Ok, here's the deal...prom is next Saturday, the 17th. I'm going with a girl that I'm close friends with...we kinda got reacquainted after a couple of years with no classes together over spring break in LA. We both know we like each other, and we've been really open about discussing feelings etc...it's been really great. We both decided that we should build up friendship and wait on anything else, based on fairly recent past experiences for the both of us...plus she is a freakin genious work-a-holic and she is trying to maintain her gpa for graduation (we're both seniors). That's not really what I wanted to talk about, just thought I'd give some background info...but since we may end up really dating (i say really because right now people see us together a lot and assume it), or at least trying it out and seeing what happens, I want to make prom night as memorable as possible...and no I'm not going for what most men would think I'm going for. Reading that...it looks like I was going to ask a really serious question, but It's not really that big of a deal. See I already know I want to show up at her house that night before we leave with a dozen roses for her...a while ago we discussed white roses w/ red tips, and I'm working on getting those (probably have to get them ordered) to surprise her. This will also be the first time I meet her parents...her dad keeps pretty tight control over her from what I understand, but really who's doesn't. I'm not really worried about that. I want to show up with roses for her mom too...don't know if I should do another dozen or just a few or single, so someone help me out here. I just thought it would be nice and I know she'll like that. We also got a 6 person limo...but only 2 couples. The 5th person's date is having to meet up later, and the 6th person is one of my date's best friends, and she is going dateless. Not that she probably couldn't get a date, because she's a really cute girl...but I guess she just decided that if the person wouldn't be anyone "meaningful" per say, that she might as well just go and have fun w/ friends. So I thought maybe I'd get her roses too (once again how many - dozen, a few, or a single?)...but then I thought that she'd think I felt sorry for her because she didn't have a date, which I really don't if it was her choice. Now I would ask my date these questions, but that would kind of ruin the surprise...so I'm turning to you guys . So what I'm really asking is how many roses are appropriate for her mom and how many/if any for her dateless friend. It looks a lot more complicated than it is. Once again I'm just trying to do something nice, that I know she'll like...I'm not doing it just to try and "get some" or whatever at the end of the night. I can already tell you thats not gonna happen...she's not just someone I'm using as a date and for afterwards getting smashed at a party or something. Oh and btw, I'm already spending an a$$load of money, so I'm not even worried about that. Thanks in advance for any help...
In my opinion, I wouldnt get the roses for the friend or the mom. I've never heard of it. But do want you want I suppose.
I would, 1. Prove to her that I can do a keg stand or shotgun a beer first. 2. Wear a light blue or pink tux. 3. Write a poem to her that informs her how hot her mom is. 4. Tell her about this site and your name on here. 5. Bring a sheet to dinner and claim your napkin is better(she'll love that) 6. Eat at a nicer than Deny's restuarant and claim your not paying when the bill comes. 7. Buy her cheap tequilla and yourself some nice cold Budweiser.
seriously, I have to say no flowers for the mom and no flowers for the dateless woman. Be polite, but if you do these extra things you move further from the rough-and-tumble-does-he-maybe-own-a-big-motorcycle-or-private-airplane devil-may-care ideal that every woman secretly harbors for her date. In short, you will come across as way too nice. In fact, flowers for other family members may look downright psychotic. appendix: if the dateless companion suffers from Down's Syndrome, it would actually be appropriate to bring her something like a flower or a paddle-ball game or some LSD. appendix2: if the mother suffers from Down's Syndrome, you should ask yourself some hard questions about this family. Don't get her flowers either way though. Have a fun prom!
B-Bob Has teaching in college turned you mentally unstable, or have you always just been weird? Oh, wait, most college professors are weird . Seriously you scare me at points and crack me up at others. Sorta like the Dr Jekyll/Mr Hyde personality split. And DHR, Do what you want. These guys don't have any better answers than you on this issue. It's your prom, do things the way you want to. Live it up, so you'll never forget it.
