I had a co-worker today go out of her way, in a project that she was in no way involved, come into my room and tell me that I need to do something a certain way. Then, she proceeded to take it from me, and finish it her way. Now, the lady in question has been working where I work for 35 years, but she needs to learn that her way may not be the best way every time. I could have finished the thing my way, with much less hassle, causing less problems. It's hard to really explain without going into too many details, but I totally lost respect for this co-worker today (what little respect I had for her). She then proceeded to go around the office running her mouth to everyone, basically saying that I didn't know how to do my job properly. I almost punched her old a** in the mouth. Just kidding, but it's the angriest a co-worker has ever made me. Anyways, let's use this thread to blow off a little day-time (or night-time )steam.
Next time ask her if she's gaining weight. Ask a man this, he probably pats his belly and says 'I like beer.' Ask a woman this, her self-confidence turns into self-doubt and spirals downward day by day until she cries herself to sleep every night.
Rise above it, dude. Always try to maintain a positive and professional demeanor in the office in front of other people. And document, document document everything to cover your ass. If she does it again, your gonna have to fight back, but never do it where others can see. Slap a magnet on the bottom of her laptop or pee in her coffee. If she brings her lunch, take her sandwich and wipe your butt with it. The devious possibilities are endless.
We need pics of her, this won't work without pics. Haha. I feel sorry for you because when people act immaturely, it's hard not to fight back in the same way. I'm not sure what to say other than you're feelings are well founded.
befriend her. give her a peace offering. like a gift basket. you know...geritol, metamucil, ginsing, depends...
Several months ago, I wrote an excel macro for a group here at the office to use on a report they generate. I was given crappy direction and only one set of test data. No biggie - I don't really get stressed about that kind of thing. However, I warned them, repeatedly to run it against other data sets to test and make sure I covered all the possible variations. They didn't. Fast forward over three months and they have just now started to test it. Surprise, surprise, it has issues - because of the aforementioned lack of planning and direction. As I warned them. I'm on another project now with some considerable responsibility. Thanks to their lack of planning I have to find time (more like, on my own time ) to fix this damn thing. Jerks.
Wow I did not plan on making this a nightly thing, BUT... I had a modified Church League softball game tonight. I am the starting catcher. By modified, it means, there's no speed limit, but you can only bring your arm up to a certain height (can't turn your wrist over). Pitches come in at about 20 - 30 mph, which is decent speed for softball. Anyways, so I was catching great tonight, and our team was up by 6. Our manager decided to put in a guy that doesn't play a ton at catcher. The guy is a very nice guy, but this is his first season playing softball. So, I go to right field, and this guy comes in to catch. He missed like the first 5 or 6 pitches. Well, no big deal. Nobody on base. He's not allowing any runs. It's a for-fun league anyways. Well, not so good for our other outfielders. They were sitting there, blasting on the guy. Saying how worthless he was. How he couldn't catch anything. How bad he sucked. Etc. Etc. They weren't as nice as I about it though. I didn't say a thing. So the outfielders start yelling to the manager to take him out and put me back. So he does it. After only about 6 pitches, and all of our fielders talking a bunch of mess about the kid. The thing that makes me mad is that the kid's girlfriend was sitting in the stands, and happened to be right next to my girlfriend. They were both in full ear shot of our left fielder, who was the loudest. My girlfriend said tis other kid's girlfriend was in tears by time they subbed him out. When the game ended, she told him everything, and they both left the field very upset. Said they would never come back again. I didn't really hear this, or I would have tried to say something. I am thinking that a friend of mine will know this kid (they either graduated from a tiny high school together, or were a class apart). So, tomorrow, I'm going to try and find the kid's phone number and give him a call and apologize on behalf of my teammates. I think I might possibly invite him and his girlfriend out on a double date or something too. I just feel horrible for this kid. Bah, my teammates are decent guys, but they can be rude sometimes. They'll criticize at the drop of a hat.
I noticed baseball and basketball church leagues can get just as vicious as any pick-up game, if not worse. I feel bad for the guy. I think you apologizing will make him feel like a bigger piece of crap. Just call him on the cool, and invite him to do something else, that doesnt require him catching.
See, I thought about this. I'm not sure if it would make him feel worse, or if it would make him feel better knowing that there's at least someone on the team that doesn't think he's a piece of crap because he had a hard time catching a ball. To be completely honest, half of it was the pitcher's fault anyways. She was bouncing everything in front of the plate at that point. When I went back into the game, I think I allowed one or two runs on passed balls. I didn't have any passed balls before they took me out. I contribute it to a fatigued pitcher.... Anyways, they say it's church league, but there's only like 3 or 4 members of the team that are church regulars...
dude next time remind her that you were given that project, and while you will consider (obvious lie to be nice) her advice, you were left to complete it. after that if she tries something again you have to go to your boss.
