Yep I need some savvy advice - dating 2 chicks at the same time

a. Honesty? HA
b. Yes. If you skip Honesty
c. Yes. If you are Honest

Thoughts? Don't be Honest.





Im lying.

 

Well technically, it's not even cheating if they live in different zip codes.

 

Ha, you're going to get BUSTED.

I cant wait to hear how this soap plays out.

 

Seriously. How can you be honest.

I can't go out with you tonight because I have to see my other girlfriend.... hello...hello....

 

Listen to Riet on this. If you have no problem lying your ass off and constantly having to keep all you lies in order, go for it.

If you're not very good at remembering your stories or think there is a chance for a future with either one of these gals, don't even start.

To quote the Oak Ridge Boys-
"Trying to love to women, is like a ball and chain"

 

DrewDog,

I have the best story EVER about a guy dating 2 girls at one time.

My roomate in college had a system that worked for like 6 months.

One girl was Monday, Wed, Friday, and the other was Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday.

He told them he had to work at night or he had class and it was working beatifully.....we had fun with it too...we used to order pizza and not tell him then tell him when the doorbell rang it was the other girl...he would freak.

Now to the meat of the story.....one day both girls where at the bar I was tending, and they were with different friends but sitting right next to each other.

They both started chatting about how great their new boyfriend was, and I was eavesdropping and laughing my ass off at the same time.

The best part is where one of them said that her boyfriend just got a new tatoo....and the other said...really...mine too....then she said he got a dolphin on his back and the other one said...MINE TOO !!!

Then they looked at me and I was grinning ear to ear....and they said the name at the same time.....both left fuming.

I could hardly catch my breath.......

To make a long story short, he ended up getting back with one of them and marrying her.....and they are happy to this day with 2 kids....but that day was one of the funniest days of my life.

DD

 

What exactly is "Dating" in this sense? Dating to me is before the we're together, u've been living under the same roof for a year, she's got cute little euphemisms for you, or she's knocked up. If "Dating" means we're in the feeling out process (physically and figuratively) then by all means date both girls and if they are both cool with each other, props to you. But some girls don't like the competition and other girls love it. Then you might be in it for a whose gunna lay u quicker if it all plays out into your hands. But honesty can work both ways.

If and whenever u do decided to drop one chick for the other can YoYao get sloppy seconds?

 

My brother actually managed to do it succesfully. He's never been a big ladies man or anything, but a couple of years ago he started dating two girls at the same time. They both knew about each other, and I think he managed to use that to his advantage. They both tried to one up the other, and this went on for quite a few months.

Eventually he decided that he really liked one of the girls better than the other so he broke up with the one he liked less. He and the other girl are now engaged.

Ain't happy endings nice...

 

imo, the only way this works is one has to be your weekend date, and the other becomes the Hump Day date. The hump day date (and it works also as your Monday thing) works best with the one who is most likely to not want to go steady. Tell her about the other, but keep her a secret from the weekend date. Date ever mix date days.

Tell the weekend girl the regular stuff like you are just dating and are not ready for a commitment, but you are always available for any weekend plans she has.

Tell the hump day girl that you have zero jealously and just think it is really rare and awesome that two mature people can date around with no jealousy. Although Wednesday dates lend extra meaning to the hump day theory, it works better on Monday night, because it is so much easier to have a standing excuse for those days to feed the one who doesn't know. Just say that you always go see Monday Night Football with the boys...she'll never try to call, or ask to go with you. hehe

This theory works reciprocally for the hump day girl--and this is the beauty of it, because I believe every girl who doesn't want a steady really does want a Monday thing--they have just never been explained the way it works. Tell her it works great for her because she is free to check out new guys each weekend and say no to them with no regrettable libido lapses leading to sleeping with a guy just because there's nothing else... because she always has the hump day guarantee early in the week to give her the strength over her libido to say "Ba-Bye" to a not-quite-what-i'm-looking-for weekend date. Once you convince her of this, it is easy to stretch this to Sunday.

imo, you have little chance of mixing two girls for the weekends. And I think one of them can't know about the other. If she finds out, no sweat, you can always keep working on finding another weekend girl while the hump day girl continues.

 

I believe this subject has been broached numerous times on various sit-coms over the years, always to disasterous results.

So unless television has lied to me all these years, it cannot be done.

 

Yes you can do it and be honest... At least for a time. One may eventually want a commitment or both. When that happens you will have to make a choice.

Just keep things casual, and say you are busy, or you have plans when you have a date with the other one. If a girl continues to ask questions then say as casually as possible that you are supposed to go out with a girl that you know. She may be upset or whatever. That's when it's time to have a talk, and set some rules for any future relationship. Either she will have to live with it, you will have to give one of them up, or she won't want to live with it and will give you up, in which case you will be down to dating one girl.

Don't lead either girl on to thinking it's more serious than it is, and enjoy it for as long as you like or are able.

 

12 replies and not one single Office Space reference?

 

and, yes, RIET...this is why I stopped following football a long time ago. Texans who can pull off dating two women at the same time for extended periods (let me reemphasize the word "periods") are either Batman Jones, Football players, or guys who learn to take advantage of lack of competition during Monday Night Football.

that's a fact, in my book.

 

Here's some sage advice I picked up at the movies.

 

A couple of things:

Any time you're feeling pretty smug, cut it out, karma is a b****. You should feel smug, but trust me, when you catch yourself smiling ... the end is near.

On that tip, rent that Rob Downey movie, "Two Girls and a Guy," that'll bring ya right down. Nobody will ever top dating Heather Graham and (yikes) the sublime Natasha Gregson Warner. Amazing.

Try to access the dementia of one George Louis Costanza.

Also, though I hate making another Seinfeld reference, the "drop-in" should be your biggest fear. Try to remove any ounce of impulsiveness from these women. Keep the lights low, and the excuses handy.

Succeed at all this, and you could last a few months. We're behind ya all the way buddy ...











(poor b*stard, doesn't know what he's getting into)

 

If morality is an issue, then the best course is to share. Now I live down South close to William Cannon, so obviously I'll take the one on Brodie.

Seriously, if you can live with not being honest, you can date both. However, you won't be able to keep it up long. I'm reasonably sure you can keep this up for at least 2 weeks, and if you're feeling lucky, a month. It's not a lot of time, but that should give you 2 dates each to feel out both girls (not literally, well, if you can, literally). Still, don't get too greedy, and know that you don't have much time to choose.

 

As long as you're not giving a false impression that you're committed to them then I don't see the problem here.