Before I state my position (I don't want this to turn into a "give heypee advice" thread about PMS in the workplace--lol), has anyone done this or have a story to tell or even an analogy about a girlfriend? My rule was always NEVER DATE A CO-WORKER, or a Classmate, Dorm sister, fellow tenant member...basically anyone that you can't hide from should things go south. The spouse issue is different.
Done it before didn't like it ok. here we go.. ------------------ Rarely is the question asked: Guns kill squirrels than REDRUM to fools across the nation?
Ha, you can't hide from your wife! If things go south, she'll follow you to Mexico to finish you off! I've worked in the same office with my wife before, for about 4 months (before we both quit and moved to Houston). I thought it might be a problem, but it wasn't. That's partly because at the office she is very professional. She's also a very good worker, so she wasn't an embarrassment to the family or anything. I can see, however, how the experience can vary greatly depending on the nature of your spouse and the dynamics of the workplace. ------------------ RealGM Gafford Art Artisan Cakes
I'm working on a project w/ my sweetpart right now, and we're getting a lot done (she's giving me the business req./user req.). She's ultra professional, knows her stuff, and teaches me molecular biology in her spare time. Unfortunately it will only be temporary, she's planning on running away w/ the profits from the servlet/database thingey as soon as we're done. lol ------------------ When this guy started smoking 40 years ago, people had no idea it was bad for you. People had to guess based on the hacking cough, shortness of breath, and bloody phlegm girl you looks good won't you mock that draft up?! [This message has been edited by Achebe (edited June 21, 2001).]
I would say working with your spouse is okay although I am not married but have seen plenty of other married couples work together fine. But, dating(or sleeping) with your co-worker(s) is okay only if your a man. Why? Because every little detail about the woman comes out in the office place...especially if their relationship is not serious. What details? How about everything in the sex and party category? The triumphant stories abound in the workplace grapevine about the conquests of co-worker women. The sad thing is the women garner a reputation around the workplace and they don't even know it is happening. Most men just cannot keep it to themselves. Surf ------------------
My parents work together for the same company but not for the same department. They don't think it is a problem. It might be for people if they saw each other nonstop everyday. ------------------ Stevierebel
I met my wife at the workplace, worked together, same hours so we rode to and from work together, and lived together for about three years. Never once had a problem. Well, we did break up for a short time. THAT was awkward. But 15 years of marriage later, I think it all worked out. ------------------ I always thought "With my talent, it's only a matter of time before I'm discovered". Now I think "With my talent, it's only a matter of time before I'm found out".
Boy, do I know a lot about this one! My wife and I have worked together as business partners for nearly 4 years. There have been some very difficult and awkward times and some very wonderful fulfilling times. I think a lot depends on your personalities and abilities to set boundries both with each other and with your workplace environment. It isn't the easiest thing in the world and there are challenges, but I don't think we'll ever, barring some unforseen circumstance, work apart again, at least not in everything - she and I don't work on music together because she is not a musician. One thing that helps is if you can have some separate interests that give you some space. In our case, I have music, which gives her time to read and enjoy some peace and quiet while giving me time to focus on something I really love to do. I still am surprised when I talk to people who have had a spouse retire and come home and they have a hard time living together. I knew several couples that just couldn't take all the time together after years of one being gone all day. For us, it is kinda the opposite. The best part of our job is being around each other. ------------------ Things do not change; we change. - Henry David Thoreau
Depends on how big the company is to me. If you are talking Dell size, and she works in another division, then yeah Id say its Kosher. If you work in close-knit quarters like I do (about 30 peeps), it would be a risky venture. The cons definitely outweigh the pros on this one..... ------------------ I stole your money and I did your daughter at Texas A&M University
ok, so, I've been farting around for 3 mos, riding the pine, collecting the Matt Maloney pay, rolling in the Cato windfall, joking in the lockerroom like Carlos, making the most of my scoring opportunities...damn sirhangover figured me out... ...but I'm getting pretty bored talking to yous guize all the time, so I'm itching to get back into the action. Some contenders want me, but they want to make me go to way too many away games. One top contender (Macromedia...woohoo) wants me to move cities and take less than market value but promises a Title...sort of the reverse Webber problem....ya know, I expect to be a main option not just given an ego-stroking position like Shandon. Then out of the blue, my agent heyschweetie, calls me with a sweet deal in my hometown. Starter! and actually the 2nd Option next to the franchise. However, the position means I have to get her involved, give her scoring opportunities. I am a team player, don't get me wrong, but sometimes I expect too much fockass from my teammates. Give me da ball. I don't like playing with Cato. heyschweetie makes me laugh like Rogers. She is the perfect complement player. We've done plenty of pick-up freelance-style games before. But now we are going for the ring. She is the team leader away from the game. On the court, I'm more the ball hog who wants to take my team to the next level and rally my teammates to take it to the opponents. Some of my past teammates have said I'm too intense, you know, it's just a game. But most of them were bench players....journeymen. I'm pretty sure I can pass the ball to heyschweetie, without effecting our lockerroom comraderie....if you know what I mean. But I definitely have to get her involved. [This message has been edited by heypartner (edited June 21, 2001).]
HP, Trade her for some young studs and future considerations......nah seriously sounds like a great deal. Smeg ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
Well maybe the servlet/database thingy is much better in a noisey bed environment ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
heyp, out of curiosity, will heyschweetie take offense if you tell her that it might not be a good idea to work together?
or more importantly will you then be forced to leave H-town ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
would Fegan be offended if Dream went somewhere he didn't approve or took less money???? ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
Smeggy, Good question. And I did mix my metaphors between agent and teammate, so that makes your question rather difficult to answer. You sese, I share lockerroom space with my teammate. That will not change. Sorta like Mobley and Francis love relationship. If one goes, the other does, and they both lobby for each other. heyschweetie does not want me to go on long away trips, but she is willing to move to a new city. Of course, upmost in our mind is the happiness of our mascots, Mollie, ibid and Elvis. They are the ones who will suffer if we take another city's offer.
What about your other teammate and lover, how will a move impact on them and your relationship with them???? ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
as far as other teammates...well they all know it is a business. They understand that. What really matters is getting my new teammates involved. I would never tell heyschweetie that I don't think it is a good idea for me to pass her the ball. That is just not right, and can create problems. She hasn't said she doesn't want me to call the plays, yet.
get her to set screens also you should what my last reference to teammates was about???? ------------------ "The things I enjoy most, I suck at: 1) Sex: everything's fine until she makes noises." - Achebe Smegs Mock Draft
