Just cause I wanted to stay on the computer to listen to music and drink beer. We've been together for four years (living together for two years) and I truly love her but I feel that my individuality is being compromised due to her being so attached to my presence. She claims she cannot sleep without me by her side which destroys my plans to get drunk and enjoy some good tunes I downloaded. I'm not a bad guy; I am always with her and she is in control of our weekend plans. I am understanding of her and realize that she has abandonment issues. She cannot comprehend the fact that I need some guy time every now and then and is infuriated that I do not comply to her every need. It makes me feel like crap considering that I explain as rationally as possible that I will be to bed soon, just let me listen to this album. I work hard and pay for everything and she is sweet and funny but I get annoyed that she is breathing on my back when I do something on my own. Our apartment lease expires next year...I want to give up and live without her...but I do not want to break her heart. She sees me as the best guy that she has ever had...the nicest dude she has been with in all her life...I am angel to her parents and her brothers...they depend on me for so many things...I have become quite close with everyone in her family...Yet, I want to abandon everything because she does not let me be me...I sacrificed Rockets playoff games just to appease her...I have abandoned all my friends because she hates to get drunk and hang out....As soon as moving out of my parents house, I moved in with her...I imagine how soothing it must be to live by yourself and away from the strict expectations and making plans around your significant other... How I have wished to wake up on a Sunday morning and get all pumped up for a Texans game...Instead of wondering what my wife will want to do...More than likely go shopping for crap..or visiting her mom...yet my mom's house is too far...I wonder how it would feel to be alleviated from just living with someone else's feelings in mind... I type this while looking over my shoulder...I hate to make you think that my wife (Common Law Marriage) is a b itch. She has such great qualities and we share so many laughs. But I have already wanted to escape this relationship. I just want to be by myself and let me decide for once what I will do on the weekend. I guess the biggest obstacle in me breaking up with her is seeing her cry...She has told me that she cannot be by herself...That she will not move back in with her parents if we ever break up...She acknowledges that she has issues....And she always compliments me on my ability to understand her and whatnot. Oh god, what do I do?
A wife who makes a guy take her shopping when there is an NFL game on is a heartless, cruel b**** who should never be in a relationship. Ditch the Ice Queen and find yourself a studio apartment and a good p*rn site.
That's tough man, I'm really sorry. All I can say is, if you're not happy, you're not happy. You need to think long and hard about whether you think it could eventually work for YOU, you can't just be giving 100% and getting nothing in return. If you can't be yourself with her...I don't know, it sounds like you're really having doubts, just keep searching. The worst thing that you could do is stay with someone you don't really love and then bring kids into the world...
All those reasons are why I can't get a relationship to last past 3yrs. Never gonna compromise either. Never compromise. Like Xavier says as he disintegrates in X-Men 3, never give in (or whatever he says). My last one ended as I chose all-star weekend over Valentines Day. Look to me for guidance, I am The Crusader.
I feel for you even though I haven't been through this myself. One thing I noticed is that you keep referring to this marriage as a "relationship". I think you shouldnt treat it as just another relationship. Marriage is a whole different ball game and its not something that you can just casually drop everything because you cant put up with it. My only suggestion is for you and her to sit down and have a serious talk. Telling her that if she actually loves you, she needs to take this seriously. Set up some compromises, start with something small so she can handle it such as "I want to go out with friends for dinner on friday nights". Then move to something more as she gets use to it. I dont think you should just run away from the situation. Although it sounds like you have tried to communicate with her, there are probably better ways of getting through to her. And you just have to keep trying. I dont think a marriage should be lost over a few rockets playoff games.
In all seriousness GTFO right now if you have even a single doubt and don't feel happy being smothered by her. Your whole sentence about "She sees me as the best guy ever and her family loves me, etc, etc" is almost verbatim to what happened to my best friend in the whole wide world. He hooked up with some whiny little drama queen and she sunk her claws into him quick. He totally chopped his balls off for her. Ditched all his friends. Was literally with her 24 hours a day. Within 8 months he was engaged and in over his head yet he didn't want to man up and do what needed to be done, kept thinking maybe she'd change. Plus he was a virgin and wanted to get some p***y, terrible, terrible, terrible reasons to stay with her. They've been married for 3 years now. 2 kids. They hate each other but they put on a happy face and keep up appearances. It makes me want to ****ing wretch when I see her smarmy little facebook statuses acting like they are the ****ing perfect little family. Saddest thing I've ever seen. Do what needs to be done. THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THIS IS YOUR LIFE
Youre doing all the work in the relationship, shes not. She needs to understand that things cant always go her way. If she cant understand that and change that about her then sorry....NEXT.
She kinda does...But I guess that's why I was so willing to forget about everything and row my boat to her siren's call.
Bull****. Megan Fox will get old and ugly some day. The right to watch a Rockets game whenever you want is a sweet freedom you will always cherish.
Relationships are about sacrifice...on BOTH ends. Looks like you are doing the work. Either talk to her and tell her how its going to be or move on. Life is way too short for nonsense like this.
Not wanting to see someone cry is not a good reason to stay with them. You'll eventually end up cheating or drinking like a fish during the few moments of freedom you have from her. Couples therapy or break up.
