I am 16 years old and there is a girl that i really like , (i'm really attractive and i have a good body but still my self esteem is 0 ) the point is that i'm not the type of guy that knows how to deal with rejection and everytime that i try to talk with a nice looking girl i am getting choked and say something stupid or nothing at all , i see lots of girl looking at me (she also ) but thats about it .The biggest problem is that with everything that related to girls i am the biggest loser in the world. Another problem is that we do not have anything in common and we only have one class together and i know it sounds pathetic (it really is ) but i have no idea how to start a conversation with her . Any tips would be welcomed
Maybe your too conceded. Sh*t, oops. Ummmmmm... Uhhhh... Try being really nice to her. The only thing that beats good looking really nice guys is really funny good looking guys(I have a sister). And you dont seem to be a funny guy.
You can't deal with rejection?? Get over it. Some might agree with me that the secret to life is how we deal with rejection. Dating, like so many other things in life, is a numbers games. The more women you ask out, the more you will hear "NO". Fortunately, those "NOs" will be peppered with many "OKs". So, get out there and thrive on rejection. Remember, those who hear women say "NO" the most are the guys getting laid the most.
Little bro, just shoot the **** with her. I mean just talk to her like you would any of your friends(eliminating the lude stuff, unless she has the mouth of a sailor). Don't worry about trying to impress her. I guarantee if you just be yourself, as you normally carry yourself, you'll do fine.
Re-Enforcing behavior. The only way that you break being the biggest looser in the world is to stop calling yourself the biggest looser in the world. Look, unless they're so young that they just don't get it, chicks know that you want to drop the hammer on'em, and you know what? There Rockets fans, (ie they want the home team to score.) Don't try and be coy, yer not gonna casualy slide from aquantance to significant other when she's not looking. You can't ease into it. The best way to let someone know your intrested in them is to ask them questions about themselves. If you talk about yourself, they'll think you're trying to impress them or really self absorbed. If you ask intelligent questions based on what you know of them they'll think you care or something. Even better, when you ask questions, you just drop the question, get out of the way and let them talk. This'll make it easier if your nervous. If you can't think of anything else, ask about the class, why they're taking it, what they're going to do next, etc. There specific 'tells' that women are geneticaly compelled to show if they're intrested. Things like smiling (duh), the ol' hair flip (shows the monkys has good grooming/parenting skills), sitting up attentively (make her chest look bigger). If she has a big ol' crush on you she may look coyly to the ground & smile. Sustained eye contact is good... it's subtly intimate without being overtly sexual or forcefull. If she's not intrested, unless she's some sort of psychopathic ho, she's going to let you know as gently as possible, and then she'll forget the whole thing, or be flattered. Your the only one who'll feel any embarasment so get over it. It's not personal, cause she doen't even know you. The bottom line, as with everything in life, is if you don't ask you definately can't have it, so what's to loose. Prentend your a skydiver jumping out a plane for the first time, or getting a lame job at a used car lot. Attack. Go for the kill.
Say one thing: " I wanna meet you in the worst way, can we talk sometime?" After that EVERYTHING will be easy. You know she has some attraction to you. A bit of genuine flattery is endearing. Once you've been that bold.... ONCE... everything else for the rest of your life will be easier. Try it.
rich -- good advice! confidence grows each time you realize you're not the loser you think you are today. i know rejection is scary, but it's not scarier than being alone for the rest of your life! once you muster up the courage to ask a girl out the first time, it gets easier. good luck!
tell her.... "i bet you look almost as good as me naked" also... maybe she's gay so dont even risk it.
Make up your mind. Do you consider yourself attractive or do you have no self esteem? You can only choose one there buddy. And what's with you stealing my user name punk?
well how i see it is... all girls are gay (except me now) so im just warning you guys. and ill just say "you're welcome" ahead of time
Hmmmm, something seemed not right about that post. Francis, you and I are under similar circumstances. I can't spell worth a ****, and you can't figure out how to talk to a girl. Oh, wait.............. ahhh, well, there is no reason for her to turn you down unless your just lying to us about your looks. ARE YOU LYING TO US? HUH? HUH?
Walk up to her and say: "My name is Francis_Rules. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents." If that doesn't work, try converting to Latvian Orthodox.
