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Sounds like you need to decide what you want in life. Do you want to be a "softy" that pays other people's bills? Stand up for yourself, do whats good for YOU, not someone else. There is a time to be generous and helpful to others but when you don't have a job and money is tight, that is not the time to be throwing money around like it grows on trees.

You are just going through the change from teen to adulthood. The sooner you learn about responsibility and everything that comes with being an adult, the better off you will be. Learn to confront your problems head on, don't avoid them or they will come back to bite you later on. Hope that makes sense.

Good luck to you.

 

basically, everything Finn said is exactly right...plus I'll add that most people go thru things just like that...and know that you aint the only one.

on the bright side, at least your parents waited till you were at uni before doin something like that..it is much harder on someone to handle that at a younger age (trust me on that one, I was 10)...It isnt easy at any age, but at the age you are now...you are better equipped to deal with it. Give them your love and your support and spend more of your time dealing with your problems..

Good Luck Ace...

 

Where do you go when not in school? Mom, Dad, other?

Dump the roomies now, they bring you down. Live cheap and alone, but with more freedom and self-control. Never, ever, room with anyone again. You're not made for it.

 

All of life's problems can be temporarily alleviated with an ice-cold Shiner Bock. I remember back in my junior year of college, when my GF and I broke up after like 2 years. I was in a serious rut, and even started to listen to Radiohead and sh*t. Drinking really picked up my spirits, help elevate my game, and wonder why I hadn't been single longer (although I am once again in another dead-end relationship).

 

Hey Ace. Well I am not going to say I know exactly what you are going through because I don't. But I have had some similiar experiences.

First, my parents divorced when I was 22 and that was the most life altering event I have ever had. Someone said earlier that at least they didn't divorce when you were a kid. Well, I honestly can't agree with that statement. My parents were married for over 30 years and now it's over. When I go home for the holidays I'm not really "home" as I have known it all of my life. Sometimes everything just seems so unreal, even 2 years later. My parent's divorce effected so much that I turned down a marriage proposal from my boyfriend because I was so shocked at my parent's split and seriously wondered if my marriage would do the same eventually.

For me, I had to learn that my parents were human and made mistakes, and I also had to learn that I had no choice but to accept changes that occur in my life. And trust me, that's not easy. Luckily for me, my boyfriend stuck by my side and I had friends that helped me deal with the whole situation.

The most help that I got though, was not from my friends or boyfriend, but from my sister and grandmother. I don't know if you have any siblings, but if you do, try talking to them about the divorce. It may help.

Another thing you could try is writing a letter to your parents expressing how you feel, but don't actually give it to them. That really helped me, I typed out a 6 page, single-spaced letter to my parents and stuck it in an envelope and put in a box in my closet. One day I will open it up and read it. But I definitely did not give it to my parents.

As for the roommate issue, I want you to know, that almost everyone that has shared an apartment with someone has faced the dilemma you're facing now. And when it comes down to your living arrangements (as in-do you want to live in your apartment or get evicted and live on the street?) you just have to be assertive. You have got to let your roommate know you pay or get out. Sometimes Ace, you've got to put yourself first.

As for your girl issue just be yourself. The relationships that I have had in the past bombed because either I, or the guy, was trying to be something that was not real. And that just doesn't work. But you have to like yourself first before anyone else will like you.

Hang in there Ace. Changes are always going to happen, but you have to decide how you are going to handle them. When faced with adversity you can either fight back and move forward or give up and feel sorry for yourself. No one can make that decision for you.

Good luck and I hope things work out for you. If you don't feel comfortable talking to someone, keep posting in here. Just don't give up, things will get better. I know it doesn't seem like that now, but they will. I don't know if you are a religious person, and if you aren't I apologize in advance, but I firmly believe that God never gives more than we can handle. That includes you too!

P.S. Alcohol is usually only a short-term solution to a problem, trust me on that one too, I have gone through the 12 steps. Talking=Good, Drinking=Bad.

 

alright Baqui99

How much did you get paid to place that photo?

Ace, I hope things will turn round for you, no doubt.

 

Dude, that's just f***ed up right there. How could you bear to listen to that crap!?!??!!?


Ace, a great idea to take your minds of things and release a lot of stress in a really really enjyable way is join a women's kickboxing class. That's what I did!

Well, it isn't a "women's" class, but it is about 8 women (mostly UA college girls), one other guy, and me. It's at the local YMCA, and they don't even discriminate there!!!!

It's a lot of fun, and it's great to relieve stress. But most importantly, the women are really hot when they get feisty and defensive!!!

Sorry, sorry got too carried away there.

But anyway, take it easy, and if you get bored while driving one day, drive really fast in circles on the Loop and see if the cops can catch you.

Hmm, scratch that last part.

 

Ace: you're not the guy in BIG BANG, are you?