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Your breakup stories (and what you learned from 'em).

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Coach AI, May 24, 2003.

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  1. Coach AI

    Coach AI Member

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    Anniversaries suck.

    I'm feeling nostalgic, been almost a year since my last one, and it's been on the mind lately.

    But mine was detailed before. Somewhere on this board. So let's hear yours. Mainly because I want to be reminded that other people went through the crap I went through. :cool:

    I've formed several theories, and I am wondering if they are true:

    1. It takes several serious relationships before you find the 'right' one. And the first one is almost always destined to fail.

    2. Age matters. A whole lot.

    3. It takes a long time before you can resume any kind of contact with the ex. And most times, you never do.

    4. The only thing that truly gets you past the last one, is the next one.

    And, possibly:

    5. 'Love' sucks.


    God, I feel like Holden.
     
    #1 Coach AI, May 24, 2003
  2. Fatty FatBastard

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    The one most heartbreaking thing I have learned with the opposite sex is....

    When she says she wants to split up,
    LET HER GO!


    Let her be the one who calls back. (and if she doesn't....F her)

    I absolutely hate that women will hold in their problems with you until it is too late.

    Be yourself, and let women go when they want. Nothing you try to do in the interim will do anything but worsen the situation.

    Sorry, but this will help if you listen.
     
    #2 Fatty FatBastard, May 24, 2003
  3. codell

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    The last time I had someone breakup with me, it went something like this:

    Her: I'm sorry Chris.

    Me: I don't understand things were going so great. What happened? Something must have happened.

    Her: It's not you, it's me.

    Me: You're giving me the "it's not you, it's me" routine? I invented "it's not you, it's me". Nobody tells me it's them not me, if it's anybody it's me.

    Her: All right, Chris, it's you.

    Me: You're *damn* right it's me.

    Her: I was just trying to...

    Me: I know what you were trying to do. Nobody does it better than me.

    Her: I'm sure you do it very well.

    Me: Yes well unfortunately you'll never get the chance to find out.
     
    #3 codell, May 24, 2003
  4. LAfadeaway33

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    She gave you the it's not you it's me routine? You invented the it's not you it's me.
     
    #4 LAfadeaway33, May 24, 2003
  5. Drewdog

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    1. VERY VERY true

    2. When you are younger 20's yes. When you hit your 30's no.

    3. VERY VERY VERY true. NEVER EVER talk to her again if things went down bad - just brings up more bad memories.

    4. Not true at all - take some time to find yourself - go out have fun.... Being single means being a little selfish and doing basically whatever the hell you feel like doing.... Its amazing.'

    5. Not true at all - Love is great with the right person. You have to try on many different types of shoes to find the right fitting pair.

    Just my 2 cents. Good luck man!! Things get better

    :D
     
    #5 Drewdog, May 24, 2003
  6. red

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    having to breakup due to religous resons sucks a$$...
     
    #6 red, May 24, 2003
  7. ima_drummer2k

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    The most important thing to remember about breaking up is if you do it, you better MEAN it. Once you do it (or have it done to you), don't look back...EVER. Keep your fricken' dignity!

    In college, my girlfriend cheated on me and I broke up with her when I found out. I didn't really want to and she knew it so she took advantage of it by turning me into a wuss. She turned it around on me etc. You know how they do it. Finally it took my friends to slap me around before I let her go for good.

    My last girlfriend broke up with me (no cheating involved) and when she did, I just said "uh...OK, see ya" and I haven't seen or heard from her since that very moment. I don't even think about her. I learned from my mistakes.

    Rokkit my friend, move on! Take it from me. That's the only way to do it. Let it go, and don't look back. You'll be happier in the end and you'll be the winner.
     
    #7 ima_drummer2k, May 24, 2003
  8. Kam

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    Was she jewish?
     
    #8 Kam, May 24, 2003
  9. Free Agent

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    What I learned to most:

    You'll always get over them...move on.
     
    #9 Free Agent, May 24, 2003
  10. London'sBurning

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    High maintenence women just aren't worth it no matter how attractive they are.
     
    #10 London'sBurning, May 24, 2003
  11. Coach AI

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    You guys rock.

    Here's the thing with the 'let her call you' tactic: She tried. She wanted to 'be friends', and for a month kept calling me acting like we could just be 'friends' right after it ended.

    I couldn't do that. So I told her it would be best if we just didn't talk for a while. She didn't like that, but hey....I couldn't deal with the crap anymore.

    Of course knowing her the way I do, I knew that saying that pretty much meant the only way we'd ever talk again was if I made the effort to let it happen.

    I wonder if that was a mistake.


    Also, something else I learned:

    6. If during any kind of argument, she brings up breaking up, no matter if its something you patch over or fix or stop arguing about....NEVER FORGET THAT. It means its been on her mind, and she's been thinking about doing just that for whatever reason.

    It'll come back when you least expect it.
     
    #11 Coach AI, May 24, 2003
  12. Drewdog

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    A - Men.
     
    #12 Drewdog, May 24, 2003
  13. red

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    nope...she's catholic. and i follow no religion. her current boyfriend converted to chrisianity for her.
     
    #13 red, May 24, 2003
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