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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Outlier, Dec 20, 2010.

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  1. Outlier

    Outlier Member

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    My girl is a ground stewardess working at the airport. So she is always very busy. We see each other once maybe twice a week. I can't help but think about all the men at her work. I viewed her pictures when they had a Christmas party at work and I saw a lot of the guys (and girls). She is the prettiest one there. I can't help but think about douchebags hitting on her. It's not that I don't trust her... I know how men are with their subtle little attempts at trying to get p***y. If someone tries really hard or is persistent enough she might fall for it. And the thing I fear most is me not knowing about it and I could continue being with her for a long time being clueless if something has happened. I mean literally... she can simply text me she's at home but she's somewhere else. IT'S FREAKING ME OUT!!! I'm going nuts. I want to be understanding and all that... but damn. My heart races whenever I think about her being with another guy. There is even this dude she is with all the time when she goes home (because he lives near her). **** me.
     
    #1 Outlier, Dec 20, 2010
  2. SamFisher

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    long thread will be long.
     
    #2 SamFisher, Dec 20, 2010
  3. LAFIRMA22

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    Post some picture for some good quality advice.
     
    #3 LAFIRMA22, Dec 20, 2010
  4. VanityHalfBlack

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    Believe me she is doing the miles high club dude for sure... Stewardess on a daily basis will ride on your **** pit if you play your game right...
     
    #4 VanityHalfBlack, Dec 20, 2010
  5. Outlier

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    Here is another thing... I have already discussed my issues with her. In fact, she says she is becoming irritated because I keep bringing it up. Really... I've come to accept the fact that I can do nothing about it and just hope for the best... but it still freaking kills me inside. I wish I knew where she was at all the time. BTW, when I discussed it with her she cried and said I'm the only man of her life and she will never love another man like she does me... This should all be assurance that I shouldn't worry... but I still do. Damnit
     
    #5 Outlier, Dec 20, 2010
  6. boomboom

    boomboom I GOT '99 PROBLEMS

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    LoJack that ho.
     
    #6 boomboom, Dec 20, 2010
  7. Xerobull

    Xerobull ...and I'm all out of bubblegum
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    Self fulfilling prophecy.
     
    #7 Xerobull, Dec 20, 2010
  8. King1

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    She's banging her coworkers

    Merry Christmas
     
    #8 King1, Dec 20, 2010
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  9. Outlier

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    Can I get some real advice... I'm tearing up inside.
     
    #9 Outlier, Dec 20, 2010
  10. King1

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    Oh, and I have a feeling TS and his girl are going to end up being on 48 Hours on ID
     
    #10 King1, Dec 20, 2010
  11. King1

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    So is she, but in a much different manner
     
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  12. Honey Bear

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    The issue here is that you aren't making it clear how insecure you are about her making eye contact with other guys, especially the ones she is forced to because of this so called "career" she has going. You need to create a spreadsheet with the amount of guys she probably talks with, who could be thinking of what, where they could be looking, and then show her the percentages of them trying to spit game at her. Maybe that you cry in the closet just thinking of her trying to be an independent woman - this will scare her straight. She needs to know these things. Only then can you convince her to convert to Islam and wear a Hijab to work.


    Women love this.
     
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  13. bigtexxx

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    Yo -- don't worry -- I've got this. I've got a guy you can call. He will help.

    [​IMG]
     
    #13 bigtexxx, Dec 20, 2010
  14. Outlier

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    You're a real douchebag really
     
    #14 Outlier, Dec 20, 2010
  15. Tom Bombadillo

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    Not all girls are deceitful b****es...

    Just relax... If you don't trust her, It will never work out anyway.
     
    #15 Tom Bombadillo, Dec 20, 2010
  16. King1

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    That may be, but I'm not an insecure one that is going to end up hiding in my girl's bushes
     
    #16 King1, Dec 20, 2010
  17. Outlier

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    Here's the thing.. If I can't trust her, how can I trust any other woman?

    With her, it's as good as it gets...

    or maybe I should settle for an ugly ho?
     
    #17 Outlier, Dec 20, 2010
  18. Tom Bombadillo

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    Good question.

    Any other reason to think she might be cheating?
     
    #18 Tom Bombadillo, Dec 20, 2010
  19. Outlier

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    Give me a break... this is my first serious relationship. Being heartbroken (due to a love affair)... that's something I never want to experience.. literally I don't know what I would freaking do
     
    #19 Outlier, Dec 20, 2010
  20. Harrisment

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    This isn't a healthy relationship, to say the least. It sounds like you have some serious insecurity issues that need to be dealt with. Don't take this the wrong way, but how old are you? The reason I ask is because it is quite common to feel this way when you're younger....I've been there myself. Being jealous and insecure like this isn't going to make your girl love you more, but it is going to push her further away and may even contribute to her straying at some point.

    Eventually you just have to accept that if you want to be with someone, you have to trust them. Don't just say you trust them, REALLY trust them and have faith that they'll stay as committed to your relationship as you are. You need to be honest with yourself and figure out if you can really do that with this girl. If you can't, you shouldn't be in a relationship with her. Not fair to either of you.
     
    #20 Harrisment, Dec 20, 2010
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