For the past few days, I have been training a new hire assistant. She is in the last year of college getting her finance degree. Very nice and very competent at doing her job which is basically coordinating my appts. and working the files, & organization- set hrs. 10-2pm part-time...(I'm on lunch now btw) I have been getting some flack from other co-workers saying they wish they had a "secretary", bla- bla - although her title is NOT secretary... If I had to describe her features, it would be average build, with above average face, blond hair-mid 20's? ...I bring this up because you know where this is going ... So today, earlier, my delivery guy comes in (when she is away) and says something to the effect of he wouldn't want to work with someone so close if he was married with two kids (she shares my office-but an open area) ...tbh, it didn't bother me, but it kinda pissed me off a little after the fact... Hopefully this will kinda stop. Please give me your take on this. there will be no pics btw, but srsly...now it has me thinking...did I set off weird signals to the other workers? strange- it is a new position so maybe there is something to that...thanks
Well, it is pretty cliche for a person to sleep with his secretary or assistant, so it's the sort of direction most people's mind goes when the assistant is even the least bit attractive. Unless your wife is the jealous type, I wouldn't worry about it.
Maybe they I'm assuming translated you hiring her bc of her good looks maybe....which sub consciously is prob. a factor whether you know it consciously, or not is another story. Who cares seems like your in the position to have help, so be it, be a man, accept your duty, you hired her. Her job, however if you're married, should not be you trying to "throw signals" "mixed" or not...that means cut out the flirting, which, also could be the "mixed sigs" they translated...I don't know. Let her do her job which is "secretary" "help" whatever
You're in denial. You want to have a secret love affair, because it is exciting and fun, but you can't. It's good to be King. p.s. I don't condone it. I'm merely stating a little perspective.
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