I'm not the type of guy to start threads by any means, but i think this one calls out for me to do so, and to seek your advice.....Either way, i know that several of these threads pop up from time to time, but i thought i would do it cause it may be a bit different to the other threads similar to this.... Anyway, there is this girl at work whom i became friends with just over a month ago. We became good friends pretty quickly and we speak and email each other every day....the emails started pretty short, you know with just saying hello and stuff, but they have grown to huge emails talkin bout everything. Anyway, just last week or so, we started speakin on the phone, and on net, and we pretty much spent the whole week together (in person, on phone or net.) We spoke on the phone for like 4 hours and i think that phone bill will cost me ALOT!!!! I know it seems like a short time, but its hard to explain the amount of time we talk to each other, whether at work or away..... What i dont know, is whether this girl likes me or not in a more-than-a-friend sorta thing. I know its been just over a month but i really really really like this girl. Everything about her: the way she looks, the way she acts, the things she does.....everything! I cant stop thinkin about this girl.....its driving me crazy!!!!! Now, i dont want to jeopardise our friendship but i dont know wat to do: Should i let her know how i feel about her, or should i just keep it to myself. Normally i wouldnt hesitate, cause i would just let the girl know im interested, but this girl is different. For some reason, i just cant put my self thru that... Help me!!! What do i do?!!?!? I cant take it any longer......
You'll never know if you never talk to her about it... If she says its "friends" then at least you'll know... and she could always warm up to you in that way. She may just be waiting for you to notice.
btw - I don't know your age, or marital desires or dislikes... but that's similar to the way I was with my wife.... we met, a month later were great "buddies"... I told her, she said, "thought you'd never notice" dated 11 months got married 7 1/2 years and 2 kids later, we're still best buddies.
I'm 22, and i dont know bout marriage just yet, but who knows eh. I guess i have to find the right person. Which leads me to this girl...She has all the qualities i look for in a girl plus more.... But i guess what you say is true...I guess never find out unless i talk to her about it. And your story is pretty cool. That is amazing....I guess i just need the courage to speak with her about it. We work in same team and they have put us together (as if everyone else can notice) for some tasks.... And i guess i would like to remain friends if she doesnt feel same way. Also my boss has told me of a possible job opening in another department, which anythin were to go not the way i liked, i could accept....but still.....
You have to hurry up and make the move dude. Take it from a moron who played it way too conservative and ended up in the dreaded Friend Zone.
you tell her right away how you feel because otherwise, its just going to be painful. if you really want to make sure if she likes you then a good test is to disappear for a while, "play sick", sometimes she may want you more after it
I was 22 when I met my wife (she was 19), and I was definitely NOT looking to get hitched. But I found the right person. Hmmmmmmm..... parallel universe?
If you've spent that kind of time together over the last week and if she doesn't think you're gay, you're already in. Further, you're probably insulting her by not feeling out the next step. If she's focused on you enough to spend all week in person, on mail and on the phone with you, it's a pretty clear signal. Don't get cute with nyquil's trick. Just tell her how you feel. Sounds to me like she's probably waiting for it.
I agree with those who told you to go ahead and tell her how you feel. However, I would make sure that your company does not forbid dating co-workers (if she says yes to dating you). Some companies frown on that type of thing and as much as you like this girl, is it worth risking your job?
Beware! Don't dip your pen in the company inkwell!!! It's usually more trouble than it is worth!!!! I have several friends who have been fired/laid off/let go after starting and then ending office romances. This chick isn't your boss' secretary is she???? Just my $.02...carry on.....
My sister met her boyfriend through work, and they dated behind ppl's backs for a long time, cuz the guy was up for a promotion, and the policy was you couldn't date people you were in charge of.... so just be prepared for that. Check into the company policy about stuff like that. I say go for it.
Go for it dude. She wouldn't do all those things if she didn't like you. And even if it doesn't work out in the end, the closure is worth it too.
