Seems like there are some helpful people on this board, so... I've been seeing a girl for about five weeks now, and as far as I can tell, she is a perfect match for me. She doesn't wear perfume (I hate perfume), nor jewelry (she's affordable ). I won't get into other details, but as the Sein would say, "I think I could be ga-ga". Here's the problem: half the time she acts indifferent and uninterested, saying she has to get up early (which is true) so we can't go out. I get lots of "maybes," "I don't knows," and the like. The other half of the time, she's got her tongue in my ear and a hand up my shirt. Perhaps the best example of this contrast is one night when I was at her house and she was acting annoyed and asked me "What time are you going to bed--I'm going at midnight." I nearly walked out and never spoke to her again, but I'm not the storming type, so I hung out. Then, she got her jacket and said she wanted to go for a drive. In the car--a total surprise--she takes off her seat belt and starts with the tongue and such. This was the first time we ever made out. Another quick one: After work on Sunday, I asked her if she wanted to go out or whatever, and she says, "How about Friday?" Ack. Then I go to see her Monday and we drive around with my hand betwixt her legs and her unwilling to answer my question of "What are you thinking" with anything but deep stares. Then I had to stop to pee and take her home because she has to get up really early. Today I asked her to give me a call at work to let me know if she wants to meet, and I got nothing. So, what the hell? My first plan of action is to not call her--the ol' don't wait for me, I'll wait for you. Any comparable experiences? Suggestions? Complaints?
tell her you think the two of you could make good friends. it'll blow her mind and have her thinking what's wrong with her and why isn't this guy into her. it'll drive her mad and want you more. most important thing is dont' act like a wuss and start doing everything she tells you. women already have a p*ssy, they don't want a guy who is one too.
Tell us again about "the perfect match" part. Find another woman. Her inconsistency and inconsideration will only get worse. This is the honeymoon phase, remember!
What?!?! A fickle, schizophrenic female? No way!! Call the press!!! Get used to it, bub. Man will discover the secrets of the universe before he solves the mystery of Woman. Remember: Women are ruled by emotions. Men are ruled by beer commercials.
Call her ass out the next time she pulls that stunt. I mean, if she continues with the way she's going, you guys aren't going to last. I'd hope that you feel you deserve better than that. So if you call her ass out, maybe she'll SNAP to attention, and realize that she'd better shape up. Sometimes ppl don't know their mistakes until someone points it out to them. I don't know how early she has to get up for work (I get up at 4:30a and I'm normal. Muhahaha), but perhaps she is just really tired. Only word of caution is prepare yourself for a fight, some crying, blaming you for not being sensitive to the things she's going through, how selfish you are, blah, blah, blah... If you feel that things will never change and the relationship is bound for failure, rent a van for the weekend, and tell you'd like her to meet your friend, Drity Sanchez.
That's the best advice, but I get the feeling that she's not all that interested and you'll most likely get a "whatever" response and your dating days are over. If you would like to keep some contact with her then just play this game for what it is - she's diffently not in love, so don't sweat it and DIFFENTLY don't let yourself fall to far. I've had an experience like this myself years ago. I talk to a freind about it and he gave me some great advise. Make a game of it...practice on her. Don't worry about moving too fast or too slow. Make bold moves!! If they don't work..oh well, you haven't really lost anything.
This needs to be emphasized again. From experience, this is a really bad idea. The poor deer never new what was coming.
You need to take some advice from Kramer. You need hand. If you do a pre emptive breakup you will have all the hand you will ever need.
