Been dating a girl for over 8+ years who graduated recently from a master's program (out of state). Her dad is not fond of me at all and refuses to acknowledge the relationship. So I couldn't attend the grad because her dad said he wont come if I go. Of course she chose her dad and I sat at home. To make things worse, she took him to one of our fav restaurants after the grad. Her relationship with her dad is not all that great (or so I thought). He paid her tuition, but never visited or even called her. Would you have insisted on going?
You should have gone, stayed in the back, and not let anybody know you were there. Then you could tell her after the fact.
Kinda odd that you say she has a bad relationship with her dad and you've been dating her for over 8 years yet she doesn't want you to be a part of a such a monumental moment in her life as her grad school graduation.... I would be very weary of that and have a good talk with her. If that's a trend that's going to continue in life I would GTFO as quick as I could.
While I don't think going to the graduation itself is actually a big deal, it stands for something more. Where does she think this relationship is going? And where and how do you fit into it going forward? While you never want to get between a girl and her family, if you want to get married at some point, you will be her family. There has to be some hierarchy and you have to be at the top.
ugh. i def should have gone..and if he saw me after, it's not like he could have did anything. She said if I had such a problem with it, why didnt I mention it before I agreed to not go? I said of course I was going to tell you to make the decision...I just thought you would pick me.
<br> I don't necessarily think the graduation is a huge thing either as the importance varies from person to person. But the underlying problems of the situation seem to be something worth seriously considering for the OP.
ya. I am having my doubts now. When she texted me after grad and said oh everything was good, we went to eat at so and so..i just gave her a thumbs up. she asked oh that's all you have to say? I said clearly if it was that important of an event to you..I would have been there. She was like oh I am sorry you couldn't come..but I thought we already discussed it. We are both in our mid to late twenties. Marriage is something we talk about often. The problem right now is her dad. At this point he is saying he is not coming and he doesn't want to anything to do with such a marriage. that's in limbo. probably us considering he might not even come.
I don't think skipping it is a big deal. I think the bigger issue is probably how you go 8 years and neither marry nor break-up.
Is he mad because his daughter is with someone who posts pics of asses and boobs on a basketball forum? (No but seriously please don't stop that.) As someone else said, girls with daddy issues can be a nightmare.
Odd that someone would pay for school but never call? He doesn't even know his daughter and definitely doesn't know you. I'm guessing he doesn't like you for your religion or interracial relationship?
he doesn't like our family because he thinks they are not good enough. ONLY key diff between our families..he is highly educated..my dads not. moms cancel each other out. sister cancel each other out. as far as me..i am not the tall 6ft DR he is looking for. sh** that doesn't matter.
