Ok, So, I am coaching my 4 year old son's soccer team, and I have a dilema. There are two very undiciplined kids on my team, they are having a hard time paying attention and are distracting the rest of the kids. One of them, has two working parents (both very career oriented) and a nanny, he is just all over the place but at least in a funny sort of way. The other one.....UGH.....he is the problem......he whines like crazy, he hits, he lays on the ground and screams.......all of which I can deal with....BUT....his father comes to practices and games and caters to it.... He runs on the field going "Oh, XXXXX, it is ok...." etc.....and the kid whines some more....it is DRIVING me bonkers. The one practice his dad wasn't there, he pulled the fall on the ground and whine bit with me and I picked him up, and put him behind the goal and said "When you are done whining like a baby and want to play soccer, let me know".... He got louder for about 30 seconds and then stopped as he watched the rest of the kids playing the game, I then asked him if he was ready to stop whining and play and he was great the rest of the practice. I know it is none of my business, but it drives me NUTZ to watch his weak a$$ father buying into that crap..... He is enabling him and it is screwing up practices and games..... So, should I tell him to stop interfering, or just realize that some people are weak parents? What say you, oh wise and powerful BBS. DD
There are way too many whiney ass kids in society. When I coach baseball, I talk to them just like I do my own son. If the parents no likey, then they can talk to me.
Stick him in the pooper. No....wait..... This thread is useless without pictures. Hold it...wait.... It's summer. People suppose get horny. Oh crap....wait.... Sura faints.
I know, but what about at practice or the games, can I ask Weendaddy to not come on the field? At least he can see how real parenting works. I don't blame the kid at all, it is clearly a lack of parenting skills, he is only whining cause he gets attention and gets away with it. I do use him as an example to my kids though......"See boys, that is how NOT to act, doesn't that look silly" DD
Of course anyone would want to tell the father to change up and not be a servant to his kid, but that could result in a "are you trying to tell me how to raise my kids?" kinda thing, and that might be bad. Just let the kid b****, his parents should know better in my opinion
That there is nothing worse than a whiny kid's parents supporting that behavior. However, you can't really tell a parent how to raise their kids. They get too defensive
If we're talking about a U-15 premier team, I'd say you have to say something. Since we're talking about 4 year olds, let it go. There's not much coaching to do at this age except rudimentary skills training and the hope that they don't employ the "beehive strategy" (everyone on the field within 2' of the ball no matter where it goes on the field).
Four year old know when they are behaving and when they aren't. When you are a coach, whether your kids are 4 or 14 or 40, you have to teach some sort of discipline. This kind of behavior is tolerated and this kind is not.
who gives a damn? the weenie dad needs to raise a man, not a flower picking pansy child. aahahah but seriously, the dad has issues, and needs to be slapped. the kid is probably like that because of the dad. i see little kids are too spoiled now, and im 15. too much coddling...
i have two kids. one is 3...one is 7. i'm quite aware. i don't have this problem with my kids, for the most part. much less so with my older than my younger, for sure. but this is the first time these kids are exposed to organized sports...or organized anything for that matter, usually. they haven't started kindergarten yet. your expectations for people when they're 4, 14 and 40 are and should be wildly different.
When the kids step on the field, they are yours. You have to let the kids and the parents know who is running the show. You don't have to be a jerk about it but you still have to set boundaries.
Yes, it is the U5 league, the kids are all just about to turn 5. The funny thing is that the whiny brat, when motivated is probably the 2nd or 3rd best player on the team, when he is not whining that is....... DD
Do you have the authority to remove his kid from the team? If so, tell the father his son needs to behave himself more during practice/games in order to stay on the team. Ask if the Dad wouldn't mind you trying a few tricks to get him to mind. If the Dad is offended, screw 'em.. do what you have to do to run the team, and if they want to quit, let them.
