http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26317942/?GT1=43001 Found this lengthy article on a trend in younger guys, and how a lot of us don't aspire for bigger things and commitments with women because we want to hang on to our party lifestyles and wasteful habits. Interesting read, and funny Houston's Midtown is mentioned in the first page.
Things I do that make me an inhabitant of Guyland: 1) I work a job considered by most to be "unconvential" with off-hours 2) I never commit in relationships 3) I am a sports nut 4) I dabble in the vidjuh games 5) I do not plan on getting married til I'm in my 30s Things I do that don't make me an inhabitant of Guyland: 1) I am responsible with my finances 2) I take care of myself (exercise, diet, limited alcohol, don't smoke) 3) My homemaking skills are good (clean, organized, decent cook) 4) I live independently of family, friends, etc 5) I am disciplined and industrious in my work habits (early to bed, early to rise, etc)
I think a lot of this has to do with the way the role of women has changed in the workplace and in society. If you watch the first vid, it makes a good point that men are a little more confused by women now that they, dare I say it, do more guy like things. As a young twenty something professional, I have clear direction of where I want to be in 10 years, how I need to get there, and how much I need to save, etc. My job is not dead end, but I do party and go out to Midtown, Rice, Downtown areas. I USED to be that guy that was super nice, and wanted a long term relationship, and treated women with as much respect as I could, etc. But over time, mainly due to the women that I've run into over my high school and college years, I said screw it. Got me nowhere. I do not think that this is entirely "guy's" faults, as the article seems to attest.
I agree with this. I was 'lost' for years. Sometimes I wonder if I still am. I'm in my early 30's and would fit in with a lot of what was written, but for entirely different reasons. That article, despite some really good and interesting points, felt awfully blaming to me: So because we don't want to work a typical 9-5 job that we may or may not hate or get married and have kids when we don't want to we're somehow a bunch of immature screw-ups who refuse to grow up? Please.
It took me 10+ years to finally figure out that I wasn't in college anymore. It was quite the epiphany when it happened, but looking back, I'm glad it did because I couldn't be happier now.
There is more than one way to be happy in this world. Yes, one should support onesself. But to pidgeonhole that EVERYONE must be working 9-5 in an office by age X, marry or at least be in a committed relationship by age Y and have kids by age Z, sounds like a recipe for unhappiness. What if you don't meet someone you want to marry at 25 or God forbid 30. What if you still love football at 40. If you are a square peg and the world tried to knock you into a round hole with a hammer...some important parts of you are gonna be shaved off.
Agreed It seems we have come to a point where we can tell young girls. . they can be anything and do anything but still want to stick every guy in their 1950's mode it is a pay off . . . it ain't right .. it ain't fair but To get something . . .you lose something As we have become more free well . .that means Free to NOT marry . . Free to NOT do all those 'traditional' things folx seem to think we *should* do Rocket River BE FREE YOUNG MAN . . BE FREE!!
The guy sounds like a douche that never did any partying in college. Instead, he spent all his time in the library ensuring his GPA was perfect. He wasted the best years of his life, and he is blaming all the guys that didn't want to hang out with him for being a douchebag. So he goes to these schools and bugs the crap out of college kids for any information about their social lives at the same time twisting their words to make it seem like they are lost and misguided when it sounds like most of them are just enjoying life day by day.
And women are growing up? The 28yr olds who watch Laguna Beach and read celeb gossip? More women work now ey? Paleeez, they spend their time on perezhilton.com and use their lunch breaks to text. They used a midtown reference? Great, then I am sure they know about the cougars pretending to be in their 20s. The fake t***, face surgery, etc... whatever
You know that feeling you get right when you see a big nasty cockroach? I get that feeling everytime one of your posts pop up in a thread.
