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When to say "I love you"

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by DallasThomas, Sep 19, 2003.

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  1. DallasThomas

    DallasThomas Member

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    Okay, so maybe I wanna do a combo thread in this one....

    First of all, I know many of you have been in relationships before, and I know you've come across the quandary of: When is the right time to say "I love you." I mean, you don't want it to be premature, yet you don't want it to go unsaid any longer than it could/should have been. So I'm asking; what developmental point in your relationship was the point where you decided to say I love you?

    And then as a side note, I've come to a conclusion that I've reached a point in my relationship where this is a good idea....


    I love you Meghan!



    I know it's a bit f-ed up, but people make wedding proposals on the big-screen at halftime, so I can't see how a bbs is a worse profession of love. I know you're gonna read this, so let this be my shy way of finally saying it on this level...to make it easier for me to actually say it verbally.

    But yes, I love you Meghan. That's how it is now, I can't help it anymore.
     
    #1 DallasThomas, Sep 19, 2003
  2. CRC

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    Nice! :)

    Now where is Meggoleggo? ... Just wake her up & tell her to check the BBS. ;)
     
    #2 CRC, Sep 19, 2003
  3. codell

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    Well... that's a big move, DT. Are you confident in the ''I love you'' return?

    Cuz if you don't get that return... that's a pretty big matzah ball hanging out there.
     
    #3 codell, Sep 19, 2003
  4. GreenVegan76

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    LOL

    The first time I said I love you was when I was 16. And it wasn't too cool:

    ME: I, uh, (cough), you, um...
    HER: What?
    ME: Uh, I went to the doctor and he said, uh, I might be, uh, falling in love with you.
    HER: Huh?

    I'm a real Don Juan. :cool:
     
    #4 GreenVegan76, Sep 19, 2003
  5. DallasThomas

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    Thanks codell, your input really means a lot to me on this one...So, to answer that, I'll say that it doesn't matter whether or not I get any return...the topic that reigns above and beyond all else is that I love her, so regardless of her reciprocation, it still means that I'm gonna have to say "I love you." One way or another...and pretty soon too.

    Might as well be now.
     
    #5 DallasThomas, Sep 19, 2003
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  6. Dubious

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    Say it when you feel it. Say it today. Say it often.
     
    #6 Dubious, Sep 19, 2003
  7. Manny Ramirez

    Manny Ramirez The Music Man

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    Ah, Dallas, I am getting overklempfed here!
     
    #7 Manny Ramirez, Sep 19, 2003
  8. A-Train

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    I've learned something too, that platonic love CAN exist between two grown men!
     
    #8 A-Train, Sep 19, 2003
  9. GreenVegan76

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    Dude, that's the best advice I've heard in a long, long time. I'm gonna call my wife right now! :)
     
    #9 GreenVegan76, Sep 19, 2003
  10. LeGrouper

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    I've found that "You're Fly", "You're b****in'", and "You're really swell" also work well as signs of affection. Also when you are parting each others' company say "Keep it real" at the end of your conversation.

    If you really like the girl slip in a really fast and interconnected "GirlIwannabangya" in between your normal conversational words every now and then.

    Oh yeah, and I usually say "I love you" after rounding second base, that is if I do actually love the girl. I have found that to be a good time, she just let you fondle her wonderland so it would be nice to commit your devotion to her verbally...that is if you do actually love her. Otherwise you just got some free cookies.
     
    #10 LeGrouper, Sep 19, 2003
  11. no_answer

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    I used to suck at saying I love you, but now i'm a lot more cool with saying it. Feeling forced to say it annoys me.
     
    #11 no_answer, Sep 19, 2003
  12. rockbox

    rockbox Around before clutchcity.com

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    You tell a girl you love her when it feels natural.

    It took me about three weeks to say it to my wife and month to figure out she was the one I was going to marry. We moved in together after 2 months and got married after a year. We've been married six years. When its the right girl, there are no doubts.
     
    #12 rockbox, Sep 19, 2003
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    Just make sure she's not deaf in the one ear your saying it into because then you might misinterpret her non-reply(cause she didn't hear it) as rejection only to find out later she can't hear in that ear and have to say it again in the other ear only to be rejected again...or something. (Costanza) ;)
     
    #13 Surfguy, Sep 19, 2003
  14. LeGrouper

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    I have also found that holding a Sig .357 also helps response time and has a positive influence on responses.
     
    #14 LeGrouper, Sep 19, 2003
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    When you feel that you really love a girl say it to her. If it feels real, and only say it if you really mean it.
     
    #15 arno_ed, Sep 19, 2003
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    As long as you know they'll say it back (and mean it), it doesn't really matter when you say it.
     
    #16 DieHard Rocket, Sep 19, 2003
  17. LeGrouper

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    As long as you know they'll say it back?

    It is better in fact if you don't know if they'll say it back, and it shouldn't be a stipulation for them to also say it, for you to say it. It takes brass balls to be in love. And don't get mad or sad if they don't respond immediately. You aren't saying "I love you if you love me" You are saying "I love you"
     
    #17 LeGrouper, Sep 19, 2003
  18. MoBalls

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    I have learned that you only should say this if you really mean it. I have told other girls in the past this and I never really meant it. I was just young and stupid. It was'nt until I really fell in love, that I started to think this. Say it if you mean it or else shut up.
     
    #18 MoBalls, Sep 19, 2003
  19. Rane

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    I didnt see that one coming at all. That is too funny.
     
    #19 Rane, Sep 19, 2003
  20. bamaslammer

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    Never! Well, not at least until things get serious. But to do it early is to invite destruction of your dignity.
     
    #20 bamaslammer, Sep 19, 2003
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