The Question: # of sexual partners? Do you ask it?

Most people lie.

 

If they want to tell me, fine.

I don't ask.

I don't really care about the number, either.

Unless it is super low.

I'd honestly feel a little weird dating someone if they hadn't been around the block a few times.

Regardless, they all get tested.

 

LOL now how do you broach this conversation?

"Hey sweetie, let's head down to the clinic - I want to make sure you don't lift the dirty leg ....ifyaknowwhatImean"

 

I'm 21 fixing to be 22 like in a week, so preferably I'm going to date chicks that are 20-22 yrs old. Therefore being that young I don't want to be with a chick that has been with 3-4 guys. Hell no. So yeah, I'm probably going to ask. I'm not going to date a chick who is that young and has almost as much mileage as a damn airplane.

 

I used to ask/give my number until I realized that the number was irrelevant to our relationships.

I don't even know how many girls my fiance slept with and I don't even want to know. He hasn't asked me either. We've known each other for almost 5 years. This is something that is NOT important for us. Why fret about the past? As long we're clean, then it's all good. I do get tested every year when I have my woman exams. That's so important!!

Yes, I've wondered how many girls he was with but I don't let it to bother me.

 

By the time the testing comes around a relationship has usually developed, so it's not hard.

I usually introduce them to the idea by talking about my tests, where I get it done, show them results, etc.

Its harder with some than others, but the mature ones respect the fact that someone wants to be legit about sexual health.

 

getting your partner tested is smart.

I typically ask or they tell about past relationships. I think that can give you a general range of how many partners they've had. It also lets you know more about them as a person.

 

1 partner, every 2 years, starting at 18. Anything more is unacceptable.

 

Thats a reasonable formula.

 

The past is the past. If you're not confident enough in yourself to not worry about this, it sounds more like a personal problem.

I can't remember when I lost count as to my sexual partners, but it was very shortly after high school.

 

I have a double standard here...but I dont think a girl should be sleeping around, bouncing from guy to guy. Im very confident in myself and with the girl, but I dont like the idea of a girl like that raising my children.

 

I've been with my wife for 11 years (married for almost 8 of those) and she never asked. I wouldn't have hid it from her. She told me from the beginning that she wasn't interested in knowing.

 

Its a way of knowing how they really are. Just because they are with you they aren't going to change their habits. So if you think she has been around too soon then it might be a problem. Thats if you're interested in a serious relationship, if not then who gives a damn about their past. Just gimme the V!

 

Nope, don't ask, don't tell.......it doesn't matter.

After college I had no idea anyway.



DD

 

What if a girl had a slightly wild side in her early 20's but can be a very good girlfriend later in her 20s? I can guarantee you that you will find lot of girls who had more than 2 partners per year.

I hope you're not sleeping around either cuz I hate double standards. A girl who enjoy sex is considered a w**** and a guy is considered a guy.

 

This is the dilemma Im facing...great girl, 23...I feel like her past is kind of shady, but I havent asked because I dont want to ruin anything. She has been nothing but loving and caring towards me, the most out of any girl I have ever dated (Im 29).

 

I'd never want to know. Not that I'm afraid of the number....but that then I would just be thinking about other guys drilling her.

No thanks.

 

Uh I think BrieflySpeaking's post, like 90% of the posts in this thread (and every other thread in this forum like it) reeks of a double standard. Which, naturally, implies some degree of sexist philosophy.

 

Well I'm in my early 20's so right now I'm not worried about girls changing and for sure Im not going to date older chicks but i do know that some girls change. And no I'm not the type of guy that just wants p****. I would much rather be in a serious relationship.