I humbly submit myself to the board for their opinion on this rather odd situation: I attend my friend's get-together 2 weeks ago and run into a vague acquiantance from Rice. I ask her to dinner. We go to dinner and I find out the following facts about her: 1) Very liberal politically 2) Is anti-war, plans on voting for Tony Sanchez, and is stand-offishly pro-choice 3) Vegetarian (I have not eaten a vegetable in years) 4) About to start medical school (big debt but 8 years from now big potential upside) 5) She is attractive The dinner went well, we had good conversation, although I had to side-step many political hot buttons with her repeatedly so that I could maintain my calm. Well that was last Thursday. I hadn't called her back yet, since I wasn't sure we were a good match (based on characterisitics 1-4 above). Well, she calls my cell phone tonight and wants to go out on another date. It caught me a little off guard. If you were me, what would you do?
Opposites attract don't they? If I were you I'd do it... Worst case scenario, you wind up with fun and passionate arguments.
1-4 doesn't really matter do you like HER is she nice? do you want to see her again? if yes, see her again just my .02
Dude, if you are going to let a little thing like ideology get in the way. . . Seriously, I don't know what to tell you. I can tell you that there are plenty of happy couples with different political views. It all depends on what you want. Is she just another girl or are you already starting to think about long term stuff. If you two are into eachother, it wouldn't hurt to see where it goes. Also, some of your views could rub off on her and hopefully some of hers on you. . .
was that really your dinner conversation. poor poor Typical Rice Boy and let me get this straight...you are gauging the 8yrs-out monetary upside of a political debate dinner date before you've gauged the real upside. talk to us later after you've messed up that Rice girls hair and asked her if her mommy laid out her panties for the date.
Actually, you'd be surprised at what you get out of relationships. Most times, the things we THINK we don't need and want are actually EXACTLY what we need and want. Hmmmmm... Paging Dr. Freud!
I know you hate me, but here's my advice...or my story: When I met RM95's Girl, it seemed that she was the Adolf Hitler to my Bill Clinton. I mean, I liked her (un-politically, as a person), but she was way too conservative for me. Well, we got along great and we started seeing each other all the time. I kept thinking, as things progresed, that I was with someone way too conservative for me, and that it wouldn't work out long term. Well, we've been together nearly 2 years. Not only have I loved every second with her, I've found that her beliefs were much more moderate than I gave credit for. Moral? If you had a good time with her...keep it up. Just because she seems to have beliefs that are 180 degrees from your's doesn't mean she's a bad person, nor does it mean it's neceassarily true.
Liberal, anti-war, pro-choice and vegetarian? Hell, I want her phone number. I think she may be my long-lost sister!
Based on what I've read from you on this BBS, you should pretend to be someone else rather than yourself.
George, Go for it. There's nothing like a wife and kids to bestow a little humility and broaden your definition of self interest. You need this. On the political issue, maybe you'll turn each other into moderates. If not, here's some advice by one who's sort of been there: It's OK to talk politics and even argue, but never let it get personal or use use emotional tactics. Otherwise, it's couch time. By the way, I married someone smarter than me (and it definitely sounds like this woman is smarter than you) and it's a lot of work, but well worth it. Good luck.
I wouldn't worry about the Tony Sanchez issue for sure. He's not even a real democrat, and he cares nothing about the Mexican-Americans in Texas.
TJ, I know how you feel. I am thinking about maybe asking this one girl that I know but not all that well. Ask yourself these questions: 1) How many times have you had (or will in the future) have a girl ask YOU out for a date? Granted, I don't get out like a Rockets Pimp or anybody like that, but I think that is definitely a good thing, don't you? 2) What else would you be doing on Saturday night or whenever she wants to go out? Reading and posting "CASE CLOSED" on this board?? If you answered yes to that, then you MUST go out with her again. Eventually, you may have to address some of the differences the 2 of you have, but I would only do that if I knew things were getting serious. I doubt it is serious after 1 date. Good luck.
Trader Jorge, I would give it up...she just doesn't sound right for you. However, she sounds great for me. Please forward me her phone number. If it works, there will be a bottle of single malt scotch in it for you! Seriously, open yourself up for love. Don't base it on her political beliefs. She might be the one, and if you are driven apart by your polar opposite political beliefs, you might realize too late that she was the one. Take a chance on love. It's the only way you can succeed.
Maybe it'll be good for you...she'll change you, mold you, bring you over from the Dark Side! (With halfhearted apologies to all you Republicans out there. )
Dont' Worry TJ If she becomes a physician she will: 1.) Become more conservative politically 2.) Never Vote Democrat Again in her life
