Interesting blog post I found... so what is the CF consensus? Fairly accurate? "You won’t find many girls that have had sexual partners uglier than themselves, but you’ll find an endless list of guys that have – in fact, there is a contingent of men that have sex with girls less attractive than themselves almost as a rule. Because men can have sex without worrying about pregnancy, social stigma, rape, less about STDs, etc., they attempt to have sex more often. This is so obvious that it might not be worth stating, but ultimately, it means there is a deficit of women for promiscuous sexual relationships. The relatively high demand for females means that women have more and better sexual options. Men will usually sleep with women that are between 1 and 3 points lower than themselves on a 10-point scale, which means that women are usually sleeping with men that are 1 to 3 points higher than themselves. Men may get laid more often, or at least, have sex with a larger number of partners; but women get to sleep with men of higher quality, in other words, men that are "out of their league." I often wonder how much this affects girls’ self-perception. Do women know this, and high-five each other after sleeping with guys far more attractive than themselves, realizing all the while that they will someday end up marrying a guy that is much less attractive than what they've experienced until he came along? Or are they unaware of the above-described phenomenon, and conclude that their sexual exploits accurately reflect their options for a spouse, only to be disappointed later in life?" http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/08/women-get-to-play-out-of-their-league.html
I don't agree. In fact it's usually the opposite. You hardly see a very good looking guy with an ugly girl. While it's true that a guy will fck almost anything that moves a woman will also, given other factors. Do you think Mick Jagger is good looking? Definitely not but he's rich and famous. If you rank a person (man or woman) based not just on looks but intelligence, income, social status, etc... I think in general you will that couples will have similar scores and are compatible.
I have been with girls waaaaay better looking than me. I have also been with a swamp donkey or 2 that I am ashamed of. Alcohol and dry spells do funny things to people.
Both will have sex with someone uglier than them. Women are more willing to date an uglier guy, than the other way around.
I don't think women care. When it comes time to settle down, looks are not anywhere close to their #1 priority. Good looks always help but it's a skewed factor. I saw a show on attraction where they "rated" people (using their method which they tried to be scientific about it). They then randomly asked more people how good looking they were but also presented some basic demographics like age, job title, income, etc. The guys who were 7-10's dropped by 3-5 points if they listed as a store clerk earning 30k. And if they were a 3-4 but added a title of an advertising executive earning 400k, suddenly they turned into solid 7's. Without any demographics, they found that 10's attract 10's and 3's attract 3's. Works in both directions.
I mostly hook up with girls that are less attractive than me but will only date girls that are out of my league. I think it's the same for men and women.
If a woman wants sex, she can easily get a more attractive mate to sleep with because most guys are down for sex. If a woman wants a serious relationship, that's a different story because those more attractive guys that were willing to sleep down aren't as willing to date down. The inability to understand this creates unrealistic expectations for women and is one reason why some of them have trouble settling down. Just cuz you can screw Ryan Gosling doesn't mean you can marry him.
Also--I understand why NBA players all wear fake glasses. Whenever I wear my glasses I can get women 2 points higher than normal. Opinions?
Relationships? Yeah you find someone at least on par with yourself. But for sex? I'm all over the spectrum. Like I've said before, the only thing better than quality **** is different ****.
I don't think they're even using the same measuring stick, so no correlation can be established. Men are primarily judging on looks. Women are judging on money and power. A guy can evaluate a couple and say the woman could do better than that ugly dude, while a woman can look at the same couple and say a guy with that much money can draw a prettier girl.
Fact might be true in high school and college, but once you reach adult hood, I think there are only 3 levels. First being the ugly, fat, poor. Third is the ultra attractive and very wealthy. Second is everyone else. A guy who in HS or college could only maybe get a 5 or 6 at best who now has a good job and takes care of himself can get those 8s. Oh, and if you're religious, you can get chicks way hotter than you. Meet them in church and there are no leagues.
Girls in their lifetimes will shoot up and down the ladder with much more variability than guys. As a guy you sort of are what you are and that's your career. Muscles too take time to build up. Looks take like 1-2 bad years to tear down, and then it's over for a woman. Lesson learned: don't marry for looks, you (the guy) will be disappointed.
Hmm interesting. I am currently trying to date a guy who I think is out of my league.. I will report back with the results. Funny thing is, he think Im out of his..
I do agree with the guy who said girls will take all factors into account when determining a guys 'score'.. most men only care about looks.. as much as they claim otherwise
