Ok all you guys who post here and love to give helpful advice, here is the situation. My birthday is Sunday and my husband is leaving at 5:45 am to go to a boy scout summer camp for a week with my son. I did get a card from him, but no present, no dinner, no other acknowledgement that this is the last night he will be home before my birthday. I am upset and he can't figure out why. Just as a kicker, he did totally forget my birthday several years ago. My Dad called that night and wished me a happy birthday, my husband asked why my Dad called. I said to wish me a happy birthday - guilty look. So, what do I do? Just be upset or let him know that it really bothers me?
Be honest and let him know. I would want to know if I did something to bother my significant other. Him leaving for a week without knowing will only make things as your anger/sadness will continue to build up over that time period and it will probably be taken out on him or your kid(s). Let him know. We sure do have more women on this board than I initially thought
I would sit down and tell him that it hurts you that he has not acknowledged your birthday in a more meaningful way. Explain that maybe he doesn't care about having his birthday acknowledged but it is important to you. DD
Guys hate the mind games women play. We can't just magically read yalls mind. Yes he was wrong for not acknowledging it in a more meaningful way, but he wont just magically read your mind and know that, you need to talk to him and tell him.
The best thing you can do is not even mention it, if you know he loves you. Love knows no date. An aside: The high water mark of happiness is forgetting your own birthday.
Yes let him know. Don't make him guess. The sooner he knows where he messed up, the sooner he can go about making amends.
That would upset me. One thing men should automatically know is that "know, you shouldn't" really means "yes, I would really love something special." Do you do stuff for his birthday? Present, cake, etc? Just seems really unthoughtful on his part.
Actually, use this to your advantage: If he continues to forget your birthday, he won't realize you're aging, so he won't leave you!
His birthday was last month and he got a full weekend of special attention. He wanted homemade pies (including crusts) instead of a cake, we had king crab legs for dinner. He asked for and got some tools from Sears, plus, I got him a Mario Williams jersey (we have season tickets to the Texans). Plus he got, well nevermind, you can fill in the rest.
When I was first dating my wife, I let a Valentine's Day go by without buying her flowers. I knew it was Valentine's Day but I have a problem with the holiday, so I refrained on principle. My wife-to-be was not happy with my principled stand and let me know in no uncertain terms. Since then (and it's been over a decade), I have not let a Valentine's Day go by without getting her flowers, no matter how stupid and crooked I think the holiday is. Direct is good.
either have a talk with him and clear things up or release the wrath of hell on him for being an inconsiderate ass.
If you're upset, you've got to let him know. If he can't imagine why you're upset, then....is he stupid or what? If you went all-out for his birthday and he can't imagine why you'd be upset at his ignoring yours....hell, I don't know what to say about that. All I can say with any certainty is that stuffing negative emotions leads to resentment.
