hi everyone i'll having a relationship problem with my cousin. All of this started last june when i went over to her graduation. i was her only cousin that was willing to over to hawaii. i had fun over there and felt good to relax but my cousin she left me high and dry. I devoted so much time to help her for her graduation. i could thing of about 12 meaningful things that helped her out and want i got for it. NOTHING. She left me high and dry over in hawaii and went her friends. True, she would may never see her friends over there but i came 5000 miles to go see her and hang out with her and importantly i sacrificed a job for her. So i guess i'm like Chase on 24 in picking family first. Now, she came to my graduation and i also treated her well like buying her expensive chocolates, drinking jamba juice, taking her out for lunch with her step-dad. I gave up my friends just to hang out with her. Now, she goes out to hang out with her other cousins and she's leaving me out to dry. i feel disheartning that i devoted so much time and thought for her and now i realized as of right now it was for nothing. I really do like her b/c most of the cousins in the family i cant trust in my point of view. i really do see the potential in her but it doesnt show it in my eyes. i felt that i wasnt being appreciated for my efforts. true, that i hear thank yous but she doesnt realized what i sacrificed for her. I talked to her mom and she said that she doesnt really care and love for her cousins really, only her friends and her immediate family. Do u expect that a guy (me) who does a lot for a girl get maybe lil something in return? I mean i dont want like if u do something for me, u have do something back for me. i dont want that i want to ask yall if i should confronted her about all of this and try to fix things or i should let go and move on. she and one other cousin imo i could really trust. i really want things to work out for the better. my 2 cents kevin
Always always confront. Just come out and say it, but more importantly, explain why you came out and said it rather than kept it to yourself.
What exactly do you expect from her? And if you are still in Hawaii (not exactly clear from your post), just go out and have fun!
Pardon me if I'm out of line and misinterpreting this, but do you have any romantic interest in your cousin? From what you posted, I'm honestly not sure. Maybe she's just a selfish person. You shouldn't get too hung up about this.
no i have any romance interest in her it just that my aunt (not her mom) wants me to be good cousin with her b/c she is likely the safest bet. last night, she didnt even give me hug before she left and no goodbyes. well she left houston for hawaii
oh it b/c my family has so many feuds and we cant trust some people and etc etc. she doesnt really have family outside of her immediate family.
Waddya mean safest bet??? I really dont think you should care at all about this... I mean sorry for sounding harsh, but right now your are being a giant vagina, getting all worked up over relationship problems with your cousin because she wont hang out with you... Stop being a drama queen find some friends, party, have fun and forget about it.
You can't force anything. Apparently, you were really kind to her, but she doesn't care that much. So, continue to be kind if you meet her or have to talk to her, but don't overdo it and don't get worked up over it - she is in Hawaii anyway while you are in Houston. She is apparently focusing on her life, and so should you.
yea i know i just may think about it tonight but tomorrow is a new day and life must go on. but i just really wanted to patch things up while she's still here but time flew by
If you put up with being treated badly, then people are going to think that treating you badly is OK... if they're that immature.
Yeah, Macbeth said what I said, except better and nicer I'm just in a bad mood because Dotel blew ANOTHER game
