Oh, Oh...Now What?? (Update on my Woman Situation) - Need Advice

keep showing her what a genuine person you are...have fun going out with her...keep your mind open about dating other people, as well.

 

Manny,
Ignore this other chump. You will eventually need to tackle the problem of the girl wanting too much attention, but save that until you have her firmly under your grasp. YOU ARE THE MAN. Take what is rightfully yours.

CASE CLOSED

 

It's healthy to date up to three people at a time. That way you don't get that love bug until you really know her. Otherwise you will end up thinking she is the end all be all because you want to win her. But if you have options, that allows the both of you to pick the best person to form a relationship with. I'd say make her a very good friend and see what happens.

 

hire a guy to tell her that this other guy thinks her r****ded brother is holding them back. if she doesnt have a r****ded brother, get one for her. case closed.

 

Call up Tanya Harding and get the number of her tire iron service.



DD

 

If you are interested in her, keep seeing her, but do not keep yourself from seeing other people. You really need to take your time with her. Have fun, go out, enjoy each others company, do the nasty if you both can keep it together, just don't get caught up in the emotion until you know you are the only one she wants.

 

Well, the good thing is that she's being honest and up front with you. She could have gone on seeing both of you and made a decision to drop either of you.
Now, in courting this lady, remember that all is fair in love and war. If you really want to win her affection, do what you have to win her. You can almost guarantee that the other guy will be doing the same.
She has said that she likes a lot of attention. BE WARY! You have to take into consideration that this my infringe on the bachelor (sports) lifestyle. I understand you enjoy watching sports. There may come a time when you may be asked to choose between shopping with her and watching what others may construe to be a "trivial" game.
Be who you are with her, but know that you may fall into the "friend zone" never being able to escape it. In trying to win her over, be careful that you don't do things that she would "expect" you to do once the "honeymoon" period is over. I used to help my ex clean her parents house. Of course, this while I was winning her over. After I stopped, I never heard the end of it.
Be yourself, and do what you think is right. Therre never really is a right answer to this kind of situation. Good Luck.

 

If all else fails, I think A-train has a friend who can help you out.

 

Off the other guy. Then, it's clear sailing.
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That's a joke, Manny. Good luck...whatever you do. I would hate to be in that situation where she could go either way. She needs to make a decision rather than string two guys along until she feels she can make a decision. Otherwise, your seeing a girl who's seeing someone else? How fun is that? This is like a preview for Bachelorette .

 

well calling me at 6:15 in the morning would pretty much be strikes one, two, and three against somebody if i knew them and their house wasn't currently on fire but this doesn't seem to bother you and you seem to like her. not that i have any experience with this situation but i don't see how it's gonna turn out good, which sucks. this dynamic just does not seem to set itself up well for success for any of the 3 of you. but what do i know.

 

Manny - oddly enough, I am going through similar things right now with a girl I like. more and more I realize I am going to be you in 10 years.

Just please tell me what I shouldn't do in the next decade.

 

Stop buying CDs. Right NOW.

 

and stay away from curious hair gels. thank you.

 

The first time I read about this I thought it was kind of odd, but its almost like a train wreck, you just have to satisfy the curiosity and see what its all about.

That was the first thing that came to my mind. Hang in there and this guy will slip up. I think the only thing he has over you is time. That can, however, work in your favor as well.

She knows what he can be like and that he tends to drift away. If he is now interested in her b/c he thinks he may lose her then he is doing it for all the wrong reasons. She will see when he starts to drift off and will not stand for it as much as she has in the past.

All of that could be a moot point though, as once she gets to know you better as you continue to become closer, she may see what she is looking for in you and the other slug will be brushed aside.

Good luck and keep us all informed.

 

I saw this thing on the internet one time...

It looked like they were all having a good time.

 

Tell that other guy that you want to meet him at the Methodist College football locker room!
CLICK to Understand

 

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nevermind, I read the time of day wrong.

 

I don't know Manny. I hate to be a downer, but it just doesn't sound that promising to me. She's pretty much made it clear that she likes this other guy, but he hasn't reciprocated until just now. I'm afraid she may keep stringing you along as a back-up, just in case guy #1 doesn't work out. You deserve better than that.

Since you've only been out with her a couple of times, it might be best to cut your losses, bow out now and move on to more promising situations. I know you like her, but it'll be easier to get out now than when you're smack in the middle of some tangled love triangle six months down the road.

I don't know, this may be a gender thing. Most of the guys here seem to think you should fight for her, and that's certainly an option. I just know that I wouldn't be able to handle divided affections from a romantic partner. I'd rather not be in a relationship than be constantly wondering who my partner liked better.

Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck.

 

I guess its just what you feel comfortable with. Personally, I'm not into dating multiple people b/c its just too exhausting and time-consuming. Handling one woman is tough enough for me, I can only imagine the struggles I'd have with dealing with more!

but seriously, as long as you don't mind that she's seeing another guy and you don't limit yourself from dating other women, AND you're comfortable with the entire situation, than go for it man! have fun, but take it slow. i wouldn't get too attached to someone who has multiple partners.

good luck and keep us updated. remember, some of us are living vicariously through your tantalizing tales of ti... ah, never mind!