PARENTING QUESTION: How would you handle that Ms Delaware situation

Chastity Belt and a Shotgun.

 

I thought she doesn't have a family? Or she was raised in a foster home from age 12-18(?)

I feel sorry for her.

 

How would we "deal" with it? "Handle" it??? If she were 18, she'd be an adult, already aware of her responsibilities and what she does comes with consequences. If she lived on her own, let her deal with it on her own, but if living still at home, disappoint son and make her live on her own and suffer consequences.

 

No dating til you're married.

 

Google Mia Malkova/Madison Swan. She brought her mom to one of her first scenes and had her mom watch the whole thing. That was awkward but I managed to get through it.

 

Yes, because they still my kid.

 

Well, if you kick her out, at least she doesn't have the excuse that she can't find a job?

 

That would BLOW, yes. Well played, sir.

 

Pretty sure if that were my daughter (I am 23, so lets assume I am like 45 when this happens) I would know that I have FAILED at being a good parent.

If that were the case and indeed I had failed at being a good parent. I would immediately try and nip the problem in the bud, and repair my parenting influence as much as possible. Hard to change impact of parenting after a certain age btw.

 

Send them to Pakistan. Lock them up. Jk

 

Pre-emptive strike, you gotta iron down them boobers early.

 

Good parenting is done to prevent things like this from happening. If you are asking after the fact, then it is probably too late and you have failed as a parent.

 

The Delaware girl said she needed the money at the time.

I will never raise my child thinking that she could never ask me for money. I'll also make sure see knows that somethings are priceless like dignity and self respect.

 

I would probably feel like I had failed as a parent as well, but that may not even be the case. Even as young kids, your children have their own volition, and there are sometimes influences you cannot control too. There are kids who turn out okay despite bad parenting, and kids who turn out badly despite good parenting. This case seems like somewhere in the middle and may or may not have anything to do with how she's raised.

But, it would be tremondously sad for me, especially since there isn't really much you can do to help at that point. You can do plenty to make things worse -- throwing her out of the house being one -- but it's mostly on her to learn from her mistakes and overcome her adversities.

 

She was a foster kid so I am guessing her parents weren't around much.

 

I guess at this point you just have to be honest with her and tell her if she is going to do this, she can't be a dead fish.

 

I think the question is more geared towards asking what you would do AFTER the fact. In that case, simply saying, "I would teach her better, so it would never happen." is not a valid answer.

Once it's actually happened, I would probably just help her get her life back in order by helping her find a good job, or helping her enroll in school for further education. These kinds of things blow over with time, but in the moment, she's going to have to pay the consequences of her actions, as unfortunate as that might be. She made an adult decision by going forward with the movie....and living with your actions is part of being an adult. I would also hope that she would understand that doing this for something like MONEY should never have crossed her mind. Money is something my kids will always be able to come to me for....especially when they are in dire need.