I run with a pretty large crew out here in SF, think about 25 or so people. Well, there's about 5-6 of them that are unemployed, yet still go out regularly and have the rest of us pick up chunks of their tabs at dinner, pay for the cab rides, and buy them drinks at the bar. And it's not just the guys either, as the girls are equally guilty. Some of them have been out of work for almost a year now. Now, I'm not a total jerk, and certainly wouldn't mind helping out for the short term. Hell, you never know when the shoe's going to be on the other foot. But while I'm busting my ass at work, these idiots are doing a half-hearted job search, applying to only about 4-5 openings a week. Granted, the job market in the Bay Area isn't great right now, but you can bet your ass I'd be on indeed.com, carpet bombing resumes like crazy if I got laid off. These people still think they can be choosy after being out of work for months on end. Anyway, I go out fairly regularly - typically 3-4 times a week. San Francisco ain't a cheap place, and all these extra cab fares and large bar tabs are starting to add up. Up to this point, I haven't raised the issue to any of them, but is it time I say something? Maybe something like, "hey, if you don't have the funds then maybe you could try staying in once in awhile instead of bumming drinks off everyone else."
I don't understand why everyone says the job market is so dead right now. Google will pay you 79k a year just to sit on your ass at home!
I can't stand people that do this. There's this one chick that runs in the same circle of friends I hang with. Every where we go, she never has any money, but orders the most expensive stuff. (All you can eat Lobster, Kobe Beef, Etc.) When we go to the bar, she's always the one wasted and never pays a dime. The next day she complains about never doing it again because the place we go to uses cheap liquor. Yes, this is after downing 8 shots and having 7 different mix drinks on our tab. / rant
Try forgetting your wallet one day yall are going out. This will force someone else to bring up the subject without making you look bad.
I hope that even if the shoe IS on the other foot, that the person wearing that shoe (you) won't be doing the same thing. It would be a shame if I were to lose my job, but even if I did, I wouldn't be going out and expecting Baqui to pay for my stuff. No, times aren't hard when you're partying and bumming off friends. When you invite other peeps to the party or bar, and they ask later why they didn't get invited to the party, say politely or in your own way: "Well... darn, man, I'm sorry... I wouldn't want to invite you since I know you don't have a job and thought you wouldn't want to be imposing, since we pay for a big part of the tab when you guys can't." EDIT: ^ I know that sounds harsh, but it can't be tough to explain to these bum friends how they can't be expecting you to pay all the time. The fact of the matter is that these bums have it easy (no job, but still partying) and won't leave it unless you stop them from doing this. I will NOT invite peeps without jobs to bars. No way.
While they are jack offs for pulling that kind of crap, y'all are stupid for allowing it. My tab, your tab. I pay mine, you pay yours. If you don't have money, tough ****. Don't go out. I'm all for buying a round or a drink for someone but that is my choice. There are plenty of times where I just pick up the tab but once again, that is my choice. If you continue paying for people when you don't want to you only have one person to blame and that is yourself.
Sounds way too familiar. Although the lobster and kobe beef is even more ridiculous. They don't even offer to pick up a round. They just assume that another drink is coming their way. I'm going to buy them PBR in a can next time. F that.
Um how do you apply? I would definitely say something to them. Drinking is not something important especially for something 3-4 times a week.
You've got some pretty crappy "friends." When my friends and I go out, we each open our own tabs at the bar with our own credit card. When we go to dinners, unless its a birthday dinner (where we understand we will split the bill evenly amongst all party-goers, except for the guest of honor) we split the bill evenly amongst ourselves as well. Why don't you start opening your own private tab? What kinds of "friends" are these anyways? If they get pissed about it, **** em. Who needs "friends" like that?
I've had similar circumstances, but it easy easy to fix. Get a separate tab or even pay with cash. Cash is nice because you just throw out how much you owe and say "here's mine, y'all figure out your stuff"
M'Fing this. Since I was laid off a few weeks ago, I've stopped going out altogether. It's gotten to a point that my closest friends are begging me to join them out on the town and offering to pay for my drinks/food just to hang out again. I tell them that I'll come out, but much less frequently than I used to... and thanks, but no thanks. I'll cover my own tab.
As a short term fix, pull a "leave early" You know - instead of waiting until your entire group leaves, you leave the group about 30 minutes before they're finished, pay for your own food and drink, and split. If you want to be confrontational... Talk to the people who are inviting them along to the shindig and say to them, "Hey like Fred a lot and everything, but I've been paying for his stuff for months. It's cool that you're inviting him to these get-togethers, but you're gonna need to be the one responsible for either paying for him or talking to him about taking care of himself."
Some of yall have suggested opening your own tabs. Not a bad idea. Usually the way it works is that we take turns buying rounds. And there's always a few of these chumps that didn't buy a ******* round the entire night. May have to change that and do away with rounds altogether. Guess it's just a carry over from my Austin days when a round of six Jaeger Bombs was only like $25-30. Those days are long gone.
I would not put up with this ****... And you shouldn't either. There are definitely ways around it. You can't be timid about something like this, and if you are, then it's your own fault.
that's what you call, not inviting someone out again. Honestly, after this happens twice, how can you still fall prey to that? True...people need to re-evaluate their relationships. They are confusing friends with acquaintances.
When you take turns buying rounds, you're just begging for moochers to surface. I love the idea of paying in cash that someone else brought up and saying "this takes care of me, y'all figure out the rest" This is simply brilliant.
Or, as TexasFight has stated, open a tab on your own credit card at the bar, and have only your food and drink put on it. Just don't volunteer to pay.
