Well said...Things will get better over time so just get yourself better first then everything else will fall into place...
Since ya'll were (well 98 percent) supportive. The update is she wants to take me to dinner tomorrow to "talk about us".....
Oh poop. Don't get jerked around, my man. I can understand giving it one shot given a long history, but life is too short to be an emotional yo-yo for someone else.
Marriage is a big deal and if you aren't 100% sure (or at least 90%) I think it makes sense to step back for a moment and assess things. And because it is a huge part of your life it is even more often not just about the other person but about where you are on a lot of levels. I think it would have been better to realize that before saying "yes" to a wedding. But I also think that for a lot of woman there is an enormous amount of pressure for their response to a marriage proposal to be as perfect as the proposal and that doesn't allow for a lot of thinking time. I don't know this woman at all so I don't know if she is as terrible as people here seem to want to encourage you to believe. But you love her a great deal so she can't be all bad I would encourage you both to take a little time to think seriously about your relationship before getting back together but also before seeing anyone else. Time off from each other to work things out is NOT time to be dating other people to see if there is someone you like better.
maybe she was just getting cold feet and just overwhelmed by the moment. I hope for the best outcome for ya bro!
be wary, she may be trying to amend because she feels she doesn't have time to start another relationship. Don't 'settle'.
I hate to say it but I tend to agree...its one thing for boyfriend and girlfriends to break-up and get back together a gazillion times...but if the next step is marriage, its a little more serious...I agree there should be some time to reflect, but if she said yes, the presumption is she's already thought that through (you hope)...Good luck...
Getting dumped sucks......there is no doubt about that. Just wait it out about a month though and that will change. After you get through the initial hurt you will begin to realize that she did you a favor. Wait it out man, things will get better.
Spoiler Seriously, you probably shouldn't marry someone who isn't 100% sure she wants to marry you. 99% ain't good enough.
You need to be apart for more than a month. Don't rush in and assume things have been fixed by a simple change of heart from her last simple change of heart.
sounds sketchy. Like others have said, i certainly wouldnt jump back into anything with her. Listen to what she has to say, but no way should you pick up with being engaged again. btw, what was the reason she broke up in the first place? were you completely blindsided or where there some clues?
