[relationship advice needed] women and sports

how much money does she spend on clothes? or make up? she could use that money to help starving children. If you want to go to the world series you should go, she doesn't have to come. If she goes to a movie that you really do not like, you let her go right? just think of her hobbys that you do not like, you accept those, so she should accept your hobbys.

My girlfriend does not like soccer, i cannot change that, however she likes some other sports, and atleast she accepts that i want to watch it. I did get her to watch cycling, because i explained the tactics of the game, and suddenly she really liked it(she actually watched the tour the france even when i was not home

 

First off you need to get some sleep, and second start watching re-runs of "The Man Show." Such great wisdom can be learned from the sages on the show.

 

I don't think your relationship will ever work in the long term if you argue over petty stuff like this all the time. Her intentions are good, in that in the grand scheme of things sports really doesn't matter at all.

Its bad to exude negative energy. But like Arno-ed said she must spend money on excessive things like clothes and makeup. But if you bring that up, you'll just argue more.

So its a lose-lose situation. Go to a sports bar and meet a sports chick or something. Or a stripper.

 

[Baqui99]Are you doing her in the pooper?[/Baqui99]

 

Here's the way women get into sports. They like the human elements of sports. They like to like individual people that have feel good stories so they can "root for the good guy."

If she ever is in the same room with you while you are watching a game, go into detail about the background of one of the athletes especially if it is a really tear jerk story.

One example might be how Motumbo has contributed so much money to his home country in Africa. Furthermore, how the Rockets have even helped him acheive the goal of building the hospital. Of course, you'll need to get more details about the story so you can tell it in story format. You can't just blurt out lone facts. It's gotta be a whole story. And it helps if the story sounds spontaneous ...not some rehursed thing you just tossed on the table like a dead fish.

Another good story is the story about how Yao has been adjusting to life in America. If she isn't as much an emotional person, you can even talk about the political and economic factors surrounding Yao. It really is facinating.

Once you can endear one or two of the players to your girlfriend, she'll naturally become more interested because she can identify why Motumbo still plays basketball at his age and she may think that is cool.

You've gotta make it interesting for her. Hope that helps.

 

krosfyah has a good point, make it more interesting for her(that was what i tried to say wiht my cycling example). especially for woman the background of players is very important.

 

BINGO!! Girls want the drama and sob stories. They want the feelgood stories, they could care less about what goes on the court. Even the stuff that is funny like Doug Christie's wife. It was the only way I could even get my g/f started on sports. Now she doesn't mind and she understands now. Plus having the guys over and their g/f's does help to take pressure off as well.

 

Maybe she's just really upset that Dorothy dropped a house on her sister?

 

I think what would frustrate me about this situation more than anything is the total lack of regard she has for something you love. She doesn't have to like it but to equate what you care about with a waste of time is tremendously insensitive and disrespectful.

I mean, how would she feel if you totally bashed her interests and called them pointless and worthless? I'm sure she'd be pretty pissed, so you have every right to be angry.

One of the most important things people have in relationships is respect for the other. This is particularly important when you don't fully understand why the person likes or does what he/she likes or does. It isn't necessary for her to understand why you feel the way you do, but responding the way she did was not cool at all and that would be true no matter what you liked.

 

dump her!

My wife doesn't like sports, but at least she understands why I like to watch. Heck, she even bandwagons a little when the local team is doing well. Plus, she really likes Biggio's ass.

If she doesn't understand now, she'll never understand. Drop her like Wilma's barometric pressure and use the money you would have spent on her to get Rockets season tickets...maybe you'll hook up with a woman that understands...

 

First of all, eventhough there are things that girls spend time and money on that I don't fully fathom, I can't think of many cases where it compares to male sports obssession. Kind of reminds of that scene in fever pitch, where the main characters goes from saying it was the "best day of his life" after spending the day with his gf, to saying it was the "worst day of his life" after he discovered he missed a classic game played by his team. I actually, don't think that's too far off for a lot of guys out there...me included. So, I think expecting a girl who's not all that into sports to begin with to easily accept that sort-of-thing isn't really fair.

Some snide remarks here and there is to be expected, and if you like the girl maybe you should just let her vent every once in a while. The playoffs will be over in a week-and-a-half and then I'm sure your sports jones will die down a little, and then everything will be okay. Although, I kind of agree with Jeff, in that she seems to have more of a negative opinion and cluelessness about sports than most girls I've come in contact with. If it gets to the point where she just absolutely cannot tolerate it, you're just going to have to ask yourself the age-old question. What's it gonna be, woman or sports?

 

A-Train has a wife; maybe there's hope for me yet.

 

She better be really f'ing hot if she's going to be throwing off that much tude.

Otherwise I would have kicked her to the curb long ago.

 

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d-u-m-p her a-s-a-p.

 

Not to rub it in, buy my wife was in tears after the 27th out last night.

Seriously, though. It sounds like she has no respect for something that you care about. My wife generally isn't a big fan of sports, but she loves the fact that I am because that's part of what makes me who I am. Knowing that I love to watch the Astros, Rockets, and Texans (well, I watch, but not loving it!), she doesn't mind me going out with friends and occasionally joins us. Of course, I don't take advantage of it and we spend a lot of quality time together. I also encourage her to do the things that she loves to do, even if it means we don't spend as much time together.

Basically, it boils down to respect. She doesn't seem to have it for you. I'm not going to tell you to dump her or not because I think it's silly that you would actually base your decision on this board. However, I think this is something that won't go away without you discussing it with her.

 

Technically... she's right.

** ducks and runs **

 

About what?

 

Is she good in bed? If so, keep her...If not, dump her...You can always find a sports girl that understands...