It's been a problem of mine recently. I didn't really think about it (ironic, I know) until an older friend of mine mentioned similar symptoms to me. Throughout the day, we both thought about the past/future often, causing mood swings and creating anxiety and stress. When we're socializing, sometimes we think so much that we don't speak or act at all (paralysis by analysis). We're indecisive. Either because we get too deep into our choices; or we end up thinking about messing up if we make the wrong choice. It's a bit weird. I've been learning how to relax/meditate when I have these problems, to be bold and instinctive in the choices I make, and to live only in the present. Has anyone else had this problem? Anyone know of relaxation techniques? Any other advice?
Clear your mind and do some Yoga. Seriously. I started doing Yoga when I started P90X and my mind is super clear and relaxed.
it goes without saying. can't imagine what it feels like after being teased going home without releasing that 'tension'.
Dude. That's funny, 'cuz throughout the day, I thought about the past and the future often... I never think about the present because it's already the past. See? There it goes... And DoN'T TeLL Me AbOuT MOOD SWINGS, MOTHER F#$(*)#$(^rrr!!!! i know MOOD SWINGS!!!! AND THIS AIN'T ONE, Beeeetch!!!! Anyway... I am not indecisive... yes I am... no, wait, I probably ain't.... or maybe I am. Crap. SH... darn it... I don't know what to think anymore. That's messed up that you thin
When we're socializing, sometimes we think so much that we don't speak or act at all (paralysis by analysis). I am afflicted with this problem too. I think it's a trait that more anxious and socially awkward people have to live with. However, around people I just click with, this is less of a problem, but I still can't convey 100% of what I want to right away like most socially 'normal' people can. The only person I can fully express myself around is, not surprisingly, my gf So I think it's almost a trait that 'filters' out for you the people you socialize with, because the people you can click with will almost always end up being a good buddy and close friend, but I think you lose opportunities this way.
The map is not the territory. Your perception is not the true reality. Read Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. It will change your life. It did mine.
revel in the fact that you're not an automaton. you actually have some critical thinking skills. you feel badly because the majority of your acquaintances don't. as time goes on, you'll realize that most people don't. eventually, you will meet others that do. you'll share a connection, you'll be pleasantly surprised. you're different, much in the same way that brad pitt is different. you'll be very attractive to those who understand and appreciate your difference. revel in it. you are one of the few.
I've had some minor issues with anxiety/stress build-up over the last couple of years. Here a few tips on how to minimize your stress level and eliminate anxious thoughts: -Work yourself to the point of physical exhaustion 3-4 days/week. Lift weights, go for a grueling jog around your neighborhood, or play pick-up basketball. -Minimize unhealthy eating habits. Avoid fast food, candy, sodas, and other snack foods. Try eating fish (you can buy a fresh Tilapia filet at the grocery store for less than $5), red meats, vegetables, salads, and pastas. Also, replace a bag of chips with an apple, orange, or banana. -Tap in to your spiritual side. Yoga, daily prayer, or any other meaningful religious traditions are very beneficial. -Lastly, don't worry about how other people perceive you. Just be yourself, and people will appreciate and find your real personality much more entertaining and intriguing. Life's too damn short to worry about other people's perceptions of you. Ultimately, it comes down to Mind, Body, and Spirit. Focus on those three things, and you'll be fine.
