Tips : Dealing with a breakup/ended relationship

why did she break up with you?

 

I was all ready to tell you everything's gonna be OK up until this.

I think it's going to be really tough to work with her. The temptation to either snipe at her or try to win her back - possibly both in the same day - seems likely to be immense. Either of those things would be, in my opinion, disastrous. If you can remain completely in control of yourself when you're around her, then I would consider that remarkable mental strength and would think you'd be able to get over her, with time, simply by admitting to yourself that you have to.

 

There there there wounded heart.

What you do is find something that will occupy alot of time. This is the perfect time to pick up wieghtlifting and cardio. Seriously, excersise releases endorphines. Go on vacation. Packpack across Central America. Just occupy yourself.

Only time is gonna heal your wounds little one.

What you don't wanna do is mope around like a little b*itch. Spend a day or to complaining to your mates but don't turn in it into a profession.

Edit: Damn skipped over the work bit. Your f*cked. The minute the new guy visits her for lunch your gonna feel like the wind has been sucked out of you.

I suggest you do what I did when me and the love of my life broke up.

I moved back to the USA. In your case move to another continent.

 

time, time, and more time.

and maybe drugs and alcohol.

and quit your job, cause you aint getting over anything if you have to see her once a week.

 

Hey! Ask a bunch of guys who spend most of their adult lives arguing about Vince Young and the 2nd amendment.

 

Totall agree. Over time, no matter what, you will feel better.

Step 2 is meeting other girls and realizing that there are other people you can feel just as good, if not better, being with.

 

Why not? Those are probably the types of guys who get dumped the most!

 

Look up Tom Leykis. If you have itunes, download his show's podcast. It's hilarious, and it will change your perspective on women. There's no "one-and only", man, women are all around you. Hope you feel better, bro.

One thing I make sure to do is just take care of yourself. Keep your place clean, dress decently, and do anything that gets your confidence flowing again.

 

2nd amendment... is that one the right to short-arms?

 

I was infatuated with a girl once.

My whole life revolved around her.


Then I suddenly realized one day she just wasn't worth it, and the thing I wanted the most for so long would be a huge let-down at this point even if I did get it.

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So, she got fat?

 

You cannot, under any circumstances, continue to work with her.

Not if you're that hung up about it, or really want to get over it.

You won't listen, of course, especially if in the back of your mind you have some hope that maybe, just maybe, it'll work out....

But if you really want to get past it and heal, you have to get away. Seeing her regularly won't help that process at all.

 

what a b****!!

 

Well I'm probably not the best at this.

The worst break-up of all was one I initiated, but it was her that "done me wrong." She didn't want to break up at all. Anyway I was extremely bitter about what had happened, and as much I tried I think it affected almost all my other relationships for years, and possibly even the one with my wife now.

That being said there was another horrible break-up that was initiated by the girl. I think I tried about everything. I initially started drinking with whichever friends I could convince to come out with me. Being around my friends really helped. That first day while drinking heavily and wondering what I could do, to get her back or get over her, or anything, I felt something in the seat on the cushion of the bar underneath my rear.

I thought to myself that it was odd that something would be poking me in the ass.

I reached down and found a printed and laminated card there. I hadn't noticed it when I sat down I guess.

Anyway the card said:

It sounds corny, but it really made me feel good, and I keep that card with me to this day. It's been about 14 years.

I'm not going to say that I never had anymore problems with it because I did. It was hard. I went through a period of temporary insanity. I decided I should try and not sleep at my own house for as long as possible. For 13 days I found friends and acquaintances then crashed on their floors, couches and spare beds.

Once I did make it back to my own apartment, I wouldn't sleep in my own bed for about 2 months. I just sacked out on the couch, and didn't sleep much.

I watched a lot of old b&w classic films, old school kung-fu movies, binge drinking, and eventually dated someone very nice. Sadly just as that was starting to go well, the girl who caused it all came back and wanted to get back together. I foolishly agreed.

Anyway those were the two worst break-ups. I obviously didn't handle them so well. But the one bright spot in all of it was hanging out with friends. I didn't mope or complain all that much when I was with them either. I just enjoyed their presence, and tried not to be a drag. My friends and that card(even though I understand it was humorous) that helped me remember to trust in some larger plan or force or God whatever you want to call it. It helped give me some perspective that there were much bigger things going on in the world, and that if I just let it happen life would take of itself.

It wasn't easy to do, and took some time, but it helped for me to think of that. I still think it's amazing coincidence that I found that card at just the moment when it made the most sense to me.

 

Yeah but that wasn't the worst of it.

OH THE ACNE.

don't even let me get started.


Its just unfortunate sometimes what happens when they hit puberty.

 

poor realjad!

I agree with whoever said pick up some new hobbies. Join a rec sports team or something at night to occupy your time so you aren't sitting at home. Chatting on Clutchfans does not count

The best way to deal with the work issue... Is to keep yourself looking confident (even though you might not feel it) and treat her just like you did before the two of you dated. One of two things will happen. She will regret the break up and tell you about it, ultimately making you feel the confidence you are faking at first. Or two it will make other women at the office appreciate the fact that you are able to handle a relationship with some maturity and maybe spark something with a rebound girl.

If none of that works, pay for Moe's Clutchfans dating service... if a girl has the Rockets in common with you, surely she's a much better person than the girl that ditched ya!

But seriously, good luck and go release some endorphins. If nothing else it will better your jumpshot!

 

There are only about 5 girls on clutchfans.

Finalsbound is the only confirmed female.

The rest could very well be lonely male posters playing out subconcious fantasies.

 

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Hobbies? hell, the only hobby you should be having right now is chasing tail...

You'll go thru the anger and depression stages, but like others have said, it takes time...Just knock out some hoodrats and all will be better...and yeah, get some better p*rn...