Help me out here. I just discharged from the Marine Corps and am in an environment that I am particularly not accustomed to... the college classroom. So interacting with the opposite sex in a natural setting (not a bar or club) is not something that I'm used to. So there is this girl(8/10) who sits pretty close to me in class. Depending on that day I'm sitting in a position to actually interact with her, some days I am not. But pretty much every day I have an opportunity to talk with her since we park at the same parking lot which is a good 5 minute walk. She knows I was in the Marine Corps(the professor asked if any one of us served, try to be modest about my service...maybe not in the BBS so much) She even directly asked what happened to my leg since I have a giant vertical scar running up my right leg which people usually do not ask me about. I told her straight and simple wounds from deployment so she put 1 and 1 together and figured out the rest. So now she knows a little about me and I notice that compared to the other guys in the class(small class of about 12 and every dude hits on her and makes it obvious) she will actually talk about her personal life with me. She seems to have a distaste for the "Yo Girl what up" approach which are along the line of the rest of the dudes in the class. The class is ethics and society so there is a lot of discussion. And when ever I bring up a point she always agrees with me and she always laughs and giggles at any sarcastic comment I make. I don't know what it means when a girl does this but she will often make remarks to me about some other guy in the class to me about he seems like a douche or some other negative comment. For example, we have partner assignment due at the end of the class duration. She is partnered with another guy(not by choice) so today in class they sat together. Now I never thought of myself as the jealous type but they were talking throughout the whole class even when the professor was lecturing. So at that point I thought she was just a nice girl who was really kind to everyone. So class is over and we walk together back to our cars and she says how that guy texted her(partners in a project so they had to exchange numbers) at midnight while she was watching the new Batman movie with "Hey Girl"... She said it kind of freaked her out. So that put a little relief to me. She also did not mind personal space on our walk back to our cars. She seemed to walk EXTREMELY close to me...like brushing shoulders when the sidewalk is extremely wide. But the part that really irks me is she mentioned her boyfriend in an earlier conversation few days ago. It put me down quite a bit. So at this point I do not know if she is just a really nice girl or if it is something else. So keep in mind I'm not used to this so I might sound kinda awkward here. Basically two questions... Based of this(not much I know) do you think she is in to me. Also, Is the term boyfriend as important to you as fiance or husband. Me personally it is not the same.
Hard to say really based on your limited interactions. She may enjoy your company though. She mentioned a boyfriend to you though. Don't move in on another guy's girl just because he isn't there. If she makes the move on you then take it from there.
I can tell two things right away 1) You are Asian. There is no way you aren't. She's gonna wind up being your godsister because... 2) She actually digs the "yo waddup girl" guys. They all do at that age. She sees you as non-threatening because you purposefully project that kind of image because you see that as the only way to "get to know her better". It also means she sees you as a friend and never more than that. The guy who texted her at midnight will wind up with her while you're sitting there in the dark listening to Mr. Big "Just to be the Next to be with you", and reading a 20 page analysis on why Gary from "The Last American Virgin" is actually every girl's hot fantasy.
Sorry for being harsh my fchowd, I just don't like seeing guys go down that road. Sadly once you take that first step, you ain't gonna listen to anyone who puts it gently.
lol He is actually right... I'm brown(Bengali) but then again I follow everything that is the opposite of my stereotype being born and raised American being in the military. Its just this situation is not something that I'm used to. The way it worked while I was in Camp Lejeune is totally different than this current setting. Being Infantry I had ZERO interaction with girls other than drunk ones when we went out to bars and clubs.
It certainly can be. Personally, I think you'd be a real d*ck to make a move knowing she has a boyfriend already.
Two things for you to consider: 1) You sound like you're friend zoned hard. But it's possible you're not. No one can really know without being in that exact situation themselves. 2) You need to always be friendly and at least somewhat flirty with all girls that you might be slightly interested in. That way the possibility for more is present and you wont be completely sucked into the friend zone. Always keep that as a general rule of thumb and this problem wont arise...
Hey if that is what you interpret from what you read than so be it. That is the reason why I posted this. I wasn't expecting every answer to be "Go for it bro she is so wet for you". And if that is the case what needs to be changed. I probably first need to understand if her "boyfriend" is a simple fling or if this is a serious relationship. If it is then well Ill just forget about her or maybe actually purposely go in to the friend zone with her since she is good company.
It honestly really depends on what she means by boyfriend.. Is this a dude she knew for a few weeks or is this a serious relationship that has been going on for a while. If it is well ya then I would be a dick.
Friendzone for sure. If you ever make a move on her, she will tell you she doesnt see you like that. As you can see, a lot of us here on CF have been or have seen a friend get friendzoned pretty bad.
Everytime an Asian male says something like this, the entire male side of our race loses a little length off our average penis size. Please think about what you are saying next time.
No there is no exception. You'd be a dick to ruin an established relationship and you'd be a dick to try and ruin a new relationship.
i don't. if a girl with a boyfriend can't stop another guy's advances, she wasn't really into her boyfriend in the first place. so she's fair game.
You've gotta be Asian also - the way you project your own hopes and rosy view on girls onto fchowd's situation. In fact I guarantee you are Asian.
