Ok heres the lowdown: Ive been dating this girl for about 1 1/2 months now and things are going pretty well Id say. Shes cute, cool to hang out with, likes music, and is not a complete psycho like my former ex's. Basically, I really like being with her. We've been out about 7 times now. Potential warning signs: 1. She hasn't paid for anything - Ok its still early I know but this girl hasnt even offered to pay for anything we have done: movies dinner, drinks, etc. (Ok she did pay for a few rounds of drinks at Ludwig's last Thursday). Maybe she's old fashioned, broke, or worse - looking for a guy (me) who has money (which I really dont). 2. She is still playing games - This may have something to do with her age (24). Im 27 and dont have time for all the jedi mind bullsh!t. I email, she doesnt call, I dont call, she emails, etc. She plays very hard to get (not that I want an STD or something but a man can only wait so long.), She tries (I think) to make me jealous by telling me of other groups of guy friends she hangs out with..... 3. She's obsessed with things - Her dog is treated like a human, she works out every day (not that I want a fatty or anything but its possible that it is a little excessive), she's always into the latest fashion trends and checks people out for fashion fo paus (sp). I like this girl but #2 kills me.
Drew, I've been married for 3 years and I have the same problems. Hopefully you'll get some good advice, because I could use it too.
She sounds immature. You might be at different stages in your lives. Hell, what do I know. I'm still single! Maybe you should check with Baqui99....
Hey! I treat Jake (and Rex) like they are humans and I work out every day! But, sadly I am not into the latest fashion trends, lol. I know that I am the last person to tell you this, since I go through this same ****, but Drew I think you are guilty of doing something that I can't help doing....overanalyzing. I have a feeling that things will work out on their own, but you got to have patience, young Drewdog knight . Easier said than done, though right? If you go out for another month or so and it still bothers you, I would talk to her about it. It is better to do that now instead of later when you may really have formed an attachment to her emotionally.
hit it, split it, lick it and quit it ok seriously, if these things are bothering you, take a step back and ask yourself if these are things that bother you to the point where you would not want a serious relationship with her.
This is one funny post . Drew, you need to post some pictures, so that our advice can be more sound. My advice will be based on how hot she is. If she looks hot, all is forgiven. If not, forget about her . Oh, I'm not shallow at all.
Yeah....post the picture for sure. That definitely affects any advice we could give you. In any case, if she's fine and the sex is smoking, put up with it and leave her when you no longer can. But if it is not all that great....pull the ejection lever...now!
1.) She's a girl. And there are too many who are like that, I think you might as well just adjust...girls who help pay for things are a dime a dozen, and those who don't aren't all that bad. 2.) This one could be a deal breaker. Gah, I used to date a girl who used to do the EXACT same thing, right down to telling me about her guy friends. Drove me absolutely nuts. 3.) Her pointing out other people's fashion sense (or lack thereof) is a little superficial, but hey, what can ya do. This situation is so eerily similar to a past one of mine, that if I didn't know this girl wasn't the same age as the one I was dating, I would've had to make sure they weren't the same person. I don't know what to tell you man. If you like the girl, try and work it out. Talk to her about number 2 and why it bothers you. Then again, I did that exact same thing to the girl I was seeing. She didn't really have a response to it...and I dumped her shortly thereafter.
I guess having an older sister has alot to do with my intense overanalyzation of every circumstance I agree that if things were meant to be than they will fall right into place. But hell if this doesnt work out, Im joining match and eharmony.com ...... fuggit
I think if she would get over point #2 then things would work out and I can see a long term relationship. I think I could live (as long as she doesnt mind hitting McDonalds when Im broke) with #1 and #3.
Guys, just something I was just thinking about...have you EVER seen a GIRL here asking for relationship advice? It's always guys...now what does that mean? a) We are more sensitive and caring. b) It's just that there are less girls among the cc.net population. c) Girls do not need relationship advice since they perfectly know all the tricks to make a guy go crazy and they just cold-bloodedly take what they want and do not care about ripping a guy's heart out, chewing it and spitting it out. d) Girls are not clever enough to use a computer. e) All of the above.
Classic in the truest sense of the word. That's awesome Jackie! C is a good answer...they got us wrapped around their fingers, but I'll go with e.
personally i've never not experienced #2, i just thought that was standard. if that's what bothers you the most and this girl seems like something special then try to work through it.
f) Since men do most of the chasing, women have plenty to pick from and don't have to go out with someone 5 times to know someone is interested in them. The key to the game is not to chase but to be chased.
All of you are chics. Does my butt look fat in these pants? - that's going to be tomorrows highlight.
no_answer, you sound kind of cool. Unfortunately, there are no pics on your homepage. Why don't you post some pictures here so that we can make you some compliments? Thanks.
You hit the nail right on the head. So true, so true. Women like a challenge and when you act like you could care less about them, they love it. And guys, when you put on your wedding band, it is an instant turn-on to every single chick. It is the fact you are not available that makes you so fascinating.
