bad advice to make sure that I did not keep hurting her anymore then I had already done. As did she.

    I was in a very bad place, but it does get better. All the best to you.
     
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  7. cheke64

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    How old are you?
     
  8. FTW Rockets FTW

    FTW Rockets FTW Contributing Member

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    I don't have any advise besides hope the process goes smoothly and wish you the best of luck in the future. I heard divorces cost a lot of $$$$
     
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  10. No Worries

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    Try and have the divorce mediated. This will save you and your ex a ton of money.

    Most of the divorces I am seen though have turned into siege warfare, where the only people who make out are the lawyers.

    Good luck.
     
  11. Jontro

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    i wish you the best breh. hope for a brighter future.

    reading divorce stories as a newlywed isn't fun
     
  12. ryan_98

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    sent you a pm
     
  13. moestavern19

    moestavern19 Contributing Member

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    Sorry to hear bro, hopefully both of you have reached a mutual decision that will benefit you both.
     
  14. arkoe

    arkoe Contributing Member

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    That means you're getting old.

    Good luck OP.
     
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  15. CCorn

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    Everything happens for a reason. You'll figure it out and life will be your bitch.
     
  16. LosPollosHermanos

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    I'm 25 already, now it's just countdown to 30 :(
     
  17. Deckard

    Deckard Contributing Member

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    Wow. One of my sons is 25. God, I feel old.
     
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  18. EddieWasSnubbed

    EddieWasSnubbed Contributing Member

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    I hear you. I'll be 30 in August.

    I'm getting old.

    Posting this to make Deckard feel old. I doubt he can see this part.
     
  19. the shark

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    Sorry you're going through this.
    Went through a divorce over twenty yrs ago. The one thing I can tell you is be grateful there are no kids involved.

    You'll get through this. Don't beat yourself up about this either. Be a good friend to yourself!
     
  20. Yung-T

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    Somehow figured you were 40+ for some reason, weird.
    You could almost be my son (if I were to be a father at the age of 1).
     
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