okay... i've been seeing this girl for about a month lately, she's great and everything. i don't ask about pass cuz for the the most part, i don't want to know. however, my cousin knows her and said that she walked out of a bar before with a guy and more than likely for a one night stand. i know it's her pass... but my view's kinda changed of her. i can't get it out of my mind. should i ask her? i don't think my cousin would lie to me, but i don't want to insult her by asking? should it talk to her?
"Hey, babe... ever been with another guy?" "Ever been tested?" If answer to first is yes... and to second is no.... your response is "good bye."
I guess it depends on your boundaries. If you have an understanding that you can see other people, then I wouldn't ask. If you are supposed to be exclusive, know that if you do ask you might hear her admit to it, so be prepared for that...it is a possibility.
Wow, how can you assume that? I see girls and guys walk out of bars all the time together and don't assume they are having a one-night stand. Maybe they were dating? Maybe they were friends? Maybe they were co-workers? Maybe they met that night and he just walked her to her car?
Time out. So did she go to this bar while you guys were dating? I was once dating this goldigger for 2 months. I was going to finally meet her parents, but at the last minute she wouldn't let me. And then she spilled the beans, telling me she had another guy in her life, but she wanted to go out with me anyway. I was still going to still take her out that night and get my **** sucked, but I was so pissed that she was sucking someone else's. She had mental problems too, so I've moved on with no remorse.
Even if she did, so what. I read recently that something like 50 percent of people surveyed have had one night stands. The real question is what is your tolerance level. The fact that you can't get over it is a problem for you but it isn't her fault. Your reaction is your problem and will likely follow you to other relationships and other issues. Best to deal with it now.
Respect her privacy and enjoy her for who she is to you. If the other guy meant anything to her, she wouldn't be with you now wouldn't she? She is intitled to her history. If you bring it up, she's in your history.
sounds like he's saying she did something in the past.. but his view changed of her b/c it was a 1-night-stand and that has something bad associated with it. i dunno what i'd think. but if it bugs you that much, you'll prob hafta say something eventually
I'm in the same boat as you man. I met this girl when I was drunk at a bar and we hooked up the first night. Now she expects me to take her seriously. She wants to start dating, wants a relationship...the whole nine yards. Granted, she is smoking hot but I can't help but to think she would have done what she did with me with any guy that night. On top of that she dresses like a slut. Sorry, I just can't take a girl like that seriously....at least when it comes to forming that into a relationship.
Sorry to hijack this thread, but it's pretty apparent that everybody's got penis on the brain: <object width="425" height="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/94wGndbOIPk"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/94wGndbOIPk" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object>
I think you should ask her about her pass. You need to know. Is it a bus pass? If so, is it a Metro Q-card? Stored Value card? Transfer? These are the tough questions that need answers before settling into a serious relationship.
Whichever one it is, be sure you multiply whatever number she gives you by 2 to get an accurate amount.
thanks bro! I won the chat pot on who was gonna bust his chops first for that . I *knew* you wouldnt fail me. OP dude....get over it, you dont even know what really happened, how can you lose respect for something you dont even know *really* happened? /me ponders the meaning of the word "assume"
