Many people have gone through heart tearing breakups, where they desperately feel that life is over at that point of time. The girl or guy loses interest, cheats, or gets tired of the fighting. I have found in the past that the most effective way was to pursue a "No Contact" (no communication of any form to your ex)period in order to move on/get your ex back. Now some of you will say once an ex always an ex, so why waste your time, but I am curious for those who have gone "No Contact", and had there ex begging them back, or just never hearing from them again and you moved on?
That just depends on the ex's personality and reason for break up, so it's specific to each situation. If youre asking if there's a science behind it, so you can use it to predict whether they come back or not, i would say definitely not.
Depends on the circumstance... but yeah actually. No contact is probably the most effective way to win them back.
I was more so asking for stories, but ive done it before and it worked out well. I like it because it chooses the path for you and almost puts it out of your hands.
My girlfriend dumped me, so I went "No Contact" with her... and yes, she eventually came back to me. And it only took 10 months! *sigh* Okay, but she was practically begging me to come back to her. I even rejected her the first couple times! I wasn't trying to toy with her -- by that time, I had moved on a bit and I honestly wasn't sure if I wanted to deal with her drama again. Eventually I gave in and we got back together... And then she dumped me again. THE END.
Happened to me! =D no communications and not giving a **** is the way to go. Works before the relationship too =D
If you go down the no contact road... just be careful if you run into them. I had an ex who was just a lot of hassle, had previously broken up with me a couple of times and then wanted to get back together, on the third time I just didn't answer calls/messages/emails/fb or whatever.. completely ignored her. Then about 3 months later I was at a bar with a new girl I was seeing and I run into the ex, she abuses the girl I am with(who for some reason then chucked the ****s with me) and also unloads her drink on me. Then a few weeks later we are at a mutual friends party and she has a new boyfriend, this time she gets him to try and hit me by telling him some lie that I had abused her. So if you go this road, be careful of the crazy ones!
Going no contact might work to get them back, but from my experience if you break up once you are just going to break up again. Don't waste your time. Best way to get over a breakup is to add some new notches to the belt.
I implemented the no contact rule with a woman who was seriously interested in me. She was more of a friend, but really wanted to jump my bones. It was pretty obvious. I did not succumb to the temptation. She was married with a kid and I had a GF at the time, so it was an easy decision. Cut off all contact. *BANG* She cried a bit, and called once after doing some stalker-ish research to find my family's number. Then a couple of e-mails (no response from me) and then no further contact after that. This story probably isn't relevant, really, but whatever. No contact!
No contact is the most effective way to achieve no contact and moving on. But, are you talking about no contact with the intention of contact?
I'm married and, what's this? EDIT: No, seriously. Can someone please explain this "no contact" thing? I swear, I won't bash divorcees like I've done in the past.
Separation/no-contact is a must for getting over someone. If after that time they come crawling back to you (or vice versa), you have an important decision to make. Let them back in and make yourself vulnerable all over again, or kick them to the curb now that you've gotten over them. Choose wisely.
i found that ignoring them made them wont you back, and then you come back and theyre still the same ol' biatch so you ignore them again this time for good. i run into my ex a lot because she works at the restaurant my brother manages. i dont even talk to her, i go ask for a table and she says im not givin you one till you say hello, i say "hello, may i have a table for 4" i always feel good when i ignore her, if you knew her you wouldnt think im an ass for that either.
??? So.... you break up...?.... ...and you cut off all contact with her.... ..and she goes out an f**ks a bunch of guys.... ...and then comes "crawling back" to you.... ... And you take her back?!?... No way, dude. There is no future with such a chick. Cut her loose and move on.
