The majority of my friends are female, all platonic in nature. In fact if I were to get married I would most likely have a Best Female Man. So this spring there has been a rash of breaks ups and I've been getting some calls. One topic that has come up for discussion in cheating. Male infidelity was the cause of one but not all. Some advice that was relayed is that to ensure a male from wondering the female must be slightly or significantly more attractive than the male. This advice was given to my friends from thier mothers, grandmothers, aunts, friends, etc... Is this some generational secret that women give to each other? Would it really deter infidelity? Discuss.
So what you're saying, in a nutshell, is that in these women's perception of the world, all of the hot women are going to settle down with nerds?
This is a question only the three or four ladies here can answer, but if true, as an average looking male I'm wondering if this explains my history. Hmm... The one I cheated on was better looking than me, but not as good looking as the others.
I've never considered the advice untill they all started realaying it to me. But in essence, yes. Marry a nerd.
No way. Ugly men cheat on their beautiful gf/wife but I think it has to do with power and money. If an ugly man is rich and he has power to do everything then he will cheat on a pretty woman. The dweeb I dated before my bf wasn't attractive than me and he still cheated.
Males, as a general rule, are much less attractive than females. Seriously, the female body is a work of art. Our bodies are hairy, sweaty, smelly, pot-bellied, pasty white tubs of lard. I don't know what women see in us, quite frankly...
WTF is this crap, man ? I suppose your soon-to-be-wife will accept you having a "maid of honor" and she will have one, too? How do you think that person will feel if she's called "Best Female Man of Honor"?? You won't have a BEST MAN?
^My best friend is a girl and I wouldn't mind having her be my best man...And visa versa... Back on topic, on paper this makes sense, but as others have said, it depends on where you are in your relationship...Meaning, it doesn't matter if one is more or less attractive than the other, if someone wants to cheat, they will...The bigger question is why do people cheat? As people have quoted in the past, show me an single hot girl, and I'll show you someone that's tired of her *****...
I will be honest I have only been cheated on once. So I don't know if I am the right person to answer this question. If I am attracted to the guy, then I figure other females will be too. Most of the stereotypically attractive guys I have dated weren't relationships so much as casual flings. The one time it it did happen the guy and I were in a fairly new relationship (less than 3 months) and "the opportunity" arose with someone he had a long history with. So I don't think it has anything to do with looks and everything to do with opportunity.
I can tell you why women would think this. It basically boils down to being the one in the relationship that is on top. Having the upper hand, so to speak. Ever seen the episode of Seinfeld where George complains that he has no hand? There is an old motto I remember that says something along the lines of: if you want a girl to stay attracted to you, you have to always be slightly cooler than her. But like others have said, this doesn't work with girls being hotter than guys. When most guys cheat it isn't so simple as they want to sleep with a hotter girl. Sometimes they just want to sleep with a *different* girl. Look at all the Hollywood actors who boned ugly chicks when they were going out with or married with some of the most beautiful, high-status women in the country. Probably better advice would be to: "keep his balls empty, and his stomach full."
I think the real question is... How hot are these friends of yours? To be inspired, it is important for me to visualize the discussion. I'm not asking for you to share your pajama party pillow fights, but if you just happened to have them, go ahead. I would do the same for you.
always figured girls had this weird thing of wanting to be the good looking one in the relationship. where as guys try to get the hottest girl.
I'm not posting any pillow fight photos. But they fall in the 7-9 range. Also, it's not an american thing as three other frinds have recieved this advice on different continents. I just thought it was funny that they've all encountered the same 'words of wisdom." Not from some poll in Cosmo but from relatives who have dated in different eras. Hollywood actors have narsassitic tendencies. Same for rich/powerfull men. They're a seperate breed. I'm talking normal everyday people.
