Which statement about revenge do you think is true..... A) Revenge is a dish best served cold. OR B)The best revenge is living well. Also feel free to post your revenge stories.
Definitely "the best revenge is living well." If we harbor intense anger toward another person it usually ends up doing more damage in our own lives than in the lives of those we hate. When we drop the anger, get back to our own life and live it well, we invariably end up feeling better. *stepping off my metaphysical soapbox now* ... besides, how the hell do you "serve" revenge cold? I've never understood that cliche.
Stating "Revenge" is a good excuse for almost any act.Thats about the only good thing I can think of......... or is that a bad thing?........ oh **** I just got lost in one of my circles again.........
B Who needs the angst. However, I never forget and if an opportunity happens to come along...well...... DaDakota
I'm with Dadakota on this one. I won't go out of my way to ensure I get revenge on someone, I'll just get on with my life without worrying about them. However if there is opportunity to get revenge I won't pass that opportunity by.....
That's my M. O. as well. It's true...I have done it before YEARS after the fact. I hate to admit it, but it's very satisfying.
I think B probably, unless A was really a whopper! Reminds me of... Powers Booth: All that hate's gonna burn you up, son. C. Thomas Howell: It keeps me warm at night. Uh, did I just quote C. Thomas Howell? OK, whatever. I couldn't remember their names in the movie.
That belongs in the movie quote thread...it's a good one...also a good movie - Red Dawn! Anyway, I'm siding on the Bs. It's hard to stay in the moment when worrying about yesterday. RR
Aren't you the guy that wants the Israelis to bomb the **** out of the Palestinians. . . and America to blast Iraq into the past tense??? Rocket River
Choice A isn't really worth it unless it could get you a long prison sentence. Given the inherent risk, I mostly go with B.
I suppose I'm with Dada, Chuck, and Ref on this one. Although it can be tough when an occasional reminder pops up as to why you would like to get some revenge for something that happened quite some time ago. It's usually when you haven't thought about the whole thing for months. Things can happen to people by others that are really unforgivable. To say that life is groovy and best not wasted on something like "revenge" is a noble sentiment that I applaud. It would be nice if it were always that simple.
Bitter feelings are like acid in a vessel- they will destroy the vessel. My Dad told me this my whole life. The best way to "get even" is to live well-no doubt if you can do it. Forgetting about a bitter dispute for example is very dificult- get professional help if you can - get it behind you. I am not trying to be dramatic, but if you hold bad feelings in and dwell on revenge it will damage you. It can lead to drugs or alcohol abuse in the extreme- to make your life tolerable. My brother told me this bizarre story about hating some guy for a work related argument- some under the table money dispute no doubt.- Brother said he hated the guy with a passion, but had to work with him- so Brother was so sweet to him candy would not melt in his mouth. Brother never gave his enemy a clue that he hated him - went out of his way to be nice to him. When this was going on I noticed and asked Brother if he was "killing the guy with kindness"?? I thought it noble. Then brother tells me he is being ultra nice so he can really get the guy later when he least espects it-THIS IS A SICK PHILOSOPHY!! This has gone on for years. His revenge will be served cold-but what a mind f**k. This is wrong. Let things go - do not harbor resentment.
I will tell you this, at the end of a realtionship I'm always the nice guy. Trying to cater to the girl. but sometimes I wish I had screwed them over just to get even. I think revenge can really provide some closure in some cases. I have lots of regrets about not getting revenge for a breakup. But if you do get revenge, the girl has every reason to hate you so it doesn't last that long. The best revenge is being happy and getting to tell her about it. If only I was so lucky to do that all the time. If they never find out how happy you are now then you get screwed and get no revenge. Which sucks. Cause they got the best of you.
Just a few years ago, I was very hell bent on revenge. Now I realize that it is a waste of time. But like was said before, if I can screw someone back then I probably will...
Mrs. JB- "Revenge is a dish best served cold" means that when someone wrongs you, WAIT. Take your time to plan your revenge. Also let some time pass so that it wont be obvious that its you. Then strike when the time is right and your vengence will be a complete surprise. However, if you bust your spouse cheating on you and you want to blow them away, forget that advice and do it immediately because in the state of Texas, I hear that killing your spouse while they are in bed with someone else is only manslaughter. You could get off with probation. If you wait it is premeditated and its murder.
