Most of the vets know about my psycho ex. She tried to pull another fast one on me yesterday. She told me that she was filing for an increase in child support, and since it's been three years, she "had" to file. She probably thinks I'm not familiar with Texas family law, but from what I understand, she doesn't "have" to file. Only if, basically, she wants to squeeze me for more bucks. I figure she's doing this because her new husband also pays child support and has recently taken on a job which pays more than his previous job. He's probably getting hit for more support, so I guess she figures she can offset by getting the money from me. Mind you, since I started paying child support, she has managed to put herself through college(increasing her base salary), buy a new car, and take some nice vacations. So, she is making more money than me, but still wants more. Fine...the joke is on her. When I went through the divorce, I had a higher salary than I do now. I was coaching 2-3 sports that added an extra $4-5,000 to my salary each year. After the divorce, I stopped coaching to get back on my feet and spend the limited time I had available with my son. No coaching = lesser salary. Texas family law states that unless there is a change of more than $100.00 per month or 20% in the difference of what I had to pay then compared to what I should pay now, there will be no change. Well, after doing the math, the child support won't change more than $60.00. If I'm not mistaken, she will have to wait another 3 years to file again. Then I turned the tables...I told her that I would be filiing my annulment paperwork within the next 2 weeks. She went ballistic!!! She said she would fight it and deny it...how arrogant. She tried to lie to me that she had spoken to the Father at my church about it. I asked which Father she spoke to and she couldn't even describe him. She demanded to know which grounds I would be using. I told her that it was confidential between me and the church. It was driving her NUTS that I wouldn't tell her. I finished by telling her to do her research, because she seems to think that annulling our marriage makes my son illegitimate. I figure I'll be posting up events as they develop. I figure, she might try to pull some standard custody strings on me. As it is, I see my son 3 times every week since we divorced in '01. If she tries to change now, I'll have to take her to court to show what visitation schedule my son has become accustomed too. What a headache.
Man I totally feel your pain. We have to deal with my husband's ex and all of this crap! Why is she against the annulment if she is remarried? Annulments are headaches. My husband and I tried to go through the process to annul his previous marriage in the church (which she isn't even catholic anymore!!! ) so that we could marry in the church....forget it. If you know of any tips to make it easier let me know!!!! EDIT: I missed the part about her thinking your son would be illegitimate...wow...
I was going to ask you what didn;t help your cause. Don't get me wrong, I will just be truthful and honest, but if I can get an idea reasons DON'T work, I can maximize my time looking at good annulment reasons.
Oh no we didn't get that far. He gave up during the paperwork. I don't blame him. I mean why would they need to know about the ex's childhood!? Maybe they have streamlined it since we last tried. But I would think that her not even being catholic anymore would be a good reason in my case. It doesn't sound like you could use that reason though. What reasons have you come across?
................and still think of ways to try to get more Please shoot me if I get divorced and end up like that. I can't even understand that!!!!
Rocketman95... where are you...? Dude, that's GOLD shiznit you just said right there, FT. If you make time for the boy and still have time to do your Sally stuff, more power to you, man.
Just our of curiosity, what does the annulment do? Meaning, why would she care? It totally sucks for the good men who actually want to support their kids...Wouldn't be a bad thing if I knew the $$ went directly to the kids... I feel your pain...My ex is constantly pulling sh*t and its only affecting our kids...My ex has since re-married but continues to want more...Unfortunatley, its all about the money...Weird thing is, she has been nice the past couple of weeks, so I know somthing is up... This weekend, the kids only had the clothes on their back...She doesn't pack crap for them...It totally sucks, luckily I have bought some stuff and kept it at my place, but still, totally ridiculous...She pulled the CPS crap amongst other stuff...Let me know how it goes...
Aside from her being f'in nuts? Truth be told, I don't think we were prepared to support each other's lifestyle. We hadn't lived together first, and she wanted to be Mrs. party all the time, while I was a workaholic and liked the quiet home life. This all became undearable after the birth of our child. I guess it was there all along, but it didn't fully manifest itself until after that.
If you believe that, I can believe that you are a good reason to not have kids. No offense, but I'd give everything for my son.
