here's a story for all you folks trying to figure out a woman: i have a female friend who is as independent as they come. she's ambitious, employed, got her own place, and basically does alot of stuff w/o needing or asking for approval. she's always the dominant one in relationships, including the one that's involved in this story. here's the deal, she's been dating this guy for 8 months and it's pretty serious relationship. she never allows anyone to disrespect her and this guy is no exception. she likes him alot but she's always aware of the fact that getting in too deep could be bad. here's the f*cked up part. things have been kinda rough the past month. this weekend they go to a club (i'll get straight to the point), and he's acting like a real a-hole. she couldn't take it anymore and broke up with him right there at the club. he's pissed, grabs her arm, shakes her, and bites (YES! i said bites) her on the cheek. he's arrested and taken to jail. she goes home broken-hearted and the next day we talk and talks about how she never wants anything to do with him again. the next day, she's talking to one of her girlfriends and her girlfriend informs me...she's thinking about taking him back. reason? b/c he was drunk and it's "not like him". HELLO??? HE BIT YOUR FACE!!! and here i thought there were exceptions to the rule. women =
Looks like we have a real winner here with this guy. It puzzles me why women take abusive men back into their lives. The excuse "it's not like him"... but you know it is. Otherwise, why were things so rough to begin with? Despite her exterior, this woman probably feels insecure at some level. A lot of us do. Many women are afraid no one will ever love them for who they are. If they do get something to work out, they feel that they had better stick with it. Besides, we're really attached to all the emotional stuff and affection. That's why we're such suckers for it. That's why you guys are able to use it so successfully to your advantage when you want us to take you back after you've done something you shouldn't have. If this woman is as independent as you say she is (though I thought having your own place, being employed, and making your own decisions were the rule these days, and not the exception... but maybe it's my feminist ideals talking again)... a lot of guys are intimidated by independent women. They might feel more comfortable with someone who's cute, not too deep, and makes them feel superior. Of course, the strongest and most independent women are still female inside and still want a strong guy to cuddle up to. Sometimes we wonder if that will ever happen for us. And (not unlike guys, actually) we can be hung up on people who are no good for us, and fail to see them as they really are. Good luck to your friend; I hope she doesn't let that jerk back into her life. If she does, it will only go downhill from here.
I can't tell you how many of my friends who are extremely outspoken, dominant, dont-take-no-crap-from-noone women, but have gone out with assholes and sat there and taken all his BS. And when I try to look out for them and tell them he's bad news, they get all offended about it and defend him to the death! They puzzle the crap out of me.
women are puzzling, but somewhere out there there is one that you can totally understand, yet still give you pleasant surprises every once in a while. i'm thankful i have one of those...
WTF is wrong with that woman. Dont let her make that same mistake again, especially if you consider yourself a friend at all... She needs to know, that there are better options out thre. GOD DAMN, the guy bit her. I will say this outright, if anyone ever get drunk enough that they bite girls cheeks, you have teh right to kick em in the balls, and lock em in prison... I am totally shocked. WOW... Either that woman needs counseling, or she seriously needs to open her eyes to the world outside.
The world's greatest mystery: Why women put up with men? Most women make a career out of making excuses for their less-than-perfect men. Thus, this story does not surprise me. A what if: What if she sticks to her guns and does not take him back. Three months from now, she is still looking for the next Mr. Right and she sees the ex out on a date. What will be her response? a) a fit of uncontrollable jealous rage b) non-event I suspect that men and women behave radically different, when they see an ex that they dumped out on a date. The real kicker here is that the women will be more po-ed with the woman who is the ex's date than the ex himself. More excuse making.
The cheek biter needs to be dropped like a hot potato. Period. Most women make a career out of making excuses for their less-than-perfect men. Thank God, they do. I don't want to start a new thread to tell my joke so......... Two 50 year old guys are sitting in a bar. Man 1: "I've never been married" Man 2: "I guess you've never found the perfect woman?" Man 1: "Well, yes I did" Man 2. " You did !? What happened?" Man 1. " Well, she was looking for the perfect man". Well some of us middle aged married guys find this funny. But we don't tell this one on Valentine's Day.
Unbelievable, but not unheard of...Women are wierd that way...For some reason, you always see/hear of a women ignoring the nice guy and going for the abusive, a-hole...
lol, i'd hit in a second, that's the truth. but, my girlfriend may have a problem with it. as a matter of fact, my g/f was telling how if i ever did that same thing to her, there's no way she'd still be with me. i gave a smirk and she went into this whole thing about, "What? you don't think i'd leave you?!" crap. she too thinks she strong enough to just pack and go. haven't i heard that before.
True dat. AND! they deserve what's coming after they take each other back - trips to the ER and domestic violence calls.
