My cousin is 37 like me, but he told me recently he has met a cute 23 year old girl (about to be 24 next month) at work who makes him feel special and great, but he is married like me. He said at first he asked her out since he enjoyed her personality and wanted a change of pace from his wife who works alot and doesn't give him time or any happiness...But on his 2nd "date" he said all they did was make out to eventual sex at her place. Apparently she knows my cousin is married, but my cousin swears she is making his head spin on cloud nine and it seems like nothing else matters...Please help me out. Should I talk some sense to him, or should I just be supportive of his new girl toy...Perhaps he will realize this is only short-term...I'm worried about his decisions since he has a son I want to give him good advice, but is it better to see him work this out?.
after you give him a high five for getting a 23 yr old when he is almost 40, slap him in the face. he is married, has a son. he needs to be a man and live with the choices he made. odds are this girl will flake out on him the first chance she gets.
If a girl will knowingly sleep with a womans husband - she wouldnt think twice about doing the cheating herself. Slapper.
THat's a tough question Roxran. I guess it depends on how close you are to him and his family. My own 2 cents are you should tell him that you think this is a mistake but let him work it out.
What could possibly go wrong? Yeah you need to beat some sense into him. Attention from a new person makes anyone feel special at first. Acting on that, especially with a wife and son is an idiotic move. It will end badly. He needs to realize that before it's too late, which it may already be.
Or maybe he's told her he loves her and is going to leave his wife for her. Without knowing more I don't think we can blame the woman.
ouch. supporting his fling might not put you in very good standing with the rest of your family. it sucks for him but he put you in an awkward spot now...
this is.. to my dismay.. one of the many occasions where I'll read over a subject.. and find myself reduced to replying to it.. with only one word.. pathetic... and it's already one word more than such a situation truly deserves..
Yes, you can blame her....can blame both of them. She is knowingly sleeping with a married man and father.
I don't think he said that from his conversation, since he told me his 1st outing was as "friends", but I wonder how things went so fast from that to making out and sex after only 1 or 2 "dates"...My cousin thinks she is likely short-term but wants to keep things going if it means discovering she is long-term. I don't know if that is fair and right, but it is hard to know if any advice or stand is the correct decision when it comes to family...
posting it on the internet is always a bad idea. you probably are the reason he will get caught. sleep well
Thanks , ...But I know his wife, and her side of the family. None are sports fans. They also live in Florida. I took this in consideration. I will sleep very well.
I don't think it will matter what you tell him but you could try anyway. I actually went through something similar with a friend. She was unhappy in the marriage and fell in love with a co-worker. Your cousin crossed a big line and wheel is in motion. You will have to live with the secret if being with her becomes like an addiction or he falls in love. Hopefully he gets off the cloud and decides to end his marriage the right way or stop the affair if he loves his wife.
I know this will sound flippant, but I don't intend it to be insulting. Let him know you don't approve (for obvious reasons) but otherwise it's really none of your business. They are both adults and getting involved could ruin whatever relationships you have with the rest of your family.
Yep, this is a no win situation. If the wife finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will hate you. If you support it everyone will eventually hate you. If you blow the cover everyone will hate you. And if you don't say anything you will hate yourself.
