[Virginity] Play the waiting game or give it up ASAP?

not hispanic?

 

Do you buy a car without test driving it?

 

Do whatever you believe. Don't give in easily just to get rid of it, but there will be a point when your concience will tell you that there is no way that having sex with person x will be wrong. At that time, then go for it. If it is after you are married then great, if not then also great.

 

Well, if you are taking that route, hope to find someone that is also a virgin. Otherwise, it will mess with your mind that you waited all your life to be with this one girl...and she has already had sex with at least one other person.

It may be easy to say that you will marry a virgin as well, but those are becoming few and far between, specially if you are going to marry at the age of 25+.

 

Ahahaha (I can laugh I got close to 50% in me... I think)

You can save it. But don't expect to find someone from the opposite sex that is saving it up and is also a normal human being. So you can save it. But will the one you give it to? And does that matter?

 

Were you home schooled? Do you live in a dungeon ? Maybe an isolated island or dessert?

 

I'm a virgin too.















































Not by choice

 

I am not gonna try to convince you one way or the other. I am 37 and have never been married...and I have had a decent (more than 10, less than 20) number of sex partners (most of them girlfriends, some I dated for a few weeks, all the way up to one I dated for four years.)

My advice is 1) Don't marry someone in order to get to have sex with them. Hormones are strong things, and they can convince you that a relationship has forever potential when maybe it just has horizontal potential. I don't know if religion plays a role in your decision, but I don't think God would consider getting married mostly to get to have sex with someone any more moral than having sex outside of marriage. So if you can wait to have sex, and still wait until you are financially and emotionally ready to start a family. Then you can make this decision work for you.

2) If you find someone you are considering marrying and you aren't going to have sex. TALK about sex, figure out what you imagine you would like and dislike and what you are willing to try, Depending on your beliefs you might engage in some pre marital foreplay. The reason for this is, some people are not sexually compatable. There are a couple women who I have made love to who I couldn't please and couldn't please me. It wasn't lack of caring or anything love could have made better. They just didn't like what I liked and I didn't like what they liked.

It's not the most common path you have chosen..but I hope it works out for you.

 

I think virginity is the state of being pure and innocent. In my youth, I dated women (at a catholic university in san antonio, which i will not name) that would only engage with me in oral sex because they wanted to remain "virgins". Those type of people i do not respect.
Unfortunately for me, I ended up falling for those girls. GRRR!

what was the question again?

 

I believe that waiting for the right person is more important than waiting for marriage. You'll just be in for a giant let-down on your wedding night if you rushed into it just for sex.

 

I understand...but, keep this in mind. Im not sure if you've been in any serious relationships...when you do find that special someone, you end up getting more possessive than you initially thought you would have gotten. Previously, you may not have cared if they had past sexual partners, but then you'll find yourself making love to this girl and wondering why in the world she was sharing the same thing with other random dudes.

 

If you take sex seriously (I do), then you definitely shouldn't be going out and getting laid just for the sake of getting laid. I never jump straight into bed with someone... I just personally think it's a bad idea. It's not what I want to do. But for me, it's just something that naturally comes up after awhile in any relationship... the desire is there (if it isn't there's a problem), and it just kinda happens. I find it usually takes 3-4 months before it happens with me.

I would be a little concerned about waiting all the way until marriage, though. And that's not at all because "I just wanna have fun and be wild right now." That ain't it at all. What I get concerned about is the possibility of not being particularly sexually compatible with someone. Seriously... how terrible would it be to be stuck with bad sex for the rest of your life? And it does happen. I can honestly say there were times when I just wasn't satisfied. I would never wanna get stuck in that situation, so I don't favor waiting until marriage.

Then again, I think it's great some people have that view. After all, even bad sex is better than no sex... if you have no basis for comparison, even bad sex might seem good to you, so you might not get pissed off that you got stuck with bad sex for life. That's something to think about, I suppose.

 

I was a virgin until 21 and a firm believer in waiting until marriage but that was until I found what I believe to be the one girl I was going to be with for the rest of my life. At that point it seemed like something we just needed to get over with so it didn't cloud our judgment.

 

The good news:
If you're intending on building a meaningful relationship with a woman based on love, life path, and commitment, your abstinence is a good path for that.

The bad news:
If you build the above relationship, get married, and then discover that you and your spouse are polar opposites sexually, you are in for a very very difficult time in your relationship. In fact, I would doubt that most relationships would survive such a difficulty.

I would recommend that you have sex with a woan after you've been together in a committed relationship for a short while. If you slip with the chick too early, it's not as meaningful. If you wait too long, it's more difficult to leave the relationship if you're not sexually compatible.

And, of course, always be responsible when having sex (use birth control).

 

This always confused me. I don't understand how ANYONE can sit there with a straight face and say "well it's not really a big deal... we didn't have sex, I just sucked his dick."

...what? Seriously, there's a reason it's called "oral SEX."