Serious inquiry. I mean I know people and what not just hear me out I play basketball a lot and play with a bunch of the same people and mesh well with them on the court, but couldn't see myself hanging out with them outside of that. I can envision hanging out with some people on here, but I would want to play basketball a lot more than others on the board, I think. Ok so, I went a get together last night with some of my fiancee's friends. I said what's up to everyone then proceeded to watch Fight Club in its entirety in the living room. Granted, I was blazed and i love Fight Club, but I didn't talk to anybody. It's not that I'm shy it's that I can't pretend to be interested in their inside law school jokes/humor. I played with their dog during commercial breaks (Just an example not the jist of the dilemma) Do I have to laugh at other peoples jokes(I can't fake laugh)? Do I have to initiate conversation? Should I not say "that's what she said" to strangers? Do I have to pretend to be interested in what people are saying? I'm not shy and I'm not a debbie downer, but unless something piques my interest I don't talk. I usually make weird observations under my breath and people laugh, but it's like an awkward laugh or a should I be laughing at this laugh. Why can't I find a friend who is witty and facade-less with the same interests as me? You know a sarcastic yet honest person who lives their life in the moment? I hate when people talk on subjects they are ignorant about because I don't. I hate when people go on and on about the future, too. Life is too short to worry about something 6 months from now. Exceptions, of course People have said "oh yeah, Jacob he's cool", people say what's up Jacob? and I don't know them Am I a friend elitist? Am I looking for myself out there? Why the hell am I the living "I love you man"?
Just make sure you're alert and paying attention to those people around you. A simple "Yo, what up?" or a "Hey, how are you?" to a non-friend can make them friends forever before you know it. Notice what annoys them and what doesn't. Be on your toes to offer help to someone. And... .... wait a minute... what's your REP count now?
I know how you feel, my only legit friends who I can count on are my girlfriend, and a few cousins my age. Plus one guy who's been fading in and out of my life. I just can't seem to find someone I like here at college and it's really making me homesick...
how long have you been with you fiancee? sometimes, people spend so much time with their SO that they disregard their other friends or don't feel the need to make new ones. they get too comfortable with each other.
I pay attention always. Sometimes I say what's up sometimes I don't. I don't care what annoys people when it's unreasonable. I'm up to 18 senor swoly will you be my friend?
10 years, but I don't spend that much time with her these days(she's really busy with law school and a job) I was gonna mention that as a possibility. I'm not a good small talker...... I find it awkward and I say something off the wall or something completely inappropriate for small talk and I guess it throws people off and they go away.
It sounds to me like the problem is that you just don't like people very much. I'm not sure if there's a solution to that. It's good that you have a life partner so you're not totally lonely.
My family is...........whoa. I'm the only non-racist person in my family besides my mom and 1 cousin who is a complete sell out
I know how you feel. I've had a handful of friends for a while now, most of which I don't consider to be real friends anymore for various reasons. It's disappointing, since I thought I had my friend situation in hand, then to have them either leave town, cut ties, or become back-stabbing dicks. Don't feel too bad... it's just as hard to find real friends as it is to find the one, I think.
I don't dislike people in general and am very slow to anger. It's just hard finding someone to relate to in a deep sense. I'm not selfish either so I don't know how to end this merry go round. My fiancee is cool as shiet, but she can't play ball with me or pwn some noobs on CoDx
My only true friends are from college and HS and all of them live in Cali (still talk to them on AIM/Facebook on a regular basis, some more than others obviously). Recently moved to Houston and don't really know anybody. There are a couple of people at work I hang out with occasionally but not all the time.
Do you live in the dorms? If so, get involved in things you like to do. Tho the majority of people I met at the dorms was through smoking pot, after a certain point you smoke with them on a daily basis and become super close. No homo.
Sure. I'll be your friend, sir. You didn't need to ask me, sir. I'm already your friend. In fact, I consider friends even those whom I annoy .
I know how you feel. I always been the same way. I've been at UT Austin four years and I could only count on one hand the friends I have made there. It makes me homesick since all other close friends are back at home while my girlfriend is at A&M. I've tried to make some friends but for the most part I have sucked at doing so. I tried joining organizations and that only worked for a bit. I don't know what is it about me.
True. The last real friend I had was a member on here who went to my high school. He'd play ball(he wasn't very good) just stayed on the defensive end and allowed no lay ups lol. We meshed well. I even stepped up his popularity level in high school when we started hanging out(since I am handsome and was on varsity bball for 3 years) not because I talked to people. We took a trip out west on 30 dollars between 2 cars and made it to Las Vegas with 1 car. Great times. He ended up stabbing me in the spine with some imming with my now fiancee about me having girls on the side that I was messing around with. My girl being the badass chick that she is copied the text and showed it to me. I kicked him out of my moms house as soon as I was shown that. I was messing with other girls, but it had nothing to do with him.
i dont see how people dont make friends in college. I can almost guarantee you 95% that if you approach a girl after class and make small talk and just mention "hey do you wanna make a study group with some folks" or "do you wanna hangout sometime on campus" its almost certain they'll say yes. never been rejected, college people are so friendly
