Guys, About a month ago, I was approached by this girl, who will remain nameless, on myspace. Mind you, I never have really met but two people off the internet before, so I was a little reluctant. I thought, especially for guys, she may have been this p*rn bot or something, one of those "add me to your profile, and check out my sexy pics...blah blah blah" but she was actually real. She lives not too far from me, she is very attractive, and has alot of things going for her. So I was like, wow, why not go for it. First things first, we exchange emails through myspace for a while, and this girl gets really GUNG HO about things. She is texting me like 100+ times a day for like 4 days, and she keeps asking me to meet up. So I finally agree to meet up with her....she comes over to my house and we watch a couple of movies, time comes around for her to go, and I walk her to her car, give her a hug and she plants a fat one on me. I was like, wow....not bad. Kinda gave me a buzz you know? Well we start making this a regular occurance, we end up going out for the next 5 days straight, until finally druken urges take over and we end up messing around. Well we do this again the following night, and she seemed to rather enjoy it. She ends up coming over a few days later to eat dinner with me, we watch another movie, she falls asleep for a while, then decides she needs to go home because she has busy stuff to do the next day. Then BOOM....the girl drops off the face....she ends up calling me over to her house last Saturday to stay the night with her, and I do so...nothing happens in the evening, but the next morning rolls around and we kinda mess around a little bit more. I get my things and leave, and I have only heard from her once this week. Mind you, this is a fresh "relationship" if you wanna call it even that, but maybe I have given enough info here for you guys to help me figure out what the hell is going on. She says she is really busy with work and preparing for other things she has to do, but girls sometimes say that brush you off their back. I really have not pushed the issue much with this girl, but I wont lie I am interested in her. I have reservations about everything due to my ex-from-hell, and it makes me analyze everything. Do you guys think she really is busy? Was this just a fling? Does she possibly have a boyfriend, and I am just some stupid sap on the side? Should I just let it go and drop it? Or am I being too stupid due to my gun shy attitude about women? The BBS is the greatest thing in the world, and I appreciate all of your input.
Umm.. Question 1: how old is she? Age could have a LOT to do with it. This could be just a fling or an attempt to get back at any number of people or _______.
I apologize to you if I don't seem real eager to jump into a forced awkward intimate situation that people like to call dating. I don't like the feeling. You're sitting there, you're wondering do I have food on my face, am I eating, am I talking too much, are they talking enough, am I interested I'm not really interested, should I play like I'm interested but I'm not that interested but I think she might be interested but do I want to be interested but now she's not interested? So all of the sudden I'm getting, I'm starting to get interested... And when am I supposed to kiss her? Do I have to wait for the door cause then it's awkward, it's like well goodnight. Do you do like that ass-out hug? Where you like, you hug each other like this and your ass sticks out cause you're trying not to get too close or do you just go right in and kiss them on the lips or don't kiss them at all? It's very difficult trying to read the situation. And all the while you're just really wondering are we gonna get hopped up enough to make some bad decisions? Perhaps play a little game called "just the tip". Just for a second, just to see how it feels. Or, ouch, ouch you're on my hair.
I'll get this out of the way: Worthless w/ out pics. My initial assumption? She might be a little needy/crazy w/ the frequent contact early on. I wouldn't expect this to be a good long term prospect. But the fact that she hasn't been in contact lately could mean she was looking for a fling. But I'd rather hear what the women hear have to say about that, because I always feel like I picked a number out of a hat when I'm guessing why women ________.
So you havent boned her yet? make the move dude! maybe she isnt as available because she isnt getting it she sounds a little crazy, with the excessive texting and being overly anxious to meet. BUt, hit it a few times and bolt
Sounds like maybe you need to take it to the next level or let it go. Here's a plan: instead of just "hanging out", invite her to a real, pre-planned DATE. Dinner, drinks, dancing, the whole nine yards. If she seems amenable to it, sounds like you have the beginnings of a relationship. If she blows it off: move along, nothing to see here.
sounds like she has a bf or dating someone else. if i wer u, id just enjoy wat u have now and dont ask questions, and dont get attached.
Dump her ass dude. Dont call, text, email, write letters, send telegrams - nothing. If she calls you, tell her you are busy and have big plans with the boys and you can't do anything. Girls want stuff they can't get, so be a playa. In the meantime, go out and meet some other chicks.....
If you meet a girl online, and she's really aggressive with the physical stuff, assume you're not the only one getting this treatment. Don't trust her until she proves herself. Some women are playas. Especially online, because the men they meet are not connected to the rest of their lives. It's like a sexual buffet, and nobody has to know. Otherwise, have fun and use protection!
Yup. Seems like she is really comfortable with the physical aspect of a relationship and ready for you to take things to the next level. The more you hold out, the less you will see of this girl. Some girls equate sex with you liking them. So if there is no sex, then she thinks you don't dig her.
Sounds very similar to something I had going with this chick. Met on facebook, we went out, texted and emailed like crazy for over a month. Just when I was about to get in, she spilled the beans and told me she had a boyfriend. She would have never told me had I not insisted on meeting her parents. Godamn women. Always out there to **** you.
I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's *really* hoping makes it happen. I want you to be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet. You're not sure where he's coming from. Okay? You're a bad man. You're a bad man, cwebbster. You're a bad man, bad man.