Yeah, I don't really want to scare anybody at all. That's honestly the last thing on my mind. I do have a love for the absurd though. What are the other times I scared you? I don't *really* look much like Anthony Perkins, for what it's worth. By the way, all jokes aside, I still think flowers for the mom are a little too much. But you could present some flowers as a gift to the household; I can see that working. Make it a moderate number -- seriously, an enormous arrangement can be a bother to someone.
You can seem psychotic with some of your posts B-Bob, but now I'll chalk it up to the average college teachers quirky side, that keeps them from going insane teaching adults who have better things to do than listen to them.
Wow DHR, your prom date and situation with her sounds eerily like mine was. Honestly, I think if you're going to get her mom flowers, don't get very many and get something other than roses. Not only is it cheaper, it... uhh... well, I'm sure I had some other reasoning behind it. I also don't think you should get anything for her friend, just 'cause I can see that turning into something that would be interpreted wrong. Of course, you know far better than I do how your friends are going to react to stuff like that, so I think if you just go with your gut it'll be no big deal. That's my final answer - do what you think you should do. If you want a guaranteed winner, though, I understand that autographed Santo Wilton baseballs are quite the hot item these days.
Thanks for the help fellas. I'm thought about it more, and maybe i'll get a single rose for her mom...I don't think so for the friend though, maybe if I was a little bit better friends with her, but after all she's pretty much just an acquaintance, although she has helped me out, especially when my date and I first started talking. A corsage is a little much for the friend I think ... then it'll look like I have 2 dates, haha. Eerrily similiar, huh Zac? Well don't tell me how yours ended up in the long run, unless it's good, lol. BTW, happy B-day Mr. commish. With all due respect to Castor, I think we all miss your OOTP commish skills already. Baqui, I've got to admit that was hilarious. I thought I'd be pissed when I read the first response that talked about getting "rewarded" so to say...but I couldn't help but laugh.
I've never heard of getting something for the girl's mom before and since you've never met her mom, it makes it that much weirder (is this a word). As for the dateless cute friend who helped you out, just give her a box with my number in it: 867-5309. Seriously, since she's been helping you out, get her something as a thank you, but not on Prom night, just get her a CD or DVD she wants and be like "thanks for your help." That also lays the groundwork for something incase things don't work out with your girl. I'm surprised when people don't get B-bob's humor. Man, it'd be cool to have a prof like him, though I bet he's a harsh grader and mean to his students.
Heh, like I said (i think i said), i'm sure this girl could've gotten a date if she really wanted to. She may just be content the way it is, and rather not go with someone she doesn't know that well. And I'm not looking to lay any "groundwork" for later, just in case. That would be too weird first of all, say nothing happens with my girl and I end up going after the friend shortly thereafter. I did say she was cute...but I can't say that I'm really attracted to her.
Personnaly I wouldn't offer the friend anything,coz it might make you look like you keep your options open in the mind for your futur(?) girl-friend,and whe'd keep having a doubt. Also,don't offer roses to the mother because you want to make this girl feal special(the only one receiving flowers). Finally,as for the number of roses,I'd offer her one where she opens the door(again makes it feal like a special thing) and would use either roses(the whole thing or just the petals) to fill the limo(be sure to be the first to use it!).I'd make the first one red and the others white. ALA
I don't have much of an opinion, except that I also try too much to do something nice for everyone in certain contexts. Knowing this about myself, I try to default on the conservative when facing such dilemmas. I hope you have a blast. As you stress over preparations, don't forget when the time comes to just let things go and have a good time. Ultimately, it's the people/company that matter.
hmmm, how would heyp put this. DHR - "The Babe" likes to point out his shot, he always points to the left. But Babe never gets to home base more than 60 times a year on one swing. You will have to hit a lot of singles, make unassisted double plays, but never steal the bases, or you'll be caught by the "center fielder", then the "manager" will come out and get into a fight with the "umpire" (the umpire by the way only lets you go at it once, then he tosses you, if you get my drift.) once you make the solo homer, if you pace along the bases, you won't get there as fast, but if you hit a grand slam, remember this, three other guys have reached home plate before you even got to 3rd base! hope this helps.
