OK since FB was wondering what happened to relationship threads and at the moment I have nothing better to do than eat peanut butter and hang out on CF.net, I actually have much better things to do but am too lazy to do them, here's a relationship thread. For those of you who read my Asia pics thread will recall I met this great woman in Sri Lanka who is half Dutch and half Surinamese and looks sort of like Vanessa Williams. Well we've been exchanging emails for the past two months, not very frequently but I'm still amazed she even emails me back considering I only met her for a few hours. Now its likely nothing will happen from this but I certainly am interested in something more coming out of this and for the sake of CF.net edification I'm bringing it up here. So what do y'all think is a super long distance relationship possible? Should I up and move to Sri Lanka? Should I drop it all together?
no, but a vacation girl is. It's great. It's like a honeymoon everytime you visit. But you can't take it seriously. You can't be jealous, and don't make ultimatums wrt any commitment. There is no commitment when you are that far away. I think one of the definitions of commitment is to NOT live that far away from each other... <font size=1>(with a nod to the people going through a shortterm long distance phase in their commitment which has a defined time to return...especially my Reservist friends who have been gone for 3 freaking years).</font>
Where she lives I would be lucky to see an actual basketball. It is somewhat made up by the fact that the place looks like this.
I think it would be extremely hard, Sishir. Especially considering that you only spent a couple of hours with her in person. You wouldn't think she is only interested in you because you represent her ticket to the US? I would imagine that you would have had to spend some significant time in person together before you could even consider a super long distance relationship like this one. And moving to Sri Lanka to be with her instead of her coming to the US would be a very bad move to make, IMO (not saying that you would do that but the thought has probably come to your mind).
Club her over the head and drag her to your home (might take some skill to get her pass the airports), that's how real man finds a wife!
The 200 miles that seperate my girlfriend and I is hard enough. I can't imagine having anything even remotely resembling a relationship if you're that far away from you significant other.
what's the point of having a g/f that you can hardly ever touch? not to mention that it'll drive you crazy when she's going out.
I don't think there is any chance of that. She works in Sri Lankan but her family lives in Holland and if she wanted to leave the Third World all she has to do is go home to Holland. Being half dutch and having lived in Suriname, Holland and Sri Lanka I'm guessing her politics are typical European and South American anti-US. While she might visit I doubt she wants to live in the country that elected GW Bush twice and invented the Big Mac.
You can't up and drop everything without having sampled from the menu yet...c'mon... Definitely visit her and have her visit, but realize its just that...Until you realize she's the one and then no Rockets for you...
