OK, there's this girl I'm "dating." We went to 6th street Saturday nite. She has this habit of going to the restroom and talking on the phone for 15-20 minutes. Well, she goes to the restroom and leaves me waiting, only this time it was for 25 minutes. I was with another friend, so maybe I shouldn't have made a big deal about it. I did anyway. I told her "why don't you go talk to your college friends for 40 minutes" as we were leaving. Eh, she wasn't happy about it. I did apologize that nite, though I don't think she was very receptive. So anyway, she calls me at 2:45 AM last nite, and said "Hi !! Wanted to know if you wanted to have kitty and lunch." She means get our cats together. I assume everything is cool so I call her back. We are supposed to have lunch at 2, so I just called her cell and she wasn't there. A couple of things : I called at 1:45, is that too early ? Is she supposed to call me back ? What should I do if she doesn't ? I think I should blow her off. Waiting for a phone call is one of the most agonizing things in the world, wouldn't you agree ? This girl has a good heart, but is somewhat dense and misguided. Her best quality is her looks, though she's also fun to be around. What should I do guys ? ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
never mind, she called right at 2. So I guess I called early guys ? ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
You just need to chill homie. Some girls need to gossip with their friends no matter where they are. As for you calling at 1:45 I think that incident is no biggie. If she is a hottie let some things slide ------------------
Yeah, it's just I'm a sensitive and insecure guy. It sucks, but I can't change. I've always been like this. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
YOU CAN CHANGE Gr8-1!! It sounds to me like she is one of those 6th street groupies, who likes to get drunk with friends and just hang out all the time. I live in Austin as well (and go down to 6th about twice a month) so I know you know what I am talking about. Did you meet her on 6th as well? If so, I would say blow her off. Those chicks are fun to look at and all, but 75% of them are b****es. Trust me on this one. ------------------ I stole your money and I did your daughter at Texas A&M University
Drew's probably right. If she finds it so easy to leave you behind when on 'dates', it ain't gonna get any better. Rok ------------------ "Do you know what nemesis means? 'A righteous infliction of retribution manifested by an appropriate agent'. Personified, in this case, by a horrible c***: ME." - Brick Top, Snatch
gr8-1: I'm much the same way about girls. I have a hard time waiting, and am not secure about my position with them. Here's what I learned to do: 1. Never take a relationship more seriously than the other person unless you really, really want it. If she's going to treat it casually... don't let it affect you more than that. 2. If you're already having doubts... forget about it for anything more than fun. 3. If you're honest in acknowledging that looks are her best feature... look at the rest of her very carefully. I know I've lied to myself about a girl's personality because she looked good and I *wanted* her to be deep. ------------------ Clutchcity.net... source for all your Rockets, Astros, political, music, humor, and Gordita news.
A good heart is a pretty damn rare trait. In my life, I have met only 3 girls who I would consider to have truly good hearts (ie: genuinely altruistic, devoid of any selfishness at all). Unfortunately, I never dated any of them. So, if this girl really is totally pure of manner and mind, and you weren't just using the phrase "good heart" as a figure of speech to indicate she's merely "a nice girl" I would advise you to latch onto her as quickly as possible. Most people have at least some traces of selfishness in their soul. Finding someone without any such blemishes is very difficult. ------------------ All hail Fadeaway's Cyberfish -- your 2000-2001 BobFinn* Fantasy Basketball League Champions!
That's what I mean by "dating." Drew, I actually work with her. Another guy at work is "dating" her also, and it's like one of us has to give up. She's also moving in late August. Haven, you and I have very similar personalities. We're both sensitive liberals. But, to tell you the truth, if she were just a regular looking girl, I wouldn't be fawning over her. I mean I may prolly like her, but I would just blow off anything she says. In a way, this doesn't speak well of my personality, but I think it's human nature to give good-looking people the benefit of the doubt. That's a scientific fact. As for lunch today. Everything was cool, she even asked if I wanted to see a movie after lunch. I would have loved to, but I have a final in the morning. So, I was like "wanna do dinner and a movie tomorrow ?" She said sure. Here's the problem : I asked her several times if she really wanted to go. My insecurity shows again. So, instead of saying yeah sure,she was like why don't you just call me tomorrow. My reaction was "You know what, do your own thing tomorrow. I'll just see you at work on Friday." To top all this off, my care got towed in my own complex cuz I put the stoopit parking sticker on her window and parked behind her. 120 bucks. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
Well, she's not one of my favorite persons...she can be funny at times. I guess my definition of good heart is alot more broad then yours. I'll tell you this, the older I get, the less I trust people. It's true. It's damn true. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
Yeah, but if you aren't agressive (which I'm not) then you may miss out. Guys are taught to be agressive. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
You know, if you become a movie director, you can get Miss USA 1992 emailing you asking for parts in your stupid little no-budget movie. Something to think about (or not). ------------------ Why not visit MovieForums.com? Or FilmDallas.com?
fadeway -- Is she the only girl you're "dating"? If so, I would consider broadening your horizons. "Dating" more than one person not only betters your chance at meeting "the one" but also keeps you from piling all your eggs in one, admittedly attractive, basket. ------------------ Hey now, Hey now, don't Dream it's over...
Haven has the idea. Take it for what it's worth. If you want to be aggressive too, no problem. If she looks good, try to work your magic, and if you're rejected, oh well. You were in it for one thing and one thing only. Drop her, and move on to the next. ------------------ the best there is, the best there was, the best there ever will be.
Not to sound like an ass or anything, but you had a date set up with her and you blew it. If she says sure.....then you are in. You should have been happy and then started thinking of places you could have taken her for dinner or something. Once she commits to a date, there is no reason to worry about it, just go about the rest of your day feeling confident. It may be time to rent "Swingers" gr8-1, and watch it about 10 times in a row. That movie should be a bible for all men. Also, if she is dating 2 people, then she sounds like a ho to me. There are so many cool chicks in Austin (not to mention beautiful) so there is no reason to worry over this one. I was like that once, but it does nothing for you except bring you down. ------------------ I stole your money and I did your daughter at Texas A&M University
"who's the big winner here tonight?" Forget this one. Dating two guys at work, a recipe for a ho. ------------------ the best there is, the best there was, the best there ever will be.
Drewdog is right. When you're comfortable w/ yourself, your confidence will make you more attractive. Only weird manipulative people want to date insecure people. Internalize, reflect on self improvement or whatever. Unless it's specifically your world view that this girl should 'date' another guy, meet someone else. Find a peer to date. This is important, date someone that you respect and that you find attractive. Don't just date to date... unless you are just trying to get laid (which hey, is important too, but you sound as if you're looking for something a bit more meaningful).
haven: I think you wanted to "go deep" not that she "be deep." ------------------ "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak. Because someday you will have been all of these."
Thanks all. I've always wanted to be the guy that just had sex to have sex. But, I realize I'm not that kind of guy. You start to like people after awhile. I don't know how some of you guys do it. I don't blame her for dating the other guy, he's a good friend and he dated her first. I did ask her too many times, but it wasn't like I called her ten times (like Jon Favreau), we were actually watching the Sopranos together. Oh, she's alot less fun when she is sober for sure. ------------------ "norm, would you like to buy an indian scalp ? This deal isn't gonna make or break me Norm, so don't jerk me around." Harry Carey "Norm, if I had a mohawk scalp, I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you."
