and as usual, and very immature of us, we threaten to leave each other. Her: "I'm gonna leave your ass." Me: "Then leave. Go." Her: "I will." Me: "Hell, I should have left you a long time ago." it's really typical crap for us. it doesn't lead to anything except making up later. but, this time she said something else that really ticked me off. Her: "If you leave me, I'll lose 30 lbs and make you regret it." i was like, WTF??? i went off on her about why couldn't she lose the weight while we're together. and she had the gall to try to turn it around by saying that i should love her for who she is. BS!!! if she can change for someone else, she sure as hell can change for me. so, she will look her fittest and best if we break up, but she'll keep stuffing her mouth as long as we're together? and if you think i'm just being superficial, well, i don't really think it's fair that i've stayed fit while she's not even trying. i'm just venting.
I set my standards too high when it comes to listening to other people (couples) argueing. Myself, I can stay calm in any type of argument, I would never tell my gf I should've/would've left her, or viseversa. But I think you need to just chill, and do the important things. Don't sit there and talk to her (when you make up) to make her feel better, actually go out and out of your way to the farthest extent to make her feel special to you. Tell her you want to spend more time with her, if she agrees with the idea, ask for time off of work and she'll do the same, and just go on a road trip together. Just get away from the ordinary life into the unusual and experience it with her. It's like a getaway, but instead of being without her; missing her, you'll be with her and growing closer together... (this is all based on the fact that both of you get your act together and stop being immature)
So many similarities here.... Shaq: "I'm gonna leave your ass." Lakers: "Then leave. Go." Shaq: "I will." Lakers: "Hell, I should have left you a long time ago." Shaq: "If you leave me, I'll lose 30 lbs and make you regret it." and by golly, looks like Shaq did.
Well, it's probably true. Girls not in a relationship are going to feel a lot more motivated to lose weight than girls who are in one. Not a nice thing to say, not a very loving way to behave, but that's human nature. Likewise, you'd probably try harder to make yourself appealing if you weren't in a relationship -- you'd at least stop threatening to dump people all the time, I'd bet (I recommend you stop doing that, btw, even if she doesn't).
Dude, that's not a keeper. Just imagine her after having a baby and carrying another extra 30 pounds. Unless she's Brooke Burke or Demi Moore, It's all downhill.
Jerry: Let me take a guess. She cried and you caved. George: How did you know that? Jerry: I live and breath my friend. . . . I live and breath. George: I got to tell you I felt terrible. I really thought she was going to collapse and kill herself. Jerry:Ytes, it's very difficult. Few men have the constitution for it. That's why breakups take two or three tries. You gotta build up your immunity. George: You see those tears streaming down you don't know what to do. It was like she was on fire and I was trying to put her out. Jerry: Well, at least you probably had some, uh, pretty good make-up sex after. George: I didn't have any sex. Jerry: You didn't have make-up sex? How could you not have make-up sex? I mean that's the best feature of the heavy relationship. George: I didn't have make-up sex. Jerry: In your situation the only sex you're going to have better than make-up sex is if you're sent to prison and you have a conjugal visit. George: Yeah, conjugal visit sex. That is happening!
Basically, you've created a bad habit that both of you find acceptable. And that is fine. Until of course, someone tells the girlfirend how unhealthy it is. Then you're done. The relationship will be over. So the habit is self destructive even if both you have become used to it and even like it. Someone from the outside will ultimately be your undoing. So if you want the girl, the both of you need to break the habit and or the pattern of threatening to leave. That is tough to do because the pandora box is already opened. But you need to close it somehow. As some said, your best results will be patience and being positive. At some point it snowballs. The other person will feel like a dunce for arguing when you're being nice. and then they become nice. And you creat a new habit of being nice even when you're mad.
she threatened to leave me. it was when i retorted with, "I should have left you a long time ago." that she made the weight comment. but, if you're in a relationship i think you owe it to your significant other to always stay fit as possible. especially, when you both met, both of you went to the gym regularly.
Some funny posts on a Monday thanks bbs. Here is my 2 cents... You didn't tell us why you were arguing in the first place. Every couple has ups and downs. I know when I threaten my chic that I'm leaving her its because she isn’t acting right and I'm tired of having to point out the obvious. Because she knows what I expect from her and if she isn't down with what I want I will be replacing her. Simple as that. They treat you all good in the beginning and you’re the king then all of a sudden they start testing you to see what they can get away with. Before you know it you will be a servant and she will jump on board with the next knight in shinning armor. You have to put your foot down. It’s all about respect. Without it you have nothing. Just tell her what you expect from her and either she is down or isn't If she isn't go try to smash one of her skinny friends. Remember the song from Biggie: "I don't chase-em I replace-em."
the reason we were arguing was BECAUSE i put my foot down. we were meeting for lunch and i told her we're gonna eat at Bennigan's. she said she wanted to eat sushi. I asked, "Are you paying?" she says no and i replied with, "good, we're eating bennigans then." so she started pouting and everything just blew up from there. after that, i wasn't in the mood to eat with her anymore. just turned the car around dropped her off.
