Would you start a relationship with a girl, knowing the friendship would end?

Man I'm kind of in the same boat you are right now, I met this girl a few weeks ago and she is crazy like me. Its not even funny how much like me she is, and I hang out with her and we smoke trees and talk for like 8 hours about the stupidest **** and she's totally into it. She likes every movie and band I like, even weird and obscure ones. ****ing ridiculous, but at the same time I'm not even sure how "into her" I am besides that.

I'm just not even sure if we're like super best friends now or if there is actually something more happening. I really don't know yet... its kind of a delicate line to toe like you say, because I couldn't really see myself in anything long-term with her, nor am I really looking to be tied down right now... and I know if we end up doing anything... even if its just ****ing, **** is eventually going to weird if she gets all attached to me, so I'm just like kicking around all this **** in my head right now and I know its probably just going to be a huge disaster but wtf I'm horny and stupid so who cares.

So its like... ****, man.

 

I wrecked a really great friendship I had since high school with a girl in college when we started dating. It wasnt worth it. (especially if you're still young and stupid like I was)

If you know you're both mature enough, then its a judgement call otherwise you'll probably regret it.

 

all women are bat **** crazy. they all have malicious intent. you're gonna get screwed in the end anyway. if you get some poon out of it, then you are already ahead.

this is coming from a very happily married dudebro. I just found one of the least crazy females who's **** I am willing to put up with. Thats what a relationship really boils down to. How much of your partners **** you're willing to take.

grim facts. welcome to the rest of your life.

 

If she started dating someone, would you be jealous?

If not, then I'd recommend staying put. It seems like you value your friendship pretty highly, and asking her out will kill the relationship you have currently, regardless of her response. Either she'll reject you on the spot, causing a weirdness that will never completely go away, or you'll end up dating, eventually break up, and that would be the end of that.

On the flip side, if you hate the thought of her with someone else, then I suggest nipping it in the bud early. The whole one-sided, friend zone, unrequited love deal really sucks for both parties, and the longer you let it fester, the more it will hurt later on. You're not really "BFFs" with someone if you're holding such a big secret from them anyways.

Just my perspective.

 

Depends on how much you value her friendship. If you're willing to give that up for something you KNOW is going to be temporary, it must not be *that* great of a friendship.

Do you think she's into you anyways? Man, I don't know how it is with most people, but once someone is my friend they're my friend...for good...no getting around it. I could not imagine wanting to date one of my close male friends.

 

Disagree, we were both into each other in my case. Its just that it was awkward since it was a completely different dynamic. We had been best friends for 3 years and then to date all of a sudden was strange since it added a bunch of dynamics that we werent used to.

In my case, if we (especially me) were more mature it couldve worked out fine, but it went south eventually. Horrible idea if you're young and stupid but if both are older and more mature it can work out.

 

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As long as you don't end the relationship on a bad note. It won't kill your friendship.

 

I think its damn near impossible to have a relationship with a woman at my age and have it completely be non-sexual. I have one friend who I've known forever and thankfully thats never really been that big of an issue between us. But usually if you're friends with somebody, it is because there is no sexual tension whatsoever.

Once you foray into the world of sex with your friend, it is pretty much a given that you're either going to be A.) ****ed over by her eventually and miserable, B.) you **** her over, then she makes your life miserable, C.) You get married and you're both miserable.

Fantastic outcome either way

 

It's depressing how much truth is in this post.

Cruel world is cruel.

 

In college I had a girl that was one of my good friends, we used to party together forever, one night we got busy and it changed everything, we didn't last, and we never were friends like that again.

It was sad to end the friendship, but the laid part was damned nice....

No regrets.....lol.

DD

 

Friends come and go.

That said, I'm still good friends with a female friend from grade school yet I married a college friend ...after college.

sooooo ...don't put so much stock in the "friend" thing but let things unfold naturally and see where they take you. It never occured to me until 6-7 years later that my college friend was my true love. At the same time, I'm still good friends with a girl I've known forever and I go see her and her husband and two kids with my wife and three kids. It never was sexual. So don't make up your mind what you want to do unless you think you have to. Just go with the flow and see where it takes you. If you don't care but you can get laid pretty easily, so be it. sweet! If you DO care, just roll with it.

You don't have to make up your mind right now. ...unless she's naked in front of you. ...but if that happens, your brain will cease to operate.

 

They all end eventually as women get shrill and unfunny, and men become bigoted sports almanacs.

 

So will he, if he gets it in.

 

quit lyyyying...

 

pics or gtfo.

 

i dont get it...you know you wont marry her, there wont be any "benefits", so why exactly will you get from a relationship with her that you're not getting now??

There's no reason why people can't stay friends. If you cant it's because someone screwed the other, and if that's the case, they werent as good of a friend as you thought anyway...