She died yesterday. And it is a truly mixed emotional feeling. She was a little abrasive, but a very sweet woman, who I loved dearly. However, she had a rapid form of demensia/Alzheimers in the past few years. I'll be a pall-bearer at the funeral, but I know my Dad and my Uncle are taking it the hardest, as is understandable. I came close last year, but I haven't lost a parent yet. I'm curious what y'all think about this. I was thinking about doing a showing of the last 10 minutes of E.T. at the wake, only because it shows a being that needs to go home, because it can't make it happily here. And as a religious person, I found it surprising that this scene popped into my head today, even though I haven't thought about the movie in years. Almost like she let me know this is how she wanted us to remember her. While I can't find the entire link, here's the jist. <object width="425" height="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/ZZni1gomz8Y"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/ZZni1gomz8Y" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object> <object width="425" height="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/pOvR2WudpV8"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/pOvR2WudpV8" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object>
Sorry for your family's loss. It's very hard to lose a parent. I can relate to your dad. I lost my mom in '94. Don't show the clip. At least I wouldn't. Someone else may not get it, and think you're relegating Grandma to an alien. It may be especially weird due to her late illness,
Fair enough. I don't see it that way, myself, obviously. More about a person who is ready to go home. But that is my take. In my opinion, I'm very happy I've watched it again in reference to her passing.
Sorry to hear about your family's loss. May she rest in piece. I'm not really sold on your E.T. idea... I wouldn't do it. Just my opinion.
Fatty-I'm really sorry to hear of your families loss. My prayers go out to you and your family. Dementia-alzheimer's is a cruel thing- it's like you lose the person before they go-and you really do not get to say goodbye. You're a good man for the ET idea- I get it-I personally like it- but do not do this - it may upset others.
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Funeral Blues By W. H. Auden Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead. Put crepe bows round the white necks of public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. He was my North, my South, my East and West. My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last forever; I was wrong. The stars are not wanted now: put out every one; Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun; Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood; For nothing now can ever come to any good
My condolences, FFB. May she rest in peace. As far as the clip goes, I wouldn't do it. But...it's your call.
Sorry to hear that Jim. I lost my grandma around this same time last year, and she also had very bad Alzheimers. The loss is painful, but in a way the family found some peace in knowing that she was no longer suffering from that terrible disease. Hit me up if you need someone to talk to about it.
Hey Fatty Condolences on your loss. A grandfather of mine had Alzheimer's really bad before he died. I've been there. It ain't fun.
Fatty, sorry for your loss. My granny (dad's mom) had multi-infarct dementia which is very similar to Alzheimer's. It was very hard on all of us, but especially hard on my father. She died about 3 years ago and is in a better place just like your grandma. Stay strong.
Sorry to hear about that FFB. I lost my own grandmother almost exactly 10 years ago and like your grandma she was abrasive but it was still sad to see her go. Also in regard to her suffering from Alzheimers that made me think of the friend of my family's who's mother was suffering from that. She had made it clear that she didn't want to live anymore and had written a living will before her mental facilities started to fade to not resucitate and had even quit eating a few weeks ago. She was clearly in a lot of pain and wanted to die and while this caused a lot of anguish to her family they respected her wishes and let her die in a hospice peacefully rather than doing all that was medically possible to keep her alive. Everyone was sad to see her go but in the end it might've been better to let her go without having her suffer for days, months or years longer.
Sorry for your loss, Fatty. A good friend of mine lost his father yesterday. He had been sick for a long time and my friend had been flying out to Vegas to see him at least once a month. He passed as they were watching the All-Star game together.
