Ok, I'm broke. GF wants to go to the movies, insists she'll cover it. Call me old fashioned, but I'm really uncomfortable with a woman taking the bill. Seems a little sleezy on my part to freeload off of the frail little thing (even if only for a night)... ... but on the other hand, it's very refreshing. I've had women run up $40 tabs on me on a regular basis, now this one'll actually help pull the load. So what do you guys think?
My strategy has always been to pay for the meal. Let the woman pay for ice cream afterwards if she offers. After three dates, you start splitting the tab. I'm still single tho
I think you should take the lady up on her offer. Of course, you'll then be expected to put out -- after all, she did pay for you...
My girlfriend and I split the tab pretty well everywhere. We make about the same amount of money, so there's no reason, other than tradition, to have me constantly pay for everything.
I don't want the female to pay for me. But after a relationship is established, some dates I'll cover and some will go dutch.
antisonic and rezdawg, how old are you guys? its not even an issue with me. wouldn't think twice on the offer.
Defintely. If I could go out of a hot girl and it wouldnt cost a dime, what could be better than that?
If she was loaded and I was broke then she can pay for every damn thing as far as I'm concerned. Any other scenario and I woud be a tad bit uncomfortable.
I struggled with this Think about it this way You making her suffer for your . .. unfortunate situation 1. She wants to go out 2. She wants to go out WITH YOU why deny her your company because u broke? Why deny your self? To me. . it means that the next date I'll more than make up for it General Rule: who ever Asks . . .should be prepared to pay Rocket River
To go out, you would have to go in first, I guess. Oh, and it makes me feel uncomfortable to let the girl pay. I guess I'm old-fashioned when it comes to that.
I'm shocked too -- by the fact that this is even an issue. I honestly didn't realize that there were still this many guys who felt they have to pay for everything. When I was dating (waaaaayyy back in the early nineties), my standing rule was to pay half (or at least offer to) on the first date with a guy and, if there were subsequent dates, take turns paying for them. I did this for two reasons: 1. It's fair. 2. It sent the message that I had as much stake in (and control of) the date. And it set a tone of equality for the relationship. Again, that's fair. On the few rare occasions that I did run into guys that had a real problem with me paying, I usually ended up not going out with them. I just wasn't interested in guys who were so overly fixated on traditional gender roles. I have no problem with men who like to pay frequently as a gesture of respect or chivalry. But when it becomes a pathalogical need to ALWAYS pay for EVERY date no matter how low his bank account or how much she offers to pay, then I think there are deeper issues at work.
